Turnoffs!

[Disippelen]

Well.. turnoffs.. I'd like to add from the other perspective but.. these are some turnoffs:



- not interested in living her life for Jesus
- not interested in having a close Christian community between the two of us
- not interested in marriage (including waiting to have sex until marriage etc)
- lack of genuine friendliness
- vanity/materialism
- smoke, alcohol, drugs
- lack of care for environment
- not paying attention when talking to each others
- not able/willing to be honest, show true feelings
- not able to accept and care for my weaknesses/problems


Well.. that's a list so far.

 

[Symphony2828]

-lame/boring
-a flake
-insecure guys are the worst-- insecurities leads to sooo many other annoying habits and character traits
-bad breath and/or smelly
-lack of ambition...

...for starters

 

[~HopeFloats~]

men who pretend they are interested but are seen dating other chicks..players I guess .. that can go both ways... bummer.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Girls, just a quick note to tell you that I don't have one millimetre of respect for this kind of 'listing' from the side of us Christian guys, either. Just plain sick and pathetic from you, IP. Especially the 3rd one of these, "She's 21 or up and doesn't drink". You should be ashamed.

Want to explain? God made us to be physically attracted to people, and to have tastes. So I listed mine. God made alcohol, so what's wrong with what I said?

Actually, Suo, answer me this. Do you, or do you not, physically, have your preferences in women? IE, preferred hair length, preferred face and body type, whatever. No matter how picky or open your preferences are, you do. And if you say you don't, you are a liar. Let he who is not guilty cast the first stone.

See my last post which is on the previous page, I think. Guys, you can't call yourselves gentlemen and write such carnal 'lists'of our girls! Christian guys! But really, see my better-articulated post on previous page.
And I don't take one word back from this.

And why did I pick these 5 of them? Well I picked the ones that can easily OFFEND the reader!!!!

You're the only one who's offended. And, judging by your earlier posts in this thread, it is your problem. You said yourself that you have this image of Christian girls. Well, Suomi, it's EXTREMELY unfair of you to expect people to live up to an image, no matter how they helped you become a more confident and happy person. You need to get yourself to a mental state where you can accept this side of them, and still not let it bring you down. You can't expect people to live up to an image. It's not right, and trying to be someone you're not is exactly what the Bible commands us not to do.

You talk about speaking in a Christ-like manner, but I get the feeling Christ is quite a bit less offended by this than you are. He knows me and He doesn't expect me to live up to an image.

always love the blunt honesty bro. and might i add, good list

Thanks dude - always my pleasure to bring it!

And IP, I am just kinda curious why it is good for a girl to drink? I occasionally have a social drink, but I'd be completely happy to live without alcohol for the rest of my life. So why is that a turnoff?

From my personal experiences (not saying whether it's true in general or not, because I have no idea, this is just what I've noticed in my own life), the "I will never drink" attitude speaks to some kind of uptightness or rigidity, or a need to follow more rules and regulations than I do, as well as an inability to cut loose and have some real fun once in awhile (not just drinking related fun either, fun with life in general). And if it's an issue related to either alcoholism or alcoholic genetics, I'm out, because any recovering alcoholic who's within my dating age (young) is going to have SERIOUS baggage that I can't deal with, and I don't want to breed alcoholic genetics into my family line.

Plus, I'm a connoisseur of fine wines, great microbrews, and spirits, and I want someone I can enjoy and taste them with, who will get what I'm talking about when I say I note a hint of this with some of that, with so and so mouthfeel and an aftertaste reminiscent of this.

 

[~HopeFloats~]

From my personal experiences (not saying whether it's true in general or not, because I have no idea, this is just what I've noticed in my own life), the "I will never drink" attitude speaks to some kind of uptightness or rigidity, or a need to follow more rules and regulations than I do, as well as an inability to cut loose and have some real fun once in awhile

I think that is pretty untrue.. I do not drink cause I just don't like it, at one time I did in my early 20's.. but now no need for it..

I think saying people who do not drink are uptight is very close minded..

In most cases people should be able to have the same amount of "fun" and laughs with or without drinks..

But yeah when I was younger I had the same outlook.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Hey Hope, did I not just say TWICE that I was making a personal statement and not speaking on the topic as a whole? So now you just insulted me for no reason. Very Christian attitude of you.

 

[Braticus]

From my personal experiences (not saying whether it's true in general or not, because I have no idea, this is just what I've noticed in my own life), the "I will never drink" attitude speaks to some kind of uptightness or rigidity, or a need to follow more rules and regulations than I do, as well as an inability to cut loose and have some real fun once in awhile (not just drinking related fun either, fun with life in general). And if it's an issue related to either alcoholism or alcoholic genetics, I'm out, because any recovering alcoholic who's within my dating age (young) is going to have SERIOUS baggage that I can't deal with, and I don't want to breed alcoholic genetics into my family line.

Plus, I'm a connoisseur of fine wines, great microbrews, and spirits, and I want someone I can enjoy and taste them with, who will get what I'm talking about when I say I note a hint of this with some of that, with so and so mouthfeel and an aftertaste reminiscent of this.

Thanks for taking the time to explain that. I understand what you mean. My brother is very much the same way (and some of my relatives look down on him for it too), and I can definitely understand that you want to share your passion for this with the person that you love.

 

[dawnsday]

Want to explain? God made us to be physically attracted to people, and to have tastes. So I listed mine. God made alcohol, so what's wrong with what I said?

Actually, Suo, answer me this. Do you, or do you not, physically, have your preferences in women? IE, preferred hair length, preferred face and body type, whatever. No matter how picky or open your preferences are, you do. And if you say you don't, you are a liar. Let he who is not guilty cast the first stone.



You're the only one who's offended. And, judging by your earlier posts in this thread, it is your problem. You said yourself that you have this image of Christian girls. Well, Suomi, it's EXTREMELY unfair of you to expect people to live up to an image, no matter how they helped you become a more confident and happy person. You need to get yourself to a mental state where you can accept this side of them, and still not let it bring you down. You can't expect people to live up to an image. It's not right, and trying to be someone you're not is exactly what the Bible commands us not to do.

You talk about speaking in a Christ-like manner, but I get the feeling Christ is quite a bit less offended by this than you are. He knows me and He doesn't expect me to live up to an image.

Thanks dude - always my pleasure to bring it!



From my personal experiences (not saying whether it's true in general or not, because I have no idea, this is just what I've noticed in my own life), the "I will never drink" attitude speaks to some kind of uptightness or rigidity, or a need to follow more rules and regulations than I do, as well as an inability to cut loose and have some real fun once in awhile (not just drinking related fun either, fun with life in general). And if it's an issue related to either alcoholism or alcoholic genetics, I'm out, because any recovering alcoholic who's within my dating age (young) is going to have SERIOUS baggage that I can't deal with, and I don't want to breed alcoholic genetics into my family line.

Plus, I'm a connoisseur of fine wines, great microbrews, and spirits, and I want someone I can enjoy and taste them with, who will get what I'm talking about when I say I note a hint of this with some of that, with so and so mouthfeel and an aftertaste reminiscent of this.

And I can bet, if you were friends with a girl who did not fit any of your predisposed ideals, that found a way to capture your heart, these things would go out the window. If God pulled you to someone you would never expect to love, you would love her.

but in the meantime, there is nothing wrong with seeking out someone who fits your lifestyle and goals.

I don't think there is anything wrong with the list.

 

[dawnsday]

I'd like to add, I would prefer a guy who does drink. I like beer, all kinds of it. I'm not talking getting drunk, but I would be more comfortable dating someone who doesn't have anything against having a drink with dinner.

Of course if Zach Braff proposed and said he doesn't drink, that whole concept would fly right out the window! LOL

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Luckily, my girlfriend doesn't have any of the turnoff qualifications

 

[~HopeFloats~]

Hey Hope, did I not just say TWICE that I was making a personal statement and not speaking on the topic as a whole? So now you just insulted me for no reason. Very Christian attitude of you.

I am not even going to comment on this because it is so ironic really.

But the fact is with each year we live, each experience God puts us through we learn and change.In my response I was NOT debating you IP I was debating what you said...

hmm so in your reply you attack me in saying i have a great Christian attitude.. I think before any of us call another person out we need to examine ourselves.. this goes for everyone..

 

[AWorkInProgress]

This thread is about "turn offs" and everyone has their own. I do not understand why people getting upset or offended unless trying to get IP to date you.

Last I checked he was taken thou. I am sure CoG put the horse shoe in her glove thou so watch out.

If we want to talk about being christian.

Matthew 7:1-4
Do Not Judge Others

“Do not judge others, and you will not be judged. 2 For you will be treated as you treat others.[a] The standard you use in judging is the standard by which you will be judged.[b]
3 “And why worry about a speck in your friend’s eye[c] when you have a log in your own? 4 How can you think of saying to your friend,[d] ‘Let me help you get rid of that speck in your eye,’ when you can’t see past the log in your own eye? 5 Hypocrite! First get rid of the log in your own eye; then you will see well enough to deal with the speck in your friend’s eye.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

Nm

 

[~HopeFloats~]

So instead of admitting that you took my post the wrong way, you're just going to 'refuse to debate'. convenient.

Maybe check your REPS IP.

If I took it the wrong way, that is my fault, I read it I replied.. and in doing that you felt attacked and you in turn said what...

I was not debating you.. I was sharing my experience..

Sorry to those who were partaking in this thread that it got off track.

 

[Pink Angel]

turnoffs: lol to put it back on track...

lets see...someone earlier said bad breath, i agree, i like guys who are goal-oriented, know what they want.

oo a turnoff would be anyone who disrespects their own family especially their mom

 

[Braticus]

Luckily, my girlfriend doesn't have any of the turnoff qualifications

Lucky indeed!
Thomas doesn't have any turn off qualities either!

 

[AWorkInProgress]

Well I tried, hope enough time to make a packie run before the fireworks start going off.

 

[LOVEthroughINTELLECT]

I forgot this one: Constantly talking on a wireless phone.

I saw one woman who didn't even put her phone down to pump gas.

If she is not careful she is going to pump diesel fuel into her car because she is not paying attention (I have seen it happen--I can't say if she was talking on the phone, but I have seen it happen).

 

[dawnsday]

I forgot this one: Constantly talking on a wireless phone.

I saw one woman who didn't even put her phone down to pump gas.

If she is not careful she is going to pump diesel fuel into her car because she is not paying attention (I have seen it happen--I can't say if she was talking on the phone, but I have seen it happen).

i'll add people who talk on their bluetooth headsets when being served at a retail store or restaurant. i can say from experience that not only is it rude, but you never know who the person is talking to. seriously, i doubt whatever you are talking about is as important as you think it is...

 

[Keri]

I second the bluetooth headset too.

I think it's another thing that makes people lazy. Come on! If you can't even be bothered to hold up the phone to your head, then you deserve to look crazy and retarded.

I'm so used to seeing patients at work talking to themselves, so whenever I see someone talking to their bluetooth thing, I don't question it anymore I just make up my mind that they're responding to their internal stimuli and talking back to their voices. It makes them look crazy and it gives me a good laugh.

But really, it is a turnoff for me. When I see guys use one, it kinda of directly shows their laziness (and craziness. lol) because they don't feel like using a phone like a normal person.