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Trump plans to sign an executive order lowering USA prescription drug prices to match the lowest in the world.


So expect drug prices across the world to increase to match USA drug prices, not the other way around.
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Go into the world and preach the Gospel

Shalom

This weekend, evangelistic meetings are taking place here in Salzburg.

In addition, the brothers and sisters here regularly hold book tables and distribute evangelistic literature.

We ask for your support in prayer:

+ that the Lord opens people's hearts as He did Lydia's (Acts 16:4)

+ that the Holy Spirit opens people's eyes so that they turn from darkness to light and lead them to repentance (Acts 26:16-18)

+ that the Lord Jesus will be glorified there!

May God also continue to draw the people we have already reached to Himself in Jesus' name, Amen (John 6:44).

Thank you for your prayers!

May the Lord bless you abundantly (Luke 6:38; Job 42:10), and may He bless Israel in Jesus' name, Amen!

Soli Deo Gloria

PS And I pray that the Lord will send out harvesters into his harvest (Matthew 9:38).

US and China reach deal to slash trade tariffs

Speaking after talks with Chinese officials in Geneva, U.S. Treasury Secretary Scott Bessent told reporters the two sides had agreed on a 90 day pause on measures and that tariffs would come down by over 100 percentage points to 10%.
Trump knew that China was in bad shape and had to come to the table.

White House claims China trade deal reached after ‘productive’ Geneva talks

The White House has announced that a trade deal with China has been struck after two days of talks in Geneva.

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Bodycam Footage Appears To Show Dem Lawmaker Assaulting Federal Agent


They need to make an arrest. She should get the same time in jail as did January 6 who assaulted police officers.

Mumia Abu-Jamal, President Of Temple University In Philadelphia's Students For Justice In Palestine (SJP) speaks out:

With some Democrats demanding foreign students receive the same due process as American citizens I think it's important to hear from some of the protesting students to understand their perspective, as per the following video:

In my opinion they are guests of America.
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Trump To Sign E.O. Tomorrow To Reduce Drug Prices by 30% to 80%

"For many years the World has wondered why Prescription Drugs and Pharmaceuticals in the United States States of America were SO MUCH HIGHER IN PRICE THAN THEY WERE IN ANY OTHER NATION, SOMETIMES BEING FIVE TO TEN TIMES MORE EXPENSIVE THAN THE SAME DRUG, MANUFACTURED IN THE EXACT SAME LABORATORY OR PLANT, BY THE SAME COMPANY??? It was always difficult to explain and very embarrassing because, in fact, there was no correct or rightful answer. The Pharmaceutical/Drug Companies would say, for years, that it was Research and Development Costs, and that all of these costs were, and would be, for no reason whatsoever, borne by the “suckers” of America, ALONE. Campaign Contributions can do wonders, but not with me, and not with the Republican Party. We are going to do the right thing, something that the Democrats have fought for many years. Therefore, I am pleased to announce that Tomorrow morning, in the White House, at 9:00 A.M., I will be signing one of the most consequential Executive Orders in our Country’s history. Prescription Drug and Pharmaceutical prices will be REDUCED, almost immediately, by 30% to 80%. They will rise throughout the World in order to equalize and, for the first time in many years, bring FAIRNESS TO AMERICA! I will be instituting a MOST FAVORED NATION’S POLICY whereby the United States will pay the same price as the Nation that pays the lowest price anywhere in the World. Our Country will finally be treated fairly, and our citizens Healthcare Costs will be reduced by numbers never even thought of before. Additionally, on top of everything else, the United States will save TRILLIONS OF DOLLARS. Thank you for your attention to this matter. MAKE AMERICA GREAT AGAIN!" DJT 3hrs ago

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The Deaconess Phoebe

Paul commends Phoebe in Romans 16:1-2. Romans 16 is the last chapter of Romans and it is devoted to a series of greetings. I am not sure when Phoebe was first called a Deaconess, but the phrase “Deaconess Phoebe” seems to be familiar to most Christians. If anyone thinks that a “Deaconess” is less important than a “Deacon,” that seems to be a misunderstanding or a mistranslation.

Phoebe is called a “sister,” “servant” and “succourer” in the KJV. A succourer is one who gives help in times of need. She is a “sister,” a “ministrant,” and a “leader” in Young’s Literal Translation, YLT. The New Revised Standard calls her a “sister,” “deacon,” and a “benefactor.” She is a “sister,” “servant,” and “helper” in the New American Standard Bible. The New American Bible calls her a “sister,” “minister,” and “benefactor.” The word translated as “deacon” means “servant,” so it is difficult to distinguish between the two.

I have discussed the Deaconess Phoebe with conservative Baptists. “All Phoebe did was sweep the floor,” they told me.

Who is the Deaconess Phoebe and what did she do? It is no small matter for Paul to refer to Phoebe as a “helper,” as the NASB has it. Timothy is also called a helper.

He [Paul] sent two of his helpers, Timothy and Erastus, to Macedonia, while he stayed in the province of Asia a little longer. Acts 19:22 NIV

Scholars believe that Paul wrote the Book of Romans, as a letter, while in Ephesus. Phoebe was the courier who delivered the letter. Ephesus is 700 miles from Rome and travel in the ancient world was slow and hazardous. She probably traveled with other people, either men in her family, or servants. Paul would not have entrusted the delivery of the Book of Romans to anyone unless they were trustworthy and resourceful.

In his commentary on Romans 16:1-2, the traditional commentator John Gill says:

“The person who is here recommended was, as appears from the subscription of this epistle, if that may be depended on, the bearer of this letter …”

Why is Phoebe called a servant of the church, a Deacon or Deaconess, even a minister?

“Rather, as some think, she was a deaconess appointed by the church, to take care of the poor sisters of the church …”

Even if she never preached or taught, it is clear that her responsibilities went far beyond sweeping the floor.

Qatar to donate a jumbo jet for Trump's exclusive use as a presidential plane, sources say

Washington — The royal family of Qatar is donating a jumbo jet for President Trump's exclusive use as a presidential plane, sources told CBS News.

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Did South Korea’s legendary female free divers evolve for a life underwater? Scientists find new evidence

An island 50 miles (80 kilometers) off the southern tip of the Korean Peninsula is home to a unique and celebrated community of women: the Haenyeo.

These women dive year-round off Jeju Island, collecting sea urchin, abalone and other seafood from the ocean floor, descending as much as 60 feet (18 meters) beneath the surface multiple times over the course of four to five hours each day. They dive throughout pregnancy and well into old age, without the help of any breathing equipment — just a wet suit.

“For thousands of years, we think, they’ve been doing this incredible, matrilineal thing, where they learn from the mother how to dive at a very young age. They go out in these collectives, and that’s what they do. They dive,” said Melissa Ann Ilardo, a geneticist and assistant professor in biomedical informatics at the University of Utah.

“They’re spending really an extraordinary percentage of their time underwater.”

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Man arrested after ICE agent smashed car window in New Bedford could be released soon, due to failure to prosecute/asylum status

Judge Donald Ostrom on Thursday ruled that 29-year-old Juan Francisco Méndez, who has no criminal record, must be released due to a failure to prosecute, according to a Boston Globe report.

Immigration and Customs Enforcement (ICE) officials arrested Méndez outside his New Bedford home on April 14 as he and his wife, Marilu Domingo Ortiz, were en route to a dentist appointment. Ortiz captured the dramatic arrest on video, which was widely circulated in the media and on social media.

Questions swirled over why Méndez was arrested, as officers were reportedly asking for a man named “Antonio,” who lives on a separate floor of their building. Ortiz and the couple’s 9-year-old son were granted asylum in February 2024 after fleeing violence in Guatemala, according to the paper. Under federal immigration law, her husband is eligible for derivative asylee status.

“We don’t have any problems with this country. It’s fine for [immigration officials] to do their job but not unjustly like they did with my husband,” Ortiz told the Globe.

ICE has to hit those brown guy quotas somehow.
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Trump: If you're white you're right; if you're brown, get out of town.

Trump is bringing white South Africans to the US as refugees, but what persecution are they facing?

CAPE TOWN, South Africa (AP) — The Trump administration is bringing a small number of white South Africans to the United States as refugees next week in what it says is the start of a larger relocation effort for a minority group who are being persecuted by their Black-led government because of their race.
The South Africans’ applications are being fast-tracked by the U.S. after President Donald Trump announced the relocation program in February.
The Trump administration has taken an anti-migrant stance, suspending refugee programs and halting arrivals from other parts of the world, including Iraq, Afghanistan and most countries in sub-Saharan Africa.
Refugee groups have questioned why some white South Africans are being prioritized.

Keep in mind those Afghanistans were the very Afghanistans helping US troops during that war and promised safe haven from the sure fire retaliation they and their family would be on the receiving end by the Taliban. The same Taliban Trump had released from prison.
It's patently obvious the fruit does not fall too far from the tree given the man whose Father was arrested at a Klan rally. Whose apartment buildings were actively discriminating against blacks. Who had his project manager hide Black contractors working at his buildings when associates came by and by past statements, is in fact a racist.

What is Christ's rest?

Christ said:

Mat 11:28 Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. 29 Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am [a]gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. 30 For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”

Many believe and teach Christ's rest some how relieves our moral obligation to obey the Sabbath commandment, but is this what Jesus is teaching?

Jesus said this and still kept the Sabbath going to church reading God's word Luke 4:16 as the apostles did following in His footsteps keeping every Sabbath in the same manner decades after the Cross Acts 15:21 Acts 13:42 Acts 13:44 Acts 18:4 as the Sabbath is a holy convocation Lev 23:3 and we see that continuing on in the New Heaven and New Earth Isa 66:22-23

So what rest is Christ referring to?

Psa 38:3 There is no soundness in my flesh because of thine anger; neither is there any rest in my bones because of my sin.4 For mine iniquities are gone over mine head: as an heavy burden they are too heavy for me.

The rest Jesus is giving us when we come to Him is rest from our sins. Jesus came to save us from our sins Mat 1:21 we are not saved in our sins Heb 10:26-30

Sin is:
1 John 3:4 Whoever commits sin also commits lawlessness, and sin is lawlessness.
James 2:11-12 For He who said, “Do not commit adultery,” also said, “Do not murder.” Now if you do not commit adultery, but you do murder, you have become a transgressor of the law. quoting and contrasting directly from the Ten Commandments breaking one we break them all
Rom 7:7 What shall we say then? Is the law sin? Certainly not! On the contrary, I would not have known sin except through the law. For I would not have known covetousness unless the law had said, “You shall not covet.”
Rom 14:23 But he who doubts is condemned if he eats, because he does not eat from faith; for whatever is not from faith is sin.


We also see this play out in the last days

Rev 14:11 And the smoke of their torment ascends forever and ever; and they have no rest day or night, who worship the beast and his image, and whoever receives the mark of his name.”

Compared to the antidote found in the next verse

Rev 14:12 Here is the patience of the saints; here are those who keep the commandments of God and the faith of Jesus.

If we understand Christ rest, it will help us understand Hebrews 4 much better as it is speaking of two rests, not one.

We are invited to enter into Christ rest, just like the Israelites, Heb 4:1 but many didn't enter due to disobedience (sin) even through the same gospel was preached Heb 4:6

Why the Holy Spirit is calling us "TODAY" to come our of our rebellion (sin) and enter His rest quoting directly from Psa 95

Heb 3:7 Therefore, as the Holy Spirit says:

“Today, if you will hear His voice,
8 Do not harden your hearts as in the rebellion,
In the day of trial in the wilderness,

9 Where your fathers tested Me, tried Me,
And saw My works forty years.
10 Therefore I was angry with that generation,
And said, ‘They always go astray in their heart,
And they have not known My ways.’
11 So I swore in My wrath,
‘They shall not enter My rest.’ ”


Why there is another day spoken of, which is TODAY God is calling us from our sins and come unto Him and He will give us rest from the burdens of sin but we need to enter through faith Heb 4:2

What did the Israelites disobey during their trial of the wilderness that led them to not enter into Christ rest

Eze 22:13 Yet the house of Israel rebelled against Me in the wilderness; they did not walk in My statutes; they despised My judgments, ‘which, if a man does, he shall live by them’; and they greatly defiled My Sabbaths. Then I said I would pour out My fury on them in the wilderness, to consume them.

Why the next verse says there remains a Sabbath-rest for the people of God Heb 4:9 and the Sabbath rest is according to the commandment Luke 23:56 because breaking God's law is sin 1 John 3:4 James 2:11-12

The next verse clearly shows these two rests

Heb 4:10 For he who has entered His rest has himself also (in addition) ceased from his works as God did from His.

God ceased from His works on the seventh day, Heb 4:4 Gen 2:1-3 just like God commanded us to Exo 20:8-11 as we were made in His image and likeness so to enter His rest one also ceases from work on the seventh day Sabbath. Exo 20:10

Heb 4:11 Let us therefore be diligent to enter that rest, lest anyone fall according to the same example of disobedience

We don't want to follow the same mistakes of the Israelites who sinned and never entered their rest in Canaan, which is a type of heaven. The same applies to us to enter in Heaven Rev 22:14

12 For the word of God is living and powerful, and sharper than any two-edged sword, piercing even to the division of soul and spirit, and of joints and marrow, and is a discerner of the thoughts and intents of the heart. 13 And there is no creature hidden from His sight, but all things are naked and open to the eyes of Him to whom we must give account.

In Christ rest no one is in rebellion or breaking God's law, why there is just peace
Isa 48:18
Oh, that you had heeded My commandments!
Then your peace would have been like a river,
And your righteousness like the waves of the sea.

Jesus is coming soon and we need to come out of our rebellion to Him and obey Him and His commandments, His version, God’s own personal Testimony Exo 31:18 written personally by God, His law and will Psa 40:8, It’s why we see the ark of the covenant, which holds God’s personal Testimony, the Ten Commandments written and spoken by the God of the Universe revealed at the last Trumpet before Jesus comes in all His Glory Rev 11:19 as it is the standard of what God will judge all man 2 Cor 5:10 James 2:10-12 Ecc 12:13-14 Mat 5:19-30 Rev 11:18-19 Rev 22:14-15 and removing anything God covers under His mercy seat which below sits God’s Testimony His Ten Commandments, laying it aside as to say its not for me, I do not believe that's going to work out so well as Jesus taught plainly Mat 15:3-14 Mark 7:7-13

So lets be willing to forsake our sins Pro 28:13 and come to Jesus, He will give us rest.

The future of the Church isn’t dying — it’s rising. Look at Gen Z and millennial males

Spiritual guides needed

Behind the noise of a divided culture, something powerful is happening.

Behind the noise, a revival is stirring.

Headlines shout that faith is fading. Churches are closing. Trust in institutions is crumbling. Many predict a future without God. Yet beneath the surface, a quiet revival is stirring.

Belief in Jesus is not fading — it’s surging — and the next generation is leading the way.

A new study from Barna’s State of the Church 2025 initiative reveals something remarkable: two-thirds of American adults — 66% — now say they have made a personal commitment to Jesus Christ that remains important in their lives. That’s a 12-point surge since 2021, when commitment levels reached a 30-year low.

In just four years, approximately 30 million more Americans have chosen to follow Jesus.

Even more striking, it’s Gen Z and millennials — the very generations often accused of abandoning faith — who are fueling this resurgence. Gen Z men have experienced a 15-point increase in commitment since 2019, while Millennial men have surged by 19 points. For the first time in modern history, young men are outpacing young women in spiritual commitment, flipping a trend that held firm for decades.

This is not a fad. It’s a profound awakening.

But it is also a fragile one.

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Trump accepts 400 million dollar bribe.


So the new air force one will belong to not to the office of president but to Donald Trump. A bribe pure and simple.
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Salvation is in your hands, Jesus did his part

Over the years many have taught various ways to receive everlasting life. No wonder the world is full of so many denominations. All of these different doctrines, seemingly coming from the bible, tend only to confuse people. Most people don't know what to believe and simply choose not to attend any church. Salvation, what would you trade fore it? This is a question you should ask yourself. The answer should be nothing. What people fail to realize is Adam sin and brought forth the first and second death, and that second is the lake of fire. Wherefore, as by one man sin entered into the world, and death by sin; and so death passed upon all men, for that all have sinned: (Romans 5: 12)

So at this point the creation is lock under these two death, this is before Jesus of course. I find that a lot of people don’t understand this. We have a lot righteous prophets and people in the old testament, but still lock under those two death. We also have a lot of evil people in the old testament who will still be lock under those two death. If you are lock under those two death, this mean you will be raise from dead, and Judged, then headed straight for the lake of fire. So now, Jesus came and die for the world and bless us with grace, so that our righteousness which will remove the second death.

Jesus says in Luke: 31 And Jesus answering said unto them, They that are whole need not a physician; but they that are sick. 32 I came not to call the righteous, but sinners to repentance. See sin is what got us these two death in the first place. Let’s take a look at the biblical definition of sin. 1John 3:4) Whosoever committeth sin transgresseth also the law: for sin is the transgression of the law. Now we have just read the biblical definition of sin, the transgression (breaking) of the law (commandments.)

So when you sin, you transgress the law, what law? The Commandments brother and Sisters. And this is love, that we walk after his commandments. This is the commandment, That, as ye have heard from the beginning, ye should walk in it. Look to yourselves, that we lose not those things which we have wrought, but that we receive a full reward. Whosoever transgresseth, and abideth not in the doctrine of Christ, hath not God. He that abideth in the doctrine of Christ, he hath both the Father and the Son. (2 John 1: 6,8,9)

So if you think because Jesus die for our sins, and you don’t have to keep the law (Commandments) then you are sinning, and Paul told us in Romans 6: 23 For the wages of sin is death; but the gift of God is eternal life through Jesus Christ our Lord.

We all have to do the samething to get in the kingdom of God, and one of those things is keeping the Commandments. A man asked Jesus this very question, "...What good thing shall I do that I may have eternal life?", and Jesus replied, Why callest thou me good? there is none good but one, that is, God: but if thou wilt enter into life, keep the commandments. (Matthew 19:16-19). This was a direct answer to a direct question, which all of us will do well to take heed to. Anybody can claim to have faith, but actions speak louder than words. Faith and works go together and you can't have one without the other. "Here is the patience of the saints; here are they that keep the commandments of God and the faith of Jesus" (Revelation 14:12).

Pope Leo XIV appeals for 'no more war' in first Sunday message

VATICAN CITY, May 11 (Reuters) - Pope Leo XIVappealed to the world's major powers for "no more war" in his first Sunday message to crowds in St. Peter's Square since his election as pontiff.

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Can you balance the federal budget?

In another thread I saw this post:

If we care about hunger, then we need to budget before the country goes broke, because when that happens, no one can be fed. Does it make sense to you to borrow money to pay for interest on the debt?

Ah, so you’re calling for a balanced budget—because if the country goes broke, no one can be fed. That may be a bit extreme, but let’s suppose we do need to balance the budget. What would you cut?

I pulled data from the federal budget here: The Budget and Economic Outlook: 2025 to 2035.

Next, I created the table below showing the current budget and several attempts to balance it.

Notice that the current deficit is 26.5% of total spending. That’s a serious issue.

Suppose we eliminated all non-defense discretionary spending (first option below). This would wipe out many needed programs—and still wouldn’t get us close to a balanced budget.

Let’s try a really severe round of cuts (second option). Still nowhere near.

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Finally, I offer an off-the-cuff attempt at a “fair” balanced budget. It increases tax revenue by 25% and cuts some important programs. It’s just a first draft to visualize what a balanced budget might actually require.

Can you do better? Fill in the eight percentages you believe should go in the red-font column, and I’ll add your proposal to the spreadsheet so we can compare.

Broken and Contrite

An Original Work / May 13, 2012
Christ’s Free Servant, Sue J Love


I come before You, Lord, my Savior,
With humble heart and crushed in spirit.
I bow before You, I implore You,
Heal my broken heart, I pray.
Love You, Jesus, Lord, my master,
You are the King of my heart.
Lord, purify my heart within me;
Sanctify me, whole within.

Oh, Lord, I long to obey fully
The words You’ve spoken through Your Spirit.
I pray You give me grace and mercy,
Strength and wisdom to obey.
Father God, my heart’s desire,
Won’t You set my heart on fire?
Lord, cleanse my heart of all that hinders
My walk with You, now I pray.

Oh, Jesus, Savior, full of mercy,
My heart cries out for understanding.
I want to follow You in all ways,
Never straying from Your truth.
Holy Spirit, come in power,
Fill me with Your love today.
Lord, mold and make me;
Your hands formed me;
Live Your life through me, I pray.

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Deceived With Empty Words

“But immorality or any impurity or greed must not even be named among you, as is proper among saints; and there must be no filthiness and silly talk, or coarse jesting, which are not fitting, but rather giving of thanks. For this you know with certainty, that no immoral or impure person or covetous man, who is an idolater, has an inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and God. Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of these things the wrath of God comes upon the sons of disobedience.” (Ephesians 5:3-6 NASB1995)

If our faith in Jesus Christ is genuine biblical faith, of God, and not of the flesh of humans, and not of the will of man, then we have been crucified with Christ in death to sin and raised with Christ to walk in newness of life in him, no longer as slaves to sin but as slaves to righteousness in walks of obedience to his commands. We are no longer to permit sin to reign in our mortal bodies to make us obey its desires. For if sin is what we obey, it results in death. But if obedience is what we obey, it results in righteousness and sanctification, and its end is eternal life with God (see Romans 6:1-23).

Therefore, all immorality and impurity must no longer have an active part in our lives. For it is morally wrong and improper for us who profess faith in Jesus Christ to still be walking in sin, making sin our habit. For Jesus Christ gave his life up for us on that cross to put our sins to death with him so that we will die with him to sin and walk with him in obedience to his commands in holy living. For in his death on that cross he bought us back for God (he redeemed us) out of our lives of slavery (addiction) to sin so that we will now, by his grace, and in his power, serve God with our lives.

So, please know that if you are being taught that you can just pray a prayer to receive Christ, or that you can just make a verbal confession of Jesus as Lord, or that you can just acknowledge what Jesus did for us on that cross and that he was raised from the dead, and now you are saved, all sins are forgiven, and heaven is secured for you when you die, you are being taught a half-truth, which is a lie. For the Scriptures make it very clear that faith in Jesus, which comes from God, must result in us dying to sin and walking in obedience to God, in practice, or it is not genuine faith which saves from sin.

For the life of a true follower (disciple) of Christ involves us putting away our former lives of walking in sin so that, by the grace of God, we will now walk in purity of devotion to our Lord in obedience to his commands in holy living. For the grace of God, which is bringing us salvation, instructs us to renounce ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright, and godly lives while we await our Lord’s return. For Jesus Christ “gave Himself for us to redeem us from every lawless deed, and to purify for Himself a people for His own possession, zealous for good deeds” (see Titus 2:11-14).

But in our present day “Christian” culture here in America, the most popular teaching regarded as “the gospel of Christ” is an altered version of the gospel taught by Jesus and by his New Testament apostles. For many are teaching that a profession of faith in Jesus Christ is enough to secure for us forgiveness of all sins and heaven as our eternal destiny. But Jesus taught that if we are going to come after him we must deny self, die to sin daily, and follow him in walks of obedience to his commands. For if we continue living in sin, we will not inherit eternal life with God (see Luke 9:23-26).

And because this diluted and altered “gospel” is what is prevailing among those professing faith in Jesus Christ, we have a “Christian” culture of people who are still living to please the flesh, and not God, who are still living in idolatry, adultery, sexual immorality, and/or drunkenness, lying, cheating, and stealing what is not theirs from people who they care nothing about, but who they are just using in order to fulfill the sinful lusts of the flesh. And so this is a warning to all who profess the name of Jesus that no immoral person, who is an idolater, has an inheritance in the kingdom of God/Christ.

[Matt 7:13-14,21-23; Lu 9:23-26; Jn 10:27-30; Ac 26:18; Rom 2:6-8; Rom 6:1-23; Rom 8:1-14; Rom 12:1-2; 1 Co 6:9-10,19-20; 1 Co 10:1-22; 2 Co 5:10,15,21; Gal 5:16-24; Gal 6:7-8; Eph 2:8-10; Eph 4:17-32; Eph 5:3-6; Col 1:21-23; Col 3:1-17; Tit 2:11-14; Heb 3:1-19; Heb 4:1-13; Heb 10:23-31; Heb 12:1-2; 1 Pet 2:24; 1 Jn 1:5-10; 1 Jn 2:3-6,15-17; 1 Jn 3:4-10]

For Our Nation

An Original Work / September 11, 2012
Christ’s Free Servant, Sue J Love


Bombs are bursting. Night is falling.
Jesus Christ is gently calling
You to follow Him in all ways.
Trust Him with your life today.
Make Him your Lord and your Savior.
Turn from your sin. Follow Jesus.
He will forgive you of your sin;
Cleanse your heart, made new within.

Men betraying: Our trust fraying.
On our knees to God we’re praying,
Seeking God to give us answers
That are only found in Him.
God is sovereign over all things.
Nothing from His mind escaping.
He has all things under His command,
And will work all for good.

Jesus Christ is gently calling
You to follow Him in all ways.

Men deceiving: We’re believing
In our Lord, and interceding
For our nation and its people
To obey their God today.
He is our hope for our future.
For our wounds He offers suture.
He is all we need for this life.
Trust Him with your life today.

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Deceived With Empty Words
An Original Work / May 11, 2025
Christ’s Free Servant, Sue J Love
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Advice about how a child should act with toxic parents

Hey all,

I'm looking for advice about how I deal with my parents. My dad is in his late 80s with cancer and my mum in her mid 80s. I'm posting this with great caution after not wanting to air my parents' dirty laundry in public (bearing in mind my understanding of Noah's Curse on Ham after Ham drew attention to his father's shame in this post)


The relationship between my mum and dad is pretty toxic, and this is reflected in the parent-child and sibling-sibling relationships as well. Both of them divorced their past husband/wife to get married after committing adultery. So this precluded my dad from being a pastor at church although the church was OK with him being a Bible teacher (it wasn't his day job).

To give you some examples of the venom from my dad:
My dad uses a walking stick and has fallen a few times already. When my mum offered to hold his hand to help him walk in public, he berated his wife in public, saying "I'd rather die than hold your hand."

They used to have a domestic servant. When there was a dispute between the domestic servant and my mum, on two occasions my dad chased my mum out of the house, favoring instead the domestic servant.

This is first hand testimony and not conveyed to me by my mum about what my dad did --- I was there when I learnt that my mum's brother passed away. I told her in the presence of my dad. We were walking to a restaurant at that time. My mum broke down in tears, wailed and needed to sit down on a park bench on the way -- all in public. My dad did not even ask my mum if she was OK, offer sympathies, hold her or hug her. He just stared at her, and frowned at the delay in us getting dinner when my mum needed to sit down for a while.

My dad has been in debt a few times in his life through bad financial decisions. Altogether he's burnt through about ten family properties (his parents were quite wealthy) and sold them to cover his poor financial stewardship. At the moment he has no income and my mum supports him with rent from her properties she carefully built up over the years. About 75% of my mum's gross income goes to my dad (and he still treats her this way). Some recent verbal venom my dad gave to my mum was, "What good have you done for people?" My dad gives out charity - with my mum's money, and basks in the credit for it as the "great" Bible teacher of the church.

For my mum's birthday, she showed me WhatsApp messages from lots of people from the church, wishing her a happy and blessed birthday. Notably absent was any birthday greeting from her husband.

My mum on the other hand relives and recounts the traumas she gets from my dad by telling everyone who would listen what he does to her. It can't be healthy (spiritually, mentally or physically) not only for her but her audience.

So....my question is what I should do as the child. For a start I really don't want to hear these awful stories from my mum, but she has no one else to talk to. The venom and repeated traumas between them is too much that no one from their existing church wants to be the Christian friend and shoulder to lean on. So I have to listen to these stories and it really affects me seeing how "mature Christians" act.

Also, although I haven't asked my dad for money for a long time, I remember when I did, he never held back. So I don't feel it's my place to put brakes on his spending now, especially when he is ill with cancer. Also, even if he didn't provide for me, we are told to honor our parents (without any condition such as "only if they are good to the children....")

My dad has asked me and the other children for money a few times. I'm kind of reluctant to give because I feel the money would be wasted or given away so he can seem like the good/generous church Bible teacher (for example he's taken out his Bible students to expensive restaurants and paid for them from money he got from his children or my mum). He also gave (with no contract!) a church leader who claimed to be a good investor a lot of money after the person asked my dad to give him money to invest. Naturally when my dad asked for how his investment was doing, this weasel said he had lost all my father's money.

Any advice or prayers would be much appreciated.

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