Turnoffs!

[HoosierCanuck]

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[ImperialPhantom]

i hope you don't mind me responding to this, and IP i apologize if it is not good of me to respond to a response to you from someone else.

i see your point there, but if you look at IP's initial list of turn offs, he also stated, "overly skinny" girls.

Nah, you get the okay from me. You do a good job.

There *are* ways to say things without ticking people off. Tactfulness is not a sign of weakness.

In other words, I'm supposed to sit here and start sugar coating everything I say to worry about "ticking off" people who are bent on finding something wrong with everything I say. Yeah, NO.

I didn't lie to you, and I still stand by what I said.


Here is the actual post that you got all worked up over:



Notice how I never mentioned ImperialPhantom, and how I quoted 'buttless' from his post.

I'm the only one who referenced butts in this thread. Don't play dumb.

If I was in a similar situation as you (having listed that type of thing), I might ask the person why they considered it childish or hurtful, and then attempt to clarify my position if I still disagreed with them. I wouldn't attack them. However, you proceeded to attack me.

You and Suomi attacked me first. Go look back through the thread.

Who here never says anything childish or hurtful? Oh that's right, you!

Sounds like something a 12 year old would say. "Nanny nanny boo boo!" Come on, guy, set an example.

You still don't get it do you?

Being asked to list turnoffs isn't a blank check to say whatever you want, however you want, and not expect a reaction. So far, you have gone ballistic on everyone that disagrees with you. Disagreement does not equal an attack.

Apparently, you have a hard time keeping track of happenings on a thread. Suomi, the original attacker, didn't say, "I disagree, and that was too blunt". He ATTACKED me. Then you jumped in while I argued with him, and did the same, then tried to deny it.

Already covered this. If you're going to respond to my posts, then please read them first.

Being blunt can be bad. It depends on the context. If he was cut off in traffic by a little old lady, and he proceeded to roll down the window and curse her out, would you still love his 'blunt' honesty?

Whoever hasn't truly read the posts that they're replying to.

IP seems to attack everybody that disagrees with him (so far, in this discussion), but that doesn't mean we're going to bend to however he sees things.

It's cute that you stand by him regardless of what he writes, but please realize that he is the one that feels 'perfectly entitled' to say whatever he wants *without anybody disagreeing with him*. And no, disagreement does not constitute an attack.

For all we know, he has good character... but that doesn't mean we have to agree with everything he writes.

Wow, talk about a misogynistic post. You sink to a new level of low. Don't condescend her just for being female.

And no, I don't attack everybody who disagrees with me. However, I fight back at those who attack me, which you persist in doing while pretending you aren't. Swallow your pride and admit what you already know in your head, which is that you're attacking.

 

[Niels]

I did read them, I'm not stupid thank you. I always read before I reply.

I did not call you stupid. Not reading a CF post lacking intelligence are two different things.

Sorry, but when did cussing out someone constitute honesty? I am talking about sticking by what you want and believe in.

That's all well and good, unless what you want and what you believe in hurts others.

You know, its funny. The list that IP made was in reference to women and yet, I have not seen one woman claim she was insulted by what he said. Its only you guys who can't seem to handle a little honesty that have your panties in a bunch. Seriously, grow up. Yeah, it is ok to disagree, but you were attacking and IP and I were NOT the only ones who saw that.

Everything is still there to be read.

I did read before replying, do not insinuate that I didn't anymore.

If you actually read my posts... reading includes making an attempt to understand, then you wouldn't need to ask.

He is defending himself. He made a harmless list, like countless people in this thread and he again is insulted for his beliefs and preferences.

Apparently he chooses to feel insulted by those who dare disagree with him.

First of all, don't insult my intelligence by calling what I am doing "cute." I'm not sitting her twirling my hair and batting my eyelashes to get people to agree with me. I am not doing this to be "cute" and I am not standing by him just because its what I supposedly should do. Yes, he is perfectly entitled to what he said, and if you notice in my last post I said that YOU WERE TOO. I have an issue that you keep bringing something up when you know full well that nothing is going to change. So, what is the point.

I wasn't trying to insult your intelligence. It's your blind loyalty that struck me as 'cute'.

I NEVER said that you had to agree with everything that he says. You do however need to show some respect. You are the older one here and yet I see others showing more maturity. If you are going to teach someone something you don't do it by telling them that they are immature, then going and talking about the person publicly with two other posters. K?

I have been very respectful toward ImortalPhantom. I have even given him credit where credit's due. If you would read what I wrote, then you would know that I think he's generally a smart guy with a lot of potential... and I think he's probably an upstanding character as well. He's just being immature and tactless. The fact that he has a thin skin and a volatile temper doesn't help. It only intimidates others who would rather not cross paths with him. Well, I don't believe in walking on tip-toes when somebody has a thin skin... if that person shows a lot of promise to get over it. And if anybody can get over it, IP can. He should consider this as encouragement from a big brother in Christ.

It had to be said. Some types of immature behavior are particularly apt to hurt others. It would have been unethical for me to remain silent. I saw a good opportunity to join the discussion, so I took it. Whether other CF posters are more or less mature than me is not the question.

At this point, I have written all that I need to on the subject. If you have additional questions, I refer you to my previous posts.

 

[Beautiful Fireball]

It's your blind loyalty that struck me as 'cute'.

I am completely insulted by this statement. I do NOT blindly follow anybody and I am sick and tired of defending myself on this board when it comes to backing up IP. I am not going to say this again. I have a brain of my own, and anybody who insinuates that I am only agreeing with IP because of our relationship status will be reported.

 

[Im_A]

i want to know one thing here...

what has IP done so wrong?

 

[Keri]

Let me answer this.

From what I have seen, based on the ORIGINAL POST that I started, ImperialPhantom has done NOTHING wrong.

As hard as that is for me to say (IP, I know we talked things out before, and for the most part, we are cool now so don't take this the wrong way.) IP is not in the wrong here.

Now can we just end this guys and go back to just posting our turnoffs and just accepting others in what they say because it is just their own preference and God does make each of us different with unique preferences.

Thanks.

 

[ImperialPhantom]

I would like to stop cluttering your thread, Keri, but I can't promise anything. When someone is making misogynistic and condescending comments at my girlfriend simply for being my girlfriend and for being female, then I'm really going to have a hard time sitting quietly.

 

[Thomas1984]

So, turn-offs huh?

I really don't like it when a woman thinks she can use her "feminine wiles" to manipulate me into doing what she wants. It's quite insulting.

 

[GoodNewsJim]

So, turn-offs huh?

I really don't like it when a woman thinks she can use her "feminine wiles" to manipulate me into doing what she wants. It's quite insulting.

Oh that is annoying. I want to be nice out of chivalry then the girl wants more and more like a little kid asking their parents for toys.

 

[Suomipoika]

Well, without defending my way of bringing things up in a way that showed thin skin from my side on this subject, I'd say that there are some expressions that are more degrading and offensive in tone than some others, I hope I don't need to explain further why that is so. I was originally thinking about refraining from commenting in this thread any more and focus on just doing my own thing, but seeing something that I considered belonging to the 'degrading' category just triggered a reaction in me again. I see kids at school making each other cry using that kind of wording, and honestly, it just hasn't dawned on me how Christian young adults should feel that it's 'innocent' to publicly name just what ever kind of 'turn-offs' in each other. I just don't think the name of the thread is a warrant for not considering the fact that what we write here is written to real people (a lot of real people), not just to ChrisBot. Let's imagine we're all sitting in a circle when saying what we say, looking each other in the eye, and that sitting with us are people of every kind of look, some thin and some plump, people who are independent and mentally strong and those who are timid and have a low opinion of themselves, people with short fuse and people who always stay calm, and everything from between.... what do I want to say in that kind of situation? Well, at least not what I said initially here, in the way and in the tone I said it. So, from my part, this has made me think about some things in myself, but it's probably employed the brain cells of some other people a little too much in the process. You don't have to throw a dynamite into a kettle to make the water boil smoothly.

 

[Keri]

Ok then... moving onto turnoffs...

People who just can't get over something. Holding grudges.

 

[Suomipoika]

and yet, I have not seen one woman claim she was insulted by what he said.

I think I have to stick my big bad nose in here for a second.

I was actually given 'reputation' by 3 persons - all of whom were women. Let them remain anonymous. And when I checked what posts did they give those reps for, all of the reps were given for the posts where I was still on the kind of mood that made me write in This Kind Of Font. And like I said, that was not a mature kind of way to bring things up from my side, but still, at least 3 women apparently shared at least part of that initial response. And none of these 3 were my 'CF friends', they were people with whom I pretty much hadn't had any kind of contact surface earlier.

So, just a mere fact to rectify your assumption.

 

[AdJesumPerMariam]

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[JacobsDream]

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What are some things that are turnoffs in the opposite sex.

It can be personality based, habits, or physical or all three.

What are your turnoffs?

Arrogant
Smoking
Spends more time getting ready than most women.

 

[kingoffools13]

Body builder women, with overly developed muscles kinda gross me out a bit.

also i saw someone mention it in another post and its one of my peeves as well, girls that feel entitled to whatever it is they want, the whole "Princess Syndrome"

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[dayhiker]

Someone who has a thousand rules and I know there is no way I'll keep them all straight!

 

[kingoffools13]

^ that goes for me too

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[memoriesbymichelle]

Turn off's for me are:

Pride
Selfishness
Materialistic
Jealous
Controlling
People who aren't willing to help others when they can

memoriesbymichelle

 

[AdJesumPerMariam]

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