Brian Mcnamee
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Hi I have seen this debate many times and lived through the same dilemma. If you look around you will find opinions from very legalistic to very freeing and those will be given by various pastors. I know that God is full of grace and say a women left her husband and openly committed adultery divorced and remarried another man and has some kids. The day she repents her sin though as crimson is as white as snow and God would have her and her whole household come to him and His will would be from then on that they would love and serve the Lord. David committed adultery and murder with Basheba and the law had no provision but stoning to death for those offenses. God accepted Davids repentance and called him a man after his own heart. David did sffer consequences of losing a child and no action is consequence free. Divorce is a serious issue and as God states in Malachi He hates divorce, because he desires Godly offspring. Divorce affects more than the two involved and adultery is one of the most painful experiences of betrayal one can experience.
God also says he who finds a wife finds a good thing and it is not good for man to be alone. There are a good many good women that have been divorced and especially the older you get. I would suggest that the 1st order is to have your own walk together. I mean if you are longing and lonely you are setting yourself up to potentially be co-dependent. If you come into a relationship already full of peace and purpose you bring that to the table with you and are not really seeking someone to make you feel better but sharing a full life you already possess. This is the environment we thrive best in.
God also says he who finds a wife finds a good thing and it is not good for man to be alone. There are a good many good women that have been divorced and especially the older you get. I would suggest that the 1st order is to have your own walk together. I mean if you are longing and lonely you are setting yourself up to potentially be co-dependent. If you come into a relationship already full of peace and purpose you bring that to the table with you and are not really seeking someone to make you feel better but sharing a full life you already possess. This is the environment we thrive best in.
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