Would you marry a woman who was a former stripper or X-rated star if she turned into a Christian ?

[QuestionQuest74]

If an attractive women that was a former sex-worker becomes a Christian woman would you date her and consider marriage with her ?

 

[Bobber]

If an attractive women that was a former sex-worker becomes a Christian woman would you date her and consider marriage with her ?

I think I mentioned to you on another thread......I'd pray to God and see if she was for me. Even if she didn't have this colorful past and always was a good moral person....I still wouldn't marry her.....What God are YOU saying to me?

As for her being what you said......sex worker well remember......all, ALL, ALL, have sinned and fallen short...remember this too......guess who is in the genealogy of Jesus Christ? Rahab the prostitute of Jericho!

Salmon and Rahab were the father and mother of Boaz. Boaz and Ruth were the father and mother of Obed. … Matthew 1:5

So through Rahab came Jesus Christ down the line. So if Salmon can marry a former prostitute can't be considered wrong if one in our day got saved and a Christian married her. Remember you were washed, cleansed, sanctified and the scarlet thread of blood (of Jesus) makes one just as if they'd NEVER sinned.

 

[QuestionQuest74]

I think I mentioned to you on another thread......I'd pray to God and see if she was for me. Even if she didn't have this colorful past and always was a good moral person....I still wouldn't marry her.....What God are YOU saying to me?

As for her being what you said......sex worker well remember......all, ALL, ALL, have sinned and fallen short...remember this too......guess who is in the genealogy of Jesus Christ? Rahab the prostitute of Jericho!

Salmon and Rahab were the father and mother of Boaz. Boaz and Ruth were the father and mother of Obed. … Matthew 1:5

So through Rahab came Jesus Christ down the line. So if Salmon can marry a former prostitute can't be considered wrong if one in our day got saved and a Christian married her. Remember you were washed, cleansed, sanctified and the scarlet thread of blood (of Jesus) makes one just as if they'd NEVER sinned.

I know but im seeing everyone views on this

 

[PloverWing]

If an attractive women that was a former sex-worker becomes a Christian woman would you date her and consider marriage with her ?

Me? I'm already married, and I'm not attracted to women, so that's a no for me.

You? You have to decide for yourself, looking honestly inside yourself, whether it's going to bother you that your potential spouse has had other partners, and that they've done sex work for money. If 5, 10, 20 years into the marriage, you're still going to be holding it against them, then don't waste their time, and move on to someone else. Or, if you're a virgin, and it matters to you that your partner is also a virgin, then you may want to date someone else. On the other hand, if you've both had multiple partners before, you might be able to commit to one another "from this day forward" and make it work. So, being honest with yourself, does your partner's past as a sex worker bother you, or not, and how much?

 

[Sketcher]

Me? No I would not. Forgiveness is great and all but she still wouldn't be the right kind of person for me.

 

[QuestionQuest74]

Me? No I would not. Forgiveness is great and all but she still wouldn't be the right kind of person for me.

Y not ?

 

[Sketcher]

Y not ?

I'm going to put this in spoiler tags so people who would be uncomfortable with reading my reasons don't have to.

Spoiler: why

Being forgiven by God does not scrub your Internet presence, reverse the two becoming one flesh, cure STDs or addictions, heal trauma, make dysfunctional relatives functional, erase your sexual memories, or erase other people's sexual memories of you. If I get married, I'd want to be able to take her to work parties and no one has ever been with her, or seen her indecently (and so many of my coworkers have looked at porn). Furthermore, being as I have saved myself for marriage and I continue to do so, I want that in return. My folks waited, they're still together, and they told me that helped. I know who I take after, and I believe that would also be helpful to me. I know there are other couples who go through retroactive jealousy, sometimes it (weirdly) kicks in years into the relationship, and I don't want to experience that with someone I am married to.

When picking a spouse, we need to be realistic about what "warts and all" means because that is what we are getting when we get married. Realistically, I see the above "warts" as deal breakers for me, therefore I couldn't seriously consider a woman who has those as the right wife for me.

 

[QuestionQuest74]

I'm going to put this in spoiler tags so people who would be uncomfortable with reading my reasons don't have to.

Spoiler: why

Being forgiven by God does not scrub your Internet presence, reverse the two becoming one flesh, cure STDs or addictions, heal trauma, make dysfunctional relatives functional, erase your sexual memories, or erase other people's sexual memories of you. If I get married, I'd want to be able to take her to work parties and no one has ever been with her, or seen her indecently (and so many of my coworkers have looked at inappropriate content). Furthermore, being as I have saved myself for marriage and I continue to do so, I want that in return. My folks waited, they're still together, and they told me that helped. I know who I take after, and I believe that would also be helpful to me. I know there are other couples who go through retroactive jealousy, sometimes it (weirdly) kicks in years into the relationship, and I don't want to experience that with someone I am married to.

When picking a spouse, we need to be realistic about what "warts and all" means because that is what we are getting when we get married. Realistically, I see the above "warts" as deal breakers for me, therefore I couldn't seriously consider a woman who has those as the right wife for me.

She’s beautiful and have great traits you would want in a Godly women

 

[camipls]

I'm going to put this in spoiler tags so people who would be uncomfortable with reading my reasons don't have to.

Spoiler: why

Being forgiven by God does not scrub your Internet presence, reverse the two becoming one flesh, cure STDs or addictions, heal trauma, make dysfunctional relatives functional, erase your sexual memories, or erase other people's sexual memories of you. If I get married, I'd want to be able to take her to work parties and no one has ever been with her, or seen her indecently (and so many of my coworkers have looked at inappropriate content). Furthermore, being as I have saved myself for marriage and I continue to do so, I want that in return. My folks waited, they're still together, and they told me that helped. I know who I take after, and I believe that would also be helpful to me. I know there are other couples who go through retroactive jealousy, sometimes it (weirdly) kicks in years into the relationship, and I don't want to experience that with someone I am married to.

When picking a spouse, we need to be realistic about what "warts and all" means because that is what we are getting when we get married. Realistically, I see the above "warts" as deal breakers for me, therefore I couldn't seriously consider a woman who has those as the right wife for me.

It's not just about being forgiven, it's about the fact that in Jesus, we are born again. I respect your opinion, but I feel like you're just talking about yourself, what you seek in a partner without taking into consideration the woman's perspective? We all have a past, it can be sexual or not. Have you ever lied about something before? I'm sure you have. What if, one day, with your new spouse, you walk into a room and encounter an old friend from high school who swears you lied to him about something you can't remember? Would it bother you that your spouse no longer wants you because of that? I understand your thought process, my friend, as I am too saving myself for marriage, and I know you are probably not seeking advice, but I am telling you this with love: If Jesus is able to not only forgive your mistakes, but welcome you into his ministry to serve him despite your mistakes, then you should try to do the same to others. After all, we are called to follow Jesus and be like him. I am telling you this from the perspective of a woman who thinks sexual shame is heavily placed upon us as a gender, and it shouldn't be. Being a stripper isn't any worse than being a liar, a thief, a smoker or a selfish person

 

[camipls]

How can we expect Jesus to forgive our past mistakes if we don't do the same with others? Aren't we called to follow into Jesus footsteps? To live as he lived, and love as he loved?

“I, even I, am he who blots out​

your transgressions, for my own sake,​

and remembers your sins no more.​

Isaiah 43:25​

​

Jesus not only forgives us, but welcomes us into a relationship with him, into his ministry. He doesn't say things like "hey yes i forgive you but i wouldn't want to be around you" or "you're not the kind of person i want to have in my ministry" so... yeah. I myself, as a woman, wouldn't want other men to judge me for my past sins, ESPECIALLY if I have repented and I'm converted. If Jesus doesn't treat me like that, why would you, also a sinner, do the same? The devil looooves to convince people that some sins are bigger than others, but that's just a lie. To God, all sins are the same, that's why he has the grace to forgive any kind of sin. You are a pedophile? If you repent and seek him out, God will forgive you. You lied to your mother about something serious? God will forgive that too, and have a place for you in heaven.

Denying this is denying Jesus's nature and the fact that he "makes all things new"

“Therefore if ANY man be in Christ, he is a NEW CREATURE: old things are passed away; behold, all things are become new." (2 Corinthians 5:17)

She is no longer a stripper. She was born anew, she is a new creature.

 

[QuestionQuest74]

It's not just about being forgiven, it's about the fact that in Jesus, we are born again. I respect your opinion, but I feel like you're just talking about yourself, what you seek in a partner without taking into consideration the woman's perspective? We all have a past, it can be sexual or not. Have you ever lied about something before? I'm sure you have. What if, one day, with your new spouse, you walk into a room and encounter an old friend from high school who swears you lied to him about something you can't remember? Would it bother you that your spouse no longer wants you because of that? I understand your thought process, my friend, as I am too saving myself for marriage, and I know you are probably not seeking advice, but I am telling you this with love: If Jesus is able to not only forgive your mistakes, but welcome you into his ministry to serve him despite your mistakes, then you should try to do the same to others. After all, we are called to follow Jesus and be like him. I am telling you this from the perspective of a woman who thinks sexual shame is heavily placed upon us as a gender, and it shouldn't be. Being a stripper isn't any worse than being a liar, a thief, a smoker or a selfish person

I mean that’s his preference though he is not denying her as a Christian. Some Godly women would deny a romantic relationship with a Christian man with a dark past as well let’s not pretend all of us are open to everyone romantically. I still want to hear his point of view.

 

[Sketcher]

She’s beautiful and have great traits you would want in a Godly women

If that's what you want, fine. You asked me what I would do. Personally I believe that it is easy to misread someone's traits early on, and that the Godly woman traits do indeed come with women who don't have the aforementioned issues that I would like to avoid.

 

[QuestionQuest74]

If that's what you want, fine. You asked me what I would do. Personally I believe that it is easy to misread someone's traits early on, and that the Godly woman traits do indeed come with women who don't have the aforementioned issues that I would like to avoid.

I would prefer one not with that past too im just seeing different perspectives of why they shouldn’t or should pursue one.

 

[Sketcher]

I would prefer one not with that past too im just seeing different perspectives of why they shouldn’t or should pursue one.

I hope mine proves useful to you.

 

[QuestionQuest74]

I hope mine proves useful to you.

Preferred more insight to why you refused to date them but if this most you want to express that’s cool.

 

[Sketcher]

Preferred more insight to why you refused to date them but if this most you want to express that’s cool.

If you click on the spoiler button in post I made (which has "spoiler: why" on it) it provides details. If you need more details than that, let me know what specifically you need more details on.

 

[QuestionQuest74]

If you click on the spoiler button in post I made (which has "spoiler: why" on it) it provides details. If you need more details than that, let me know what specifically you need more details on.

I didn’t know we can use that button (my bad ). That was great insight though.

 

[AlexB23]

I think I mentioned to you on another thread......I'd pray to God and see if she was for me. Even if she didn't have this colorful past and always was a good moral person....I still wouldn't marry her.....What God are YOU saying to me?

As for her being what you said......sex worker well remember......all, ALL, ALL, have sinned and fallen short...remember this too......guess who is in the genealogy of Jesus Christ? Rahab the prostitute of Jericho!

Salmon and Rahab were the father and mother of Boaz. Boaz and Ruth were the father and mother of Obed. … Matthew 1:5

So through Rahab came Jesus Christ down the line. So if Salmon can marry a former prostitute can't be considered wrong if one in our day got saved and a Christian married her. Remember you were washed, cleansed, sanctified and the scarlet thread of blood (of Jesus) makes one just as if they'd NEVER sinned.

I agree. As long as the former worker has repented of her actions, and promises not to revert to her old ways, yes, I will marry her if she is a Christian. We have all sinned, and Matthew 1:5 is a good verse for this example.

I know nothing about this, so searched up the term "former [keeping it clean here] worker turned Christian" on Google, and a woman named Annie Lobert used to work in this industry, before switching to Christ. She founded a ministry to help other prostitutes turn to Jesus: Annie Lobert - Wikipedia

 

[QuestionQuest74]

I agree. As long as the former worker has repented of her actions, and promises not to revert to her old ways, yes, I will marry her if she is a Christian. We have all sinned, and Matthew 1:5 is a good verse for this example.

I know nothing about this, so searched up the term "former [keeping it clean here] worker turned Christian" on Google, and a woman named Annie Lobert used to work in this industry, before switching to Christ. She founded a ministry to help other prostitutes turn to Jesus: Annie Lobert - Wikipedia

What if she hasn’t healed mentally from her past ?

 

[AlexB23]

What if she hasn’t healed mentally from her past ?

If she hasn't healed from her past, before marriage, I would recommend her to a Christian psychologist, or bring her to a pastor or priest. Some people get scarred for life. But hey, we all have scars. Just as long as she doesn't repeat any mistakes or goes back into that industry.