Turnoffs!

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Someone too attached to her family

 

[mina]

Someone too attached to her family

i 2nd that. Being close to your family is a good thing. Being so close that you can't leave and cleave isn't all that good for your spouse.

 

[Reborn_in_Christ2003]

I second the bluetooth headset too.

I think it's another thing that makes people lazy. Come on! If you can't even be bothered to hold up the phone to your head, then you deserve to look crazy and retarded.

I'm so used to seeing patients at work talking to themselves, so whenever I see someone talking to their bluetooth thing, I don't question it anymore I just make up my mind that they're responding to their internal stimuli and talking back to their voices. It makes them look crazy and it gives me a good laugh.

But really, it is a turnoff for me. When I see guys use one, it kinda of directly shows their laziness (and craziness. lol) because they don't feel like using a phone like a normal person.

At work I frequently pick up customers since I work for enterprise, and I have on several occasions continued/started a conversation because the other person started talking and randomly asking questions and because I didn't know they had a blue tooth headset I didn't know better. It usually makes them feel really stupid.

 

[rhssm]

What are some things that are turnoffs in the opposite sex.

It can be personality based, habits, or physical or all three.

What are your turnoffs?

Arrogant
Smoking
Spends more time getting ready than most women.

Cockiness
Being judgmental
Thinking they're always right
No ability to intellectualize

 

[hypnotism]

What are some things that are turnoffs in the opposite sex.

It can be personality based, habits, or physical or all three.

What are your turnoffs?

Arrogant
Smoking
Spends more time getting ready than most women.

[FONT=&quot]Obese women in pastel spandex. [/FONT]

 

[Mrs. Luther073082]

Incessantly spewing negativity, put downs, and arguments.

 

[JPPT1974]

People being condescending towards you
Acting like they are better than thou!

 

[GoodNewsJim]

Turn off: Doesn't get my jokes.

 

[WhereHeLeadsMe]

Someone too attached to her family

I 3rd that.

 

[dawnsday]

I 3rd that.

I fourth it.

 

[SnoopySnitch]

What are some things that are turnoffs in the opposite sex.

It can be personality based, habits, or physical or all three.

What are your turnoffs?

Arrogant
Smoking
Spends more time getting ready than most women.

Liars
Cheats
Bad hygeine
Arrogance
Feminime (I like my men to be manly)
Oh there's too many to mention lol

 

[Balugon]

Not respecting other people's property.

Not sincere about their faith.

Third arms.


.....Okayyyy, so i guess i could live with the last one if she was good looking otherwise.

 

[Suomipoika]

Okay, I see it’s Suomipoika’s first ever removed post at the Christian Forums (I can guess the reason: too ’personal’, and I guess.. that was the right judgment from a moderator). Well, not something I’m especially proud of.

No butt

Everyone really does have a behind. That's certainly a very degrative expression.

Scrawny legs

Falls in the same category with the previous. These are namings that someone who likes self-irony can give themselves, but other than that, you and I should *not* call someone this way.

She's 21 or up and doesn't drink

What is “social drinking”? What difference should it make if there’s a small amount of ethanol in it or not?Unless it’s about getting drunk. And if it’s not about getting drunk, what difference does it make if a girl orders something with or without alcohol? This is really something that might make the person in question feel like ’possession’, never mind that by saying something like this I would send Christian girls the message: ”I think that a ’cool’ girl has to drink alcohol”. How would that line up with my Christian faith? I’ve seen you post some pretty smart posts somewhere here earlier, but I just don’t think this one makes much sense.

bluntly honest about what his turnoffs are.

tattedsaint] always love the blunt honesty bro

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I think that honesty is an important beginning. To not be honest is to be a hypocrite... which makes it much more difficult for God to help you.

Is ”blunt honesty” – in all situations and contexts of life – really ’the’ thing Christians are recognized for? No, it’s not. That thing is love for one’s brother and sister (John 13:35), and one thing that follows from that is that we should try to speak edifying words to each other: ” Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” (Ephesians 4:29)

If someone asks me while on a dinner what sort of pile of poop I just dropped when I visited the men’s room, do I – in the name of 'blunt honesty' - entertain them with a detailed description? No, I don’t. Do I call a girl as ’having no butt’ etc., in the name of ’blunt honesty’? No, I really shouldn’t!

In general, I don’t see how, in the light of Ephesians 4:29, we could really go on and on with a clean conscience about how unattractive, weak and unintelligent unattractive, weak and unintelligent people are. While many of the readers of this forum can identify themselves with some of those features and be offended. And none of this means that you should want a relationship with any given individual of the opposite sex. It’s a fantastic God-given miracle when you really ’feel something’ about someone and fall in love, but in the process, we should be careful not to offend those who will not end up being that one.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Suomi, nobody but you is going on and on about this. Nobody here but you has an issue with this thread. I fit some of the turn offs listed here, and i'm not offended. This is your issue, not mine or anyone else's, and your analogies are gross and ridiculous.

 

[Suomipoika]

Actually, Suo, answer me this. Do you, or do you not, physically, have your preferences in women? IE, preferred hair length, preferred face and body type, whatever. No matter how picky or open your preferences are, you do. And if you say you don't, you are a liar. Let he who is not guilty cast the first stone.

To be honest, I certainly don't get *seriously* interested very easily. And at least as certainly I would not go on a first date with a girl with a long list of 'preferred physical features' in my hand, and I don't personally see a point in writing and 'publishing' one here, or anywhere.

But most importantly, I think you should always think about how you as a Christian relate to any given person you encounter, and if that person happens to be of the opposite sex, certain rules step in. You never know, you just might be a 'role model / example' for someone of the opposite sex, maybe a little younger person. You might even be 'the' example of a 'cool Christian guy' for her. And if, then, she somehow finds your 'preference list' and finds out that actually half of what she is as a person and as a girl - her physical features, maybe her weaknesses and problems - are considered by you as 'definite turn-offs', then no matter if to you those 'lists' only apply to romantic relationships and your potential dates, someone just might get really wounded in that process. This is just one example, but I think that we should, in general, be more considerate about the tone in which we talk about things like people's looks and weaknesses.

You're the only one who's offended. And, judging by your earlier posts in this thread, it is your problem. You said yourself that you have this image of Christian girls. Well, Suomi, it's EXTREMELY unfair of you to expect people to live up to an image, no matter how they helped you become a more confident and happy person. You need to get yourself to a mental state where you can accept this side of them, and still not let it bring you down. You can't expect people to live up to an image. It's not right, and trying to be someone you're not is exactly what the Bible commands us not to do.

You just don't know that I'm the only one who's offended, you just don't know that for sure (and none of what's been said here has given a blow to my own personal self confidence, it's just about how we talk about other people in general). Have you ever paid attention to how many people (most of them 'guests') actually spend their time browsing the Singles Ministry? You don't really know who sees our posts and when we write about how we 'dislike' people with certain looks and certain weaknesses in their lives, you just can't be sure that there is not someone somewhere (might be close to you or far from you) who gets offended.

And don't let my little personal testimony undermine what I'm trying to say. I would say that I've actually developed a rather strong and open personality during my twenty-five years, and what I 'testified' about was certainly not all that I am.

your analogies are gross and ridiculous.

Then prove me how they are.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

and I don't personally see a point in writing and 'publishing' one here, or anywhere.

Then are you just posting in this thread so people will know what a fabulous Christian you are? I don't see you commenting on other people's turn-offs, whats the deal with IP? I really don't think you should concern yourself with this anyway. If you don't like this thread, here's an idea: don't read it.

 

[Suomipoika]

Then are you just posting in this thread so people will know what a fabulous Christian you are? I don't see you commenting on other people's turn-offs, whats the deal with IP? I really don't think you should concern yourself with this anyway. If you don't like this thread, here's an idea: don't read it.

I've certainly seen in the course of past few weeks in my own life that I'm far from being a perfect person. And that fact can also be seen in the tone of some of my posts I've written in this thread. And yes, I did comment on someone else's turn-off list than IP's, and both times I did that commenting, I did it in a way that points out that this really is not a perfect person speaking, far from that. But irrespective of my faults, I honestly believe that there is also something in my posts that you can consider worth giving one minute's thought.

I have to admit your idea is really a good one. But here's another: if you ('you' generally) don't like the looks or 'weaknesses' of a certain person, take one second of thought before you speak or write about it.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

I've certainly seen in the course of past few weeks in my own life that I'm far from being a perfect person. And that fact can also be seen in the tone of some of my posts I've written in this thread. And yes, I did comment on someone else's turn-off list than IP's, and both times I did that commenting, I did it in a way that points out that this really is not a perfect person speaking, far from that. But irrespective of my faults, I honestly believe that there is also something in my posts that you can consider worth giving one minute's thought.

I have to admit your idea is really a good one. But here's another: if you ('you' generally) don't like the looks or 'weaknesses' of a certain person, take one second of thought before you speak or write about it.

I see what you're doing, but it appears to be attacking and accusatory. I didn't see you commenting on some one else's turn offs so I apologize for that. And honestly, if people are insulted by something they are waaaay too sensitive. There have been a number of turn offs listed that would apply to me but I'm not gonna go cry over it. I'm just glad none of IP's turn-offs apply to me

 

[Pink Angel]

lol im getting tired of this song....


kum-ba-ya my lord...


please dont make me sing it again

 

[Auncy]

My biggest turnoff is when I see married men FLIRT. To me it is saying that they are available when they aren't. I remember at the church where I used to attened there was a christian couple where the husband flirted with all of the single ladies. He had no problem flirting with his wife standing there next too him. I will always remember the look of hurt on her face when he did this. Needless to say there marriage didn't last long.