Your Dream Wedding

[High Fidelity]

Now multiply that by the number of tables, bridesmaids, the flowers you want surrounding the ceremony...

It can if you let it. It doesn't have to, though. A simple bouquet of flowers is just as pretty and probably 90% cheaper.

Ultimately it boils down to can't vs won't. If someone is willing to compromise, I'm sure they'll be equally as happily married as if they hadn't. How many millions of weddings happen around the world to people immeasurably worse off financially to most of us here? I doubt they're kicking themselves over not being able to afford a catered event... if anything, most of them probably form a culture that necessitates or at least encourages greater family involvement in taking care of things themselves to that end, which isn't a bad thing.

Anyway, it doesn't have to cost that much. If a wedding 'can't' cost less than $10,000, it's not that it can't, it's one or both parties aren't prepared to accept that wedding.

 

[blackribbon]

I never said a wedding should cost $10,000. I simply said that we should celebrate life as much as we spend to "celebrate" death and it is something that should be considered when getting married.

 

[High Fidelity]

I never said a wedding should cost $10,000. I simply said that we should celebrate life as much as we spend to "celebrate" death and it is something that should be considered when getting married.

She wasn't replying to you, it's okay

Funerals are absurdly overpriced as well, but that's another story...

 

[blackribbon]

She wasn't replying to you, it's okay

Funerals are absurdly overpriced as well, but that's another story...

The number of $10,000 came from my post. And no one on this thread every said anything about spending $10,000 more on a wedding. Most people were talking about bare-bones ones. I like that Peachy has plans for a pretty wedding.

 

[High Fidelity]

The number of $10,000 came from my post.

No, my post several before yours specifically mentioned that sum regarding weddings, to which it was directly quoted and began that string of posts.

 

[blackribbon]

No, my post several before yours specifically mentioned that sum regarding weddings, to which it was directly quoted and began that string of posts.

ok..I am bouncing between two threads so must have missed something

 

[High Fidelity]

ok..I am bouncing between two threads so must have missed something

It's okay

My brain is sluggish. I haven't had coffee today because I had a stomach bug yesterday, so I don't want to chance it

 

[RayofSun]

$10000 is actually the low end of a wedding budget... Simple venues, inexpensive dresses, a little floral.. That will put you around the 10,000 mark alone. I think 20k is about average for a small catered wedding.

I have to agree.

I know 10K seems quite ridiculous and it is definitely possible to do your wedding for less. But many average, looks like a simple church and VERY simple reception end up costing around this.

Spoiler: Long story

My cousin was married this summer and both her and her husband are quite young, so they had a backyard wedding. Her parents rented a large tent for the backyard and most things were made by her aunts and family. But just the few flowers, her wedding dress, his suit, the photographer (only 1/2 price because it was a friend) the rental of the tent and a very reasonable meal (for the small group of people) still put them up around $5000. And I know they worked very hard to keep the number low.

Long story short if someone says their wedding cost or will cost 10k they may not be frivolous, or excessive. And if you attended the wedding you may not even be "blown away".

 

[Miss Spaulding]

That's just what I've found from working in the wedding industry. Even my sister had a simple wedding, picnic basket dinner for the guests that my family assembly line put together, decorations homemade, etc and hers was between 10 and 15k. Venues are seriously just really expensive. Photographers are really expensive. Feeding 100 people is really expensive. I don't think a lot of people realize what goes into it until they start planning.

Maybe prices for venues, catering, ect. varies from state to state. I just know my niece's wedding, which was catered, decorated, hired disc jockey, the whole nine yards, was beautiful and the expense did not exceed $5,000. In fact, it may have been under that price.

Granted, it was not easy. But we all put our heads together and made it work. What helped was finding a church that only cost $300 to do the service; decorating, music, ect. all included.

Anyway, I do get what you're saying. All the little details do tend to add up. I think one of the biggest expenses is probably the photographer. I get that they can charge those insane prices, but sometimes I think it's a bit much IMO.

I said that is how much I spent on my husband's FUNERAL...bare bones package but a grave funeral...and I didn't have to pay for the plot. (Actually, the check was closer to $12,000). Our wedding cost $500 with pictures and a video (I have the receipt). My dress was $35. He wore his uniform. I also spent $125 for formal pictures and $30 for flowers. It seemed such a shame that more money was spent on a party he couldn't come to and I wasn't in the mood to enjoy the people there)

My post was directed towards PeachieKeen. I failed to quote her post to clarify that. I'm sorry for the confusion.

 

[Celticroots]

Well, according to the US government, I can't get married because I have a disability. Well I could, but that would mean getting SSI which I need to live on, taken away. I am single right now and highly doubt I'll ever find anyone anyway. So worrying over nothing.

 

[Mydnyte]

I did always thing a beach wedding would be pretty awesome. Though with my luck a hurricane would strike.

 

[Miss Spaulding]

I did always thing a beach wedding would be pretty awesome. Though with my luck a hurricane would strike.

Lol. Doubtful. But I will say a summer wedding on a Florida beach could still be very risky because of the likely possibility of rain coming out of nowhere. Our summer weather is extremely unpredictable.

 

[Mydnyte]

Lol. Doubtful. But I will say a summer wedding on a Florida beach could still be very risky because of the likely possibility of rain coming out of nowhere. Our summer weather is extremely unpredictable.

I remember standing on a beach in Florida under a clear blue sky and the rain started coming in from a long ways off driven by the wind. Being from East Tennessee, I'm used to crazy weather though.

There's a number of neat places around here to get married, The Museum of Appalachia, and several other old nice looking barns and buildings. Oh and Biltmore Estate in North Carolina, but it's pretty expensive.

 

[High Fidelity]

Well, according to the US government, I can't get married because I have a disability. Well I could, but that would mean getting SSI which I need to live on, taken away. I am single right now and highly doubt I'll ever find anyone anyway. So worrying over nothing.

That's shocking. Hopefully that gets changed soon

 

[Miss Spaulding]

I remember standing on a beach in Florida under a clear blue sky and the rain started coming in from a long ways off driven by the wind. Being from East Tennessee, I'm used to crazy weather though.

There's a number of neat places around here to get married, The Museum of Appalachia, and several other old nice looking barns and buildings. Oh and Biltmore Estate in North Carolina, but it's pretty expensive.

Yeah, I was at the beach not too long ago and it was a beautiful clear day. Randomly, out of nowhere the huge, pea soup like fog came down on the beach and you could barely see anything. It was bizarre.

Ahh, I've always wanted to visit the Biltmore. I may actually do it in the near future. I didn't know they hosted weddings there though...lol, you probably have to sell your birthright to afford it or something.

 

[Celticroots]

That's shocking. Hopefully that gets changed soon

Yep. If two people with a disability get married they also stand to lose their benefits.

 

[Mydnyte]

Yeah, I was at the beach not too long ago and it was a beautiful clear day. Randomly, out of nowhere the huge, pea soup like fog came down on the beach and you could barely see anything. It was bizarre.

Ahh, I've always wanted to visit the Biltmore. I may actually do it in the near future. I didn't know they hosted weddings there though...lol, you probably have to sell your birthright to afford it or something.

Fog forms on the Clinch River at random times during the day here. It terrifies people from up north when they visit lol.

Out of curiosity, I looked up the price of a Biltmore wedding. Average is $45000

 

[Far Side Of the Moon]

So do we just pair up with whoever has a matching wedding with us on the forum? That's what I call speed dating!

That's beautiful... Of live a nice wedding ...not crazy expensive just something memorable.

 

[PeachieKeen]

Fog forms on the Clinch River at random times during the day here. It terrifies people from up north when they visit lol.

Out of curiosity, I looked up the price of a Biltmore wedding. Average is $45000

That's crazy. I remember forever ago I looked up Disney weddings and even the least expensive package was similarly nuts.

I've had some preliminary talks with bf and we're imagining a budget of around 20k total. I don't think that's too nuts, but sounds like some people here may think so.

 

[PeachieKeen]

Double post