I don't give a rat'w what your own personal, private definition is... you can define murder as little pink unicorns in your own private language if you like... but when engaging in public discussion, you have no right to demand the language's established, commonly recognised definitions change to accomodate you.
Take your pick of negative words that you can use APPROPRIATELY to describe abortion, should you so choose. Immoral, wrong, unethical, sinful, evil, whatever. Go for it. BUT MURDER WILL NEVER BE AN APPROPRIATE HOMONYM FOR ABORTION AS LONG AS IT IS LEGAL!
Its not just my definition my sweet friend, it is that of the Church and the whole Christian world and always has been. So the reality of it is that secular forces are attempting to change the definition of murder to suit secular beliefs (just as in the cases of ethnic cleansings) instead of conforming those beliefs to what God has said and where the rubber meets the road:
Exodus 23:7 - See that the man who is innocent and just is not done to death, and do not acquit the guilty
Psalm 139:13-16 For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother's womb. I praise you for I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well. My frame was not hidden from you when I was made in the secret place. When I was woven together in the depths of the earth, your eyes saw my unformed body. All the days ordained for me were written in your book before one of them came to be.
Jeremiah 1:4-6 The word of the Lord came to me saying, "Before I formed you in the womb I knew you, before you were born I set you apart; I appointed you as a prophet to the nations."
Galatians 1:15 But when God, who set me apart from birth and called me by his grace, was pleased to reveal his Son in me . . .
Psalm 127:3 Sons are a heritage from the Lord, children a reward from him.
Leviticus 20:1-5 The Lord said to Moses, "Say to the Israelites: Any Israelite or alien living in Israel who gives any of his children to Molech must be put to death. The people of the community are to stone him. I will set my face against that man and I will cut him off from his people; for by giving his children to Molech, he has defiled my sanctuary and profaned my holy name. If the people of the community close their eyes when that man gives one of his children to Molech and they fail to put him to death, I will set my face against that man and his family and will cut off from their people both him and all who follow him in prostituting themselves to Molech."
Matthew 18:10 See that you do not look down on one of these little ones. For I tell you that their angels in heaven always see the face of my father in heaven.
Isaiah 45:9-10 Woe to him who quarrels with the Maker, to him who is but a potsherd among the potsherds on the ground. Do the clay say to the potter, "What are you making?" Do your works say, "He has no hands?" Woe to him who says to his father, "What have you begotten?" Or to his mother, "What have you brought to birth?"
Ephesians 2:10 For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do.
I Corinthians 6:19-20 Do you not know that your body is the temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought with a price. Therefore honor God with your body.
Deuteronomy 30:19 This day I call heaven and earth as witnesses against you that I have set before you life and death, blessings and curses. Now choose life, so that you and your children may live.
What is at stake are womens souls and the lives of innocent children.
As said in the Didache (teaching of the 12) in the first century.
If you disagree with Gods definition of murder, perhaps you should take this up with God in prayer to the Holy Spirit to show you the truth.
Peace sister.