Mandy_S
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So, how does Jesus Freak improve his situation with his wife?
I was reading through his posts and this one struck me :
I have said her physical appearance does turn me off sometimes (t-shirt and gym shorts, most of the time), but also the watching of "The Batchelor", her recent drinking of Daquiri's, time spent texting(even when driving), Facebooking, not desiring to read the Bible or participate in any Bible study, all play a part in my trying to love her.
What is see here is this:
She has let herself go (no self worth/or attraction for the husband), When your attracted to someone, you want to look your best for them, so they will find you attractive as well.
Watching the bachelor (fantasy land), I presume that she either wishes she was hot woman that men found desirable (validation), she wishes she had a man who was charming/handsome/sexy/confident...etc
Drinking (escapism), She might be drinking to drown her guilt/shame, Regret over her relationship with God/Husband, or needing the liquor for "liquid courage" for flirting/cheating with men.
Texting (Either to her friends or a guy gaming her) I am sure she has been texting a guy friend. Doesn't make sense to me she would be texting a female friend non stop.
Facebooking (Attention) Facebook/Myspace is all about getting attention. And women love attention, primarily from the opposite sex.
And by not participating in the bible studies---what I see here is that she either doesn't respect her husband (that is obvious), so she doesn't take to his leading their spiritual life, or is committing a sin (cheating) so she is distancing herself from God.
Now what is he to do?
I think he needs to call her bluff, let her file for divorce.
I think that should be a last resort..If she insists on filing for divorce then there isn't much he can do about it..And the Bible instructs that if the spouse wants to leave, let them...However, if he is serious about wanting to save his marriage, he needs to continue to love her and show her so...Yes he does have the right as a husband to know where she is, who she is texting, etc... But he needs to go about these things in a loving way...even though that may be hard to do..He has the right to find these things out and confront her on them (away from the children)..But that also doesn't give him permission to treat her badly. If she was cheating (and I pray she isn't since we don't know) Then yes he should confront her about it. But I also don't think he should jump the gun and assume she is cheating since he doesn't know for sure..He can cross that bridge when he gets there..For now, love her, pray for her and show her that he is willing to go through the fire to restore their marriage in Christ. As it seems she is not saved, his main goal should be to try and show her, her need for a savior and continue to love and pray for her.
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