One spouse
regularly and
routinely withholding can cause big problems in a marriage.
Not talking about an occasional rejection or saying no bec. of a headache or late hour, work night, etc., but to
ALMOST ALWAYS reject the other, that's clearly wrong and a violation of their marriage vows, IMO.
It's causing problems in my marriage.
Am not going to be a "doormat" anymore.
Am tired of being this
"Nice Guy" whose so concerned about her feelings and has held off -- even to the point of withdrawing early or while in cuddling and sex play, stopping just before consummation where could normally proceed as she drops her resistance....
Did that all bec. of her comfort and trying to show her I truly love her and care for her feelings more than my satisfaction, which I greatly need....
But it's clearly not getting me anywhere.
She never "reciprocates," meaning, she never says,
"Larry, I know you were worried about my comfort.
I love you and want you to satisfy me, so will try this weekend..."
There's NEVER time on the weekend and she forgets what I did earlier.
Stopped early a couple of times a month or so ago, but wasn't "thanked" or appreciated for that.
Methinks I was a little too timid in relationships when I was single as well, so am ending this hesitancy and will take it where it goes...
Am speaking up more and not putting-up with her deflecting my moves for no legitimate reason when otherwise any man, Christian wife or not, would've proceeded with his bride....