I didn't read his posts that way at all, especially because he's talking SPOUSES, not just wives. Husbands and wives both owe it to their spouses to devout time to them.
The response may have been worded in a gender-neutral way, but the reality--which I expressed in the way I worded my original statement-- is that when women began working more and more outside the home, men did
not, on average, step up to the plate and start chipping in more on housework and childcare. The end result has been, in our culture, that women tend to do a metric ton more overall work than men do.
You can word a description of that problem in gender-neutral terms if you want (and for individual cases, that may well be appropriate, as gender roles do often get blurred, reversed, or obliterated), but the average trend is definitely
not.
Yes, the problem IS gender-neutral; and please stop perpetuating a very hurtful, very inaccurate stereotype about the female sex drive just to make your rhetorical point.
What stereotype? That people who get run ragged often don't have energy to have sex? Don't think that's a stereotype.
And yes, the woman you describe needs to learn to live with a less tidy house, time-manage better with regard to her chores, etc., if having all those things done "her way" gets in the way of her marital duties to her husband.
Given that I was describing a family with fairly "traditional" gender norms, why would you assume that it's the woman demanding that things get done "her way" that results in this situation? Do men, in this sort of marriage, never come home and ask "So, what's for dinner?"
And again, I notice that "The man should help out more," has yet to occur to you.
There's no misogyny here. The Biblical standard goes both ways. A man who signs his kids up for every known sport, has tickets to every game in town, goes on business lunches and dinners every night, comes home and does yard work till dark, then does housework till bedtime, has no more right to refuse his wife than the overextended woman you describe. Your marriage, and the duties attendant to your marriage, are your first priority--and foremost among those duties is satisfying your spouse sexually.
Foremost? Really? Above, say, making sure that you have a place to live (by doing paying work, and by paying bills), making sure such a place is
fit to live in (by keeping it clean), making sure that your children are healthy (by feeding and caring for them)? Having sex is more important than simply maintaining a healthy life?
Also, I notice that you needed to introduce fun activities--like attending sporting events and going out to dinner-- to create a male character who is as harried as a female who simply does
what is traditionally expected of women in traditional marriages.