Your last date

[EazyMack]

We were both completely exhausted.

Apparently so, if you're going on 3+ months to recover...

 

[William67]

Apparently so, if you're going on 3+ months to recover...

Actually, I found out she was seeing other guys. We had been dating for about 5 months and had agreed to be exclusive. I cant tolerate a liar.

 

[EazyMack]

Actually, I found out she was seeing other guys. We had been dating for about 5 months and had agreed to be exclusive. I cant tolerate a liar.

Oh.

Well that makes sense.

 

[scraparcs]

Went to the movies a few weeks ago to, well, watch a movie.

 

[EyesOfKohl]

Never had one

 

[toastface_grillah]

Went to a restaurant and ate and wished the whole time that I had just gone home after work that night. That's been almost 2 years ago.

Yikes. Was he a bad conversationalist?

Where did you go and what did you do on your last date?

for this thread, 'date' is defined as going out with someone of the opposite sex.

1) The last time I had a one-on-one outing with someone of the opposite sex? Two weeks ago - we went to the two-story Chick-Fil-A in midtown and talked about writing. We've been friends wayyyy too long for me to call our eatings dates.

2) My last Date date was in February. And it was a second date! We went to a classical music concert in Princeton (a mutual friendquaintance was playing the harp), and went to a tavern afterwards. Sadly, once she asked me why I hadn't been in a relationship in so long, the conversation went downhill faster than you could say "Mayday! Flight 123 requests emergency landing!"

 

[Goodbook]

There was this one guy who looked like he was going to ask me out that I met on a job but I didn't say yes immediately, so I gave him my email, and he gave me his, but never heard anything back from him and lost his email.

Are you supposed to say yes on the spot and go out later that day? I was wary because he was like this hippie dude with long hair and he seemed into yoga and stuff (his email address was yogi....) and he wanted to talk about spiritual improvement or something. I just told him yes that's interesting and I'm into life's journeys as well and I get my guidance from the Bible as I'm a christian.

Oh and awkward is when it seems like guys hit on you in prayer groups and you are just not interested, and then they ask someone else to ask you out, OR they keep asking you even after you say no, or hinting. I never know how to reject a guy but I suppose I just say no thanks. Or I'm busy. Its usually not them (but then I think yes it IS them) its me and I just think God will surely let me know intuitively that he is OK to go out with. But I seem to be one of those people who end up being asked out by the most unsuitable men. So maybe there really only is ONE. Or none.

 

[Goodbook]

I went to a concert the other week it was a free one and was meant to be in the choir actually but didn't rehearse enough..but it was with an older lady from church she even drove me lol. That was a nice date. Her husband didn't go with her cos he doesn't like that kind of thing. It was the philharmonic orchestra last night of the proms thing (although it was in the afternoon) and it was fun as I'd never been to one before and we ended up waving union jacks and being patriotic even though we aren't Brits.

Now if a guy asked me out to a concert that would be nice, because its something you both can enjoy. But I don't think they ever have suggested that. Not the ones I meet anyway. As long as it isn't like heavy rock, cos I get headaches from that.

 

[Toro]

and ....you are also very funny, too.

 

[com7fy8]

the other ones were horrible dates

Went to a restaurant and ate and wished the whole time that I had just gone home after work that night.

Just cause people love grumpy cats, don't mean the rules are the same for people.

He lacked a lot more than a sense of humor.

please do not tell my girlfriend, she thinks I was out drinking with the guys

If his invasion of my space had been as a jest I wouldn't have cared.

I would think it would be good to get to know someone before getting alone with someone or going out. If I don't trust someone enough to talk about things I am concerned about, why trust the person for a date?

My lady friend and I discovered each other at our church. I was already there. I observed her for a year while also sharing with her. And then we started meeting in the grocery store. After a while, she was asking me if I would be at the store, after church. Then I got her number and we did phone prayer and Bible. Then that big storm came, a couple of years ago. I "had" to know if she was ok. But I knew she had only a rechargeable cell; so I immediately said I only wanted to see if she was all right and I would hang right up so she could use her phone charge for an emergency or her family or anyone special to her. She said, oh that's all right and we talked some. Then I realized we might have something going. When she said call her the next day, while the electricity would likely still be out . . . oh boy was I in "heaven"

So, I call the date of that storm our "anniversary", and she and others hear about it during different times of the year.

But I am not saying this is the magic method. I don't think there is a really sure method to make sure about someone.

But I prayed and sought to submit to God to guide me about her, and correct me so I would obey Him about her. And guess what? We're not perfect!! So, there are problems. If god puts us with someone, it includes so we can help each other get real correction and find out how to love the way Jesus wants and the Bible says. There is a "reason" "why" Ephesians 4:2 says for us Jesus people to relate "with longsuffering". Our Father expects us to stay with each other who are His children, not to pick and choose who we can use and who is good enough for us to love. But we need to make sure with God about who we really belong with, and be committed to helping each other get real correction and His love's perfection.

 

[blackribbon]

There was this one guy who looked like he was going to ask me out that I met on a job but I didn't say yes immediately, so I gave him my email, and he gave me his, but never heard anything back from him and lost his email.

Are you supposed to say yes on the spot and go out later that day? I was wary because he was like this hippie dude with long hair and he seemed into yoga and stuff (his email address was yogi....) and he wanted to talk about spiritual improvement or something. I just told him yes that's interesting and I'm into life's journeys as well and I get my guidance from the Bible as I'm a christian.

Oh and awkward is when it seems like guys hit on you in prayer groups and you are just not interested, and then they ask someone else to ask you out, OR they keep asking you even after you say no, or hinting. I never know how to reject a guy but I suppose I just say no thanks. Or I'm busy. Its usually not them (but then I think yes it IS them) its me and I just think God will surely let me know intuitively that he is OK to go out with. But I seem to be one of those people who end up being asked out by the most unsuitable men. So maybe there really only is ONE. Or none.

Well, he asked and you didn't answer...so if you don't respond immediately, the ball is still in your court and you should have responded via your contact information within a short period of time. The date doesn't have to be that same day, but what new information did you need before you could say "yes, I'd be interested" or "no thank you". I did delay a response once because I really didn't know him from Adam...but based on the place we were when he asked (a teenage boy's baseball game-so he was an involved dad) and a quick google search that showed he wasn't married...I did call him back and accept. I mean, I did drive myself to meet him at the restaurant for safety reasons that first date.

 

[blackribbon]

aw, well at least he asked you out and you went somewhere.
I wouldn't like it if a guy just came to my house and he decided the date would be to camp out there and watch tv, or watch me wash my hair or something.
Um, no.
Show a girl a nice time, that doesn't involve a tv screen or computer and make her laugh I say.

I'd like to date someone long enough to get to this place of comfort again. That simply being together was enough. Not that I wouldn't want to go out occasionally, but I prefer the intimacy of not being in crowds or noise.

 

[William67]

Well, he asked and you didn't answer...so if you don't respond immediately, the ball is still in your court and you should have responded via your contact information within a short period of time. The date doesn't have to be that same day, but what new information did you need before you could say "yes, I'd be interested" or "no thank you". I did delay a response once because I really didn't know him from Adam...but based on the place we were when he asked (a teenage boy's baseball game-so he was an involved dad) and a quick google search that showed he wasn't married...I did call him back and accept. I mean, I did drive myself to meet him at the restaurant for safety reasons that first date.

Very smart in the age of closet crazies.

 

[blackribbon]

Very smart in the age of closet crazies.

Honestly, as long as you are in public and in control of your own transportation, how dangerous can it be? By driving myself, they don't know where I live (especially important because I have kids who can be home alone). So at that point, I am in no more danger than if I went to the restaurant or movies or whatever by myself.

 

[leothelioness]

Yikes. Was he a bad conversationalist?

He was a "no conversationalist". I did the vast majority of the taking to keep from having an awkward silence. He interrupted me mid-sentence twice, stared at the waitress's boobs and was just generally miserable company. And no, this wasn't an online date. We were set up by a mutual friend.

 

[leothelioness]

I'd like to date someone long enough to get to this place of comfort again. That simply being together was enough. Not that I wouldn't want to go out occasionally, but I prefer the intimacy of not being in crowds or noise.

Agree with this.

I'm a homebody, so I enjoy being at home most of the time with the occasional outing. I hope I can find someone who is okay with that part of my personality.

 

[gerbilwoman]

I've never been on a date but what I would like to do is go on a picnic.

 

[William67]

He was a "no conversationalist". I did the vast majority of the taking to keep from having an awkward silence. He interrupted me mid-sentence twice, stared at the waitress's boobs and was just generally miserable company. And no, this wasn't an online date. We were set up by a mutual friend.

I'm just the opposite. When I was a kid, my mother said I could talk someone's ear off. I havent changed alot. Usually, my dates are laughing half the time we are together...especially when I tell some of the crazy stories about when I was a kid. Most of the time I get, "Oh my word. hahaha Nothing like that ever happened to me as a kid". Many seem to really like the way I tell about the time I mistakenly ate a whole bar of ExLax thinking it was a Hershey bar. Wow was I sick afterward.

 

[leothelioness]

I'm just the opposite. When I was a kid, my mother said I could talk someone's ear off. I havent changed alot. Usually, my dates are laughing half the time we are together...especially when I tell some of the crazy stories about when I was a kid. Most of the time I get, "Oh my word. hahaha Nothing like that ever happened to me as a kid". Many seem to really like the way I tell about the time I mistakenly ate a whole bar of ExLax thinking it was a Hershey bar. Wow was I sick afterward.

Yeah, being able to ACTUALLY converse is important. It's amazing to me how few people can do that anymore.

And I bet you were sick after that.

 

[William67]

Yeah, being able to ACTUALLY converse is important. It's amazing to me how few people can do that anymore.

And I bet you were sick after that.

Oh, I was. The funny part is how I describe the doctors solution and the effect it had on me. Mom called our pediatrician and he told her to get some Syrup of Ipecac. You've heard of burning the candle at both ends? Well...consider me the candle. lol I was only three at the time. lol