Wow, this board is depressing

[silentpoet]

Y wait? Make it happen. Then God will help u. I just random talk to whoever and hit on girls randomly.

I could have "a" woman if I all I wanted was sex. I am a bit more particular than that. I know of at least one I have thought about asking out. But mostly all I want from her is sex. So I don't think it would be a good idea. Not saying that is what you are implying, but that is what is out there for me right now. I am not the most ordinary guy around, so my needs for a good woman are very hard to meet. I continue prayer until God answers, or until I can take temptation no more.

 

[Sophrosyne]

It is harder on those single that are not saved than those that are. When I feel the singleness type stuff trying to gnaw at me I remind myself of everyone around me divorced and miserably married trying to stave off the feelings of loneliness. Some can cope with it well, others it can undo them. When my mother died my dad really took it hard and went nearly nuts trying to find someone to marry. My roommate I think did the same and was divorced less than a year later. Being single later in life can be both good and bad, you have to dwell on the good and give the bad to God and he can certainly handle it. I sometimes remind myself regardless of what happens in this life, when we are in heaven living eternally will we dwell on how lonely we were here being single at all?

 

[overit]

no offensive or anything..but you sound like u need attention. I understand u would voice on the issue..but just those words or the attitude of what you saying is much... depressing for a better word.

ROFL...ok THAT"s funny. I don't post here much anymore, I don't go around in pity parties about how miserable I am, how alone, how women suck, how evil women are, how bad everything is, making controversial statements ....and you think I'M looking for attention?
Can anyone say projection? Take a look in the mirror koban

Go on with the pity parties and women and relationship bashing....it'll get you the attention YOU are wanting.

That on a scale of 1-10 of projection you just rated a 10.

 

[joanna1]

Only when you are filing a form and it asks for your marital status. If someone asks you if you are single then they are asking if you have any kind of SO not if you are unmarried.

Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against you being here. But you can't really define yourself as single to anyone but the government.

I must say that's the way I feel as well!! I always put it down to a cultural thing, but I can't help being a bit "offended" when people post about their wonderful girlfriends/boyfriends on the singles board, because I feel it trivialises the suffering of those who are REALLY single, as in without a date. To me a single person is a person who is not dating anyone. I know for sure the day I get a boyfriend I'm outa here !

 

[Luther073082]

I must say that's the way I feel as well!! I always put it down to a cultural thing, but I can't help being a bit "offended" when people post about their wonderful girlfriends/boyfriends on the singles board, because I feel it trivialises the suffering of those who are REALLY single, as in without a date. To me a single person is a person who is not dating anyone. I know for sure the day I get a boyfriend I'm outa here !

Well I don't have an issue with them posting here. But I think its silly to call themselves single.

 

[2scoops]

I haven't read all the responses, but I have noticed some complaining myself. There is a difference in complaining and confessing.

Philippians 2:13-15 (New King James Version)

13 for it is God who works in you both to will and to do for His good pleasure.
14 Do all things without complaining and disputing, 15 that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world,

Now, it's all right to come in and say i'm stuggling with something, confessing.

James 5:15-17 (New King James Version)

15 And the prayer of faith will save the sick, and the Lord will raise him up. And if he has committed sins, he will be forgiven. 16 Confess your trespasses[a] to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much. 17 Elijah was a man with a nature like ours, and he prayed earnestly that it would not rain; and it did not rain on the land for three years and six months.

After those confess, we should try and lift them up and encourage them. But, complaining gets us no where.

Romans 14:19 (King James Version)

19 Let us therefore follow after the things which make for peace, and things wherewith one may edify another.

 

[Macrina]

I can't help being a bit "offended" when people post about their wonderful girlfriends/boyfriends on the singles board, because I feel it trivialises the suffering of those who are REALLY single, as in without a date.

Well, some of us try to be considerate. I'll bet most people here would be hard-pressed to identify which CF member I met here on Singles and am now in a relationship with.

I started a spin-off thread on this issue, because when someone is told that they don't belong to a group, we don't really feel welcome, even if we are graciously "allowed" to post here.

 

[overit]

Macrina I agree with you. Joanna, I don't care if they are in a relationship and post here! Not all singles here are suffering because they are w/out a date or here to share about such miseries. SOme of us are to debate things, get insight, advice, laugh, share, get opinions or tackle very serious issues or intellectual ones.

Maybe there should be a seperate sub-group?

I'm glad for those that do have dates, they have much experience and advice to share for those that are on this board for the purpose of finding a partner.

I hope they keep coming back.

 

[silentpoet]

[BIBLE]Job 9:

27 If I say, 'I will forget my complaint,
I will change my expression, and smile,'

28 I still dread all my sufferings, [/BIBLE]

So while I do try to not be negative about my status, it is always there on my mind at some level. If I do not speak it only grows within me. If I speak of it at least I can in some ways put limits on it.

This is an important issue for me so it does effect my whole world view. I suppose I could be moderately positive aside from being single. But being alone takes so much of my energy/heart that it is hard to keep my head up. I am very, pardon the phrase, single minded and goal oriented. And there is one main motivation for me. Being without that causes pain. But as I said before I will keep praying and having some level of hope as long as I can.

 

[~HopeFloats~]

maybe it is depressing but the real truth is the threads you read.. are that of a real person..

I think for me I have times of lonliness and times where I am content..

I think reading everyone posts help even if we do not realize it.


Mac nice to see you hear...miss ya

 

[Im_A]

This isn't meant to be offensive, but it's just sad seeing how some people are coping with being single. Just from breifly reading through some of the threads, it seems like some of your lives are just so dull without someone to share it with, and that makes me sad. I struggled with depression for about a year in regards to being single, but then I realized that I wasn't even trying to do anything about it. I just sat back and someone thought a perfect girl would magically find her way to me. I am only 17, so I have plenty of time left, but for those of you who are single, can you honestly say that you try to get out there and socialize? Heck, even church is a great place to start looking, because you know they will (or at least are more likely) to have the one quality that is most important. Anyway, I don't know everyone's story, and I know there's that theory that some people are just "gifted at being single" (which I say bahumbug too... God places desires in your heart for a reason, not to torture you), but maybe people aren't trying hard enough or are afraid to get out there on that "hip crazy scene" all the youngsters seem to be clamoring about today Anyway, I hope you all end up finding that special person, because I can't think of a more beautiful way to glorify God on Earth than through a relationship with another that includes God in everything.

if you think it is depressing, why are you coming here? i'm not meaning to be offensive either

but seriously. sometimes people need to vent about their life/problems. it doesn't mean their life is dull or bad, it just means they dealing with the baggage of their own experiences in life with relationships. it is their time of sorrow. so let them have it with peace. if you don't like reading it, then don't, and move on and if you want to pray about it silently.



now to answer you questions in this, no i don't get out and socialize. i don't want to go to church to find a woman. i want a woman to be interested in me more than being turned on by my religious convictions

i've been in the bar scene or the "hip-scene". bar flies are poisonous, so my opinion is to stay away from them. and if love can be found while abiding poison, it is poison to begin with and i want loneliness over that.

i'm content and happy with the single life. i went through my rough times with the engagement i was in falling apart and thus being single again, and i may have many more ahead of me, but all i know is right now i'm content. i have my job, golf, my little apartment, the things i enjoy and life is alright for now. love may be on its way soon or not for me, life will always go on.

but please. i know your not meaning to be offensive, and i beg you don't see me as being offensive, but there may be some people here that really need to use the freedom of this online forum to deal with what is boggeling their life down. i'm not one to see how describing the water around them is really encouragement.

God Bless you bro.!

 

[Keri]

Great post TS...

 

[Keri]

I don't think this board is depressing at all. That's just my opinion.