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Dzhessika
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Had kids?Yes that's not a problem every one deserves a second chance.
Was divorced?It depends how many times they've been divorced once maybe more then that not sure .
Smokes? Definately not I don't want to be kissing an ashtray and I can't stand the smell of smoke.
Drinks?Yes ,long as its in moderation and they don't force me to.
Uses drugs?No
Was not from your denomination?Yes
Was not a Christian?probably not
Was overweight?Yes , who am I to judge someone since I am over weight myself and there could be a reason for the overweightness
Has body odor?Hmmm maybe depends how bad it is
Dresses poorly? Yes
Bathes seldomly?How seldom we talking here lol
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)?Hmm possibly I wouldn't be against it
Was 5 years younger than you?Yes
How about 10 years younger?No that'd be rocking the cradle
Was 5 years older than you?Sure ideally I wouldn't want to date someone over 7 years .
10 years older?Probably not.
Has no car?Sure there's ways to get around.
Has no job?Depends on the circumstances but most likely
Has no money?Yep there's more to a relationship then money.
Has no ambition for the future?Yes
Is negative?Yes but i'd try to encourage them to think positively
Doesn't go to church? Yes and try to encourage them to go with me
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you?Yes
Your parents did not approve of?That'd be hard I would want my parents blessings but ultimately its my decision who I see and I'd hope they'd come to terms with that eventually.
Is Clingy? .Sure , I can be clingy at times too so we'd just be stuck together =)
Talks about marriage right away? .Eh probably not I'd wonder what the motives would be.
Is awesome?Definately!
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) Sure , long as he'd allow me to eat meat I love me chicken!
Was divorced?It depends how many times they've been divorced once maybe more then that not sure .
Smokes? Definately not I don't want to be kissing an ashtray and I can't stand the smell of smoke.
Drinks?Yes ,long as its in moderation and they don't force me to.
Uses drugs?No
Was not from your denomination?Yes
Was not a Christian?probably not
Was overweight?Yes , who am I to judge someone since I am over weight myself and there could be a reason for the overweightness
Has body odor?Hmmm maybe depends how bad it is
Dresses poorly? Yes
Bathes seldomly?How seldom we talking here lol
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)?Hmm possibly I wouldn't be against it
Was 5 years younger than you?Yes
How about 10 years younger?No that'd be rocking the cradle
Was 5 years older than you?Sure ideally I wouldn't want to date someone over 7 years .
10 years older?Probably not.
Has no car?Sure there's ways to get around.
Has no job?Depends on the circumstances but most likely
Has no money?Yep there's more to a relationship then money.
Has no ambition for the future?Yes
Is negative?Yes but i'd try to encourage them to think positively
Doesn't go to church? Yes and try to encourage them to go with me
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you?Yes
Your parents did not approve of?That'd be hard I would want my parents blessings but ultimately its my decision who I see and I'd hope they'd come to terms with that eventually.
Is Clingy? .Sure , I can be clingy at times too so we'd just be stuck together =)
Talks about marriage right away? .Eh probably not I'd wonder what the motives would be.
Is awesome?Definately!
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) Sure , long as he'd allow me to eat meat I love me chicken!
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So this is just dating? Like go out on a date? Or be in a relationship with? I'm going to assume you're talking about going out on a date.
Had kids? Sure.
Was divorced? Sure.
Smokes? Sure.
Drinks? Sure.
Uses drugs? No.
Was not from your denomination? Sure.
Was not a Christian? Sure.
Was overweight? Sure.
Has body odor? No.
Dresses poorly? By poorly you mean?
Bathes seldomly? No.
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? Sure.
Was 5 years younger than you? Sure.
How about 10 years younger? Gross.
Was 5 years older than you? Sure.
10 years older? Sure.
Has no car? Sure.
Has no job? Sure.
Has no money? Sure.
Has no ambition for the future? Mixed with no car, no job, no money, probably not. Some people have no car because they prefer public transit, walking or biking. Some have no job because it's a tough market. Some have no money because they're barely making ends meet. But if they don't have all three AND have no ambition for the future, then that's a no.
Is negative? I'd rather not.
Doesn't go to church? Sure.
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? Sure.
Your parents did not approve of? It's a date and why would my parents care who I go out on a date with?
Is Clingy? What does this have to do with a date?
Talks about marriage right away? How can you know what their views are if you don't go on a date and get to know them?
Is awesome? Sure.
Had kids? Sure.
Was divorced? Sure.
Smokes? Sure.
Drinks? Sure.
Uses drugs? No.
Was not from your denomination? Sure.
Was not a Christian? Sure.
Was overweight? Sure.
Has body odor? No.
Dresses poorly? By poorly you mean?
Bathes seldomly? No.
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? Sure.
Was 5 years younger than you? Sure.
How about 10 years younger? Gross.
Was 5 years older than you? Sure.
10 years older? Sure.
Has no car? Sure.
Has no job? Sure.
Has no money? Sure.
Has no ambition for the future? Mixed with no car, no job, no money, probably not. Some people have no car because they prefer public transit, walking or biking. Some have no job because it's a tough market. Some have no money because they're barely making ends meet. But if they don't have all three AND have no ambition for the future, then that's a no.
Is negative? I'd rather not.
Doesn't go to church? Sure.
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? Sure.
Your parents did not approve of? It's a date and why would my parents care who I go out on a date with?
Is Clingy? What does this have to do with a date?
Talks about marriage right away? How can you know what their views are if you don't go on a date and get to know them?
Is awesome? Sure.
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I would be curious to see what married people would have to say about such lists. Though I do believe this is just to pass the time and not to be taken too seriously. In that case..
Would you date / go out with someone who…
Had kids? Yes; that might even make it easier to date as he would understand
Was divorced? No, not previously married either
Smokes? No
Drinks? Yes, but not a drunkard or someone who can't just have 1 or 2 drinks and be fine... but I'm much more attracted to men who have never drank alcohol a day in their life and have no desire to.
Uses drugs? Overall, no.
Was not from your denomination? Yes.
Was not a Christian? Not ever again.
Was overweight? Chub chub?
Has body odor? Like bad b.o.? No. I have an acute sense of smell. And cleanliness and good hygiene are important.
Dresses poorly? No. I'd spend too much time making him over in my head.. and those changes never stick. All in all, I don't want to have to or desire to change any man I'm with.
Bathes seldomly? Can he pull it off? Then, no.
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? Taller than me, fine. Shorter than me, I don't think so.
Was 5 years younger than you? Maybe.
How about 10 years younger? He'd have to be an amazing 22 yr old man.
Was 5 years older than you? Yes.
10 years older? Maybe.
Has no car? Depends. Is he "green?" Then, yes. He won't be expecting rides from me then. Too lazy to get a license and car? NO.
Has no job? "I'm on unemployment, I don't need a job." <-- That type? HELL NO. Laid off and has a brief lapse in employment? Okay.
Has no money? I have no money. It's a match made in heaven. Or not so much.
Has no ambition for the future? Never. If I can't dream with you, I don't want to live with you.
Is negative? No. I'm negative enough for the both of us.
Doesn't go to church? I need more information.
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? Absolutely.
Your parents did not approve of? No. Chances are, if they disapprove, so do I.
Is Clingy? No. Lovingly jealous at times? Sure.
Talks about marriage right away? Idk. Probably not.
Is awesome? He'd have to be.
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) Sure.
Would you date / go out with someone who…
Had kids? Yes; that might even make it easier to date as he would understand
Was divorced? No, not previously married either
Smokes? No
Drinks? Yes, but not a drunkard or someone who can't just have 1 or 2 drinks and be fine... but I'm much more attracted to men who have never drank alcohol a day in their life and have no desire to.
Uses drugs? Overall, no.
Was not from your denomination? Yes.
Was not a Christian? Not ever again.
Was overweight? Chub chub?
Has body odor? Like bad b.o.? No. I have an acute sense of smell. And cleanliness and good hygiene are important.
Dresses poorly? No. I'd spend too much time making him over in my head.. and those changes never stick. All in all, I don't want to have to or desire to change any man I'm with.
Bathes seldomly? Can he pull it off? Then, no.
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? Taller than me, fine. Shorter than me, I don't think so.
Was 5 years younger than you? Maybe.
How about 10 years younger? He'd have to be an amazing 22 yr old man.
Was 5 years older than you? Yes.
10 years older? Maybe.
Has no car? Depends. Is he "green?" Then, yes. He won't be expecting rides from me then. Too lazy to get a license and car? NO.
Has no job? "I'm on unemployment, I don't need a job." <-- That type? HELL NO. Laid off and has a brief lapse in employment? Okay.
Has no money? I have no money. It's a match made in heaven. Or not so much.
Has no ambition for the future? Never. If I can't dream with you, I don't want to live with you.
Is negative? No. I'm negative enough for the both of us.
Doesn't go to church? I need more information.
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? Absolutely.
Your parents did not approve of? No. Chances are, if they disapprove, so do I.
Is Clingy? No. Lovingly jealous at times? Sure.
Talks about marriage right away? Idk. Probably not.
Is awesome? He'd have to be.
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) Sure.
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A simple yes or no? Oh dear. That's asking too much.
Had kids?
Goats? Sure. I love goats.
Children aren't really a big issue for me, it just means approaching the situation with the knowledge that it's not just two people getting to know each other, it's two people then additional people who may not be quite as forgiving of a new person in the life of their father.
Was divorced?
It would depend on the circumstances of the divorce.
Smokes?
It would depend on the frequency and whether they'd be willing to sacrifice their indoor smoking time for the health of the animals. Nothing worse than a white dog with nicotine staining and stinking of cigarettes. It just combines with natural dog smell and reminds me of old men in dark pubs.
Drinks?
Everyone needs to drink.
Alcoholic beverages would be a different matter. I used to think I could, but I can't stand the smell of alcohol on the breath of another. Really would depend on frequency and consumption rate.
Uses drugs?
Recreationally? My opinion has changed since the last time someone posed dating questions. No. I've had enough of people who smoke spliffs all day, pop pills, do various other things. I'd rather not have that in my life any more.
Was not from your denomination?
Denomination shouldn't be an issue, but it boils down to the traditions and interpretations of that denomination and how the individual who belongs to it applies them to their life. We can both believe in God, strive to live good Christian lives, the whole bundle, but if we have clashes over fundamental aspects of our Christian lives because the denominations we both follow offer different views that cannot be overcome ... it's an issue.
Was not a Christian?
Usually I say yes. A good person is a good person regardless of faith.
Recently ... no. I have enough non-Christians in my life, it would be nice not to have someone go "I had no idea you were a Bible basher" when they looked at my desk area
Was overweight?
Yes.
I'm taking this as being actually overweight, to the point where it may have some health implications but does not have a serious implications for their day to day life. If someone can walk, participate in ambling walks up the side of mountains and otherwise enjoy a not-too-vigorous life style then it's all good.
Has body odor?
Everyone has body odour, they just mask it with scents. It would depend on whether it was the odour of someone who has done a hard days work and sees no need for deodorants or the smell of someone who frequently forgets to wash the work day sweat off.
Dresses poorly?
I really couldn't care less about fashion sense.
Bathes seldomly?
Providing they still wash (you know, flannel, bucket/sink, scrub down) then bathing frequency shouldn't be too much of an issue.
Shorter than you?
Sure, so long as they do not allow their lives to be consumed with rage at being short. You know, the whole blaming being short on their own inability to do certain things.
Was 5 years younger than you?
It would depend on the individual, but generally no.
How about 10 years younger?
Legally that can only be done when you reach 26 and then then you'll be viewed with suspicion until you hit 32. So no.
Was 5 years older than you?
It would depend on the individual.
10 years older?
Again it depends on the individual.
Has no car?
We can be public transport buddies, hurrah!
Has no job?
This is actually influenced by the reasons behind them having no job and what they do with their empty time.
Has no money?
As in completely penniless and living on the streets? If we're going to be honest the situation probably wouldn't come up. All the meal dispensing in the world generally wont allow enough time to get to know someone to the point where dating is on the cards.
If they having no money translates to just being able to afford bills and not much more then sure thing. It isn't a huge issue.
Has no ambition for the future?
Probably not.
Is negative?
We can be negative nellies together, hurrah!
Doesn't go to church?
Not a huge issue, but it would be nice.
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you?
Doesn't really concern me.
Your parents did not approve of?
Replace parents with family and it's a "probably not". For lots of reasons. I value their opinion, I know they know I tend to float around not really noticing little things until they bite me in the face, so i'll trust their judgement.
Is Clingy?
No. I need space.
Talks about marriage right away?
General marriage talk as in "one day i'd like to get married" or "OH MY GOSH WITHIN THE FIRST MINUTE I KNOW WE ARE DESTINED TO BE TOGETHER FOREVER, LET US MARRY NEXT WEEK!"? I appreciate someone coming out and saying they want to get married, it lets everyone know whether this is casual fun dating or something a little more serious. If it's marriage with me straight away ... no. It would be this big red flag, a huge red flag. It's not how I roll.
Is awesome?
Self proclaimed awesome? No. Awesome as defined by other people? Yay.
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?)
Sure, it's not exactly a huge issue. Depends on whether it's simply a dietary choice or a way of life. There's a difference between someone who eats a vegan diet and someone who follows the vegan lifestyle.
Had kids?
Goats? Sure. I love goats.
Children aren't really a big issue for me, it just means approaching the situation with the knowledge that it's not just two people getting to know each other, it's two people then additional people who may not be quite as forgiving of a new person in the life of their father.
Was divorced?
It would depend on the circumstances of the divorce.
Smokes?
It would depend on the frequency and whether they'd be willing to sacrifice their indoor smoking time for the health of the animals. Nothing worse than a white dog with nicotine staining and stinking of cigarettes. It just combines with natural dog smell and reminds me of old men in dark pubs.
Drinks?
Everyone needs to drink.
Alcoholic beverages would be a different matter. I used to think I could, but I can't stand the smell of alcohol on the breath of another. Really would depend on frequency and consumption rate.
Uses drugs?
Recreationally? My opinion has changed since the last time someone posed dating questions. No. I've had enough of people who smoke spliffs all day, pop pills, do various other things. I'd rather not have that in my life any more.
Was not from your denomination?
Denomination shouldn't be an issue, but it boils down to the traditions and interpretations of that denomination and how the individual who belongs to it applies them to their life. We can both believe in God, strive to live good Christian lives, the whole bundle, but if we have clashes over fundamental aspects of our Christian lives because the denominations we both follow offer different views that cannot be overcome ... it's an issue.
Was not a Christian?
Usually I say yes. A good person is a good person regardless of faith.
Recently ... no. I have enough non-Christians in my life, it would be nice not to have someone go "I had no idea you were a Bible basher" when they looked at my desk area
Was overweight?
Yes.
I'm taking this as being actually overweight, to the point where it may have some health implications but does not have a serious implications for their day to day life. If someone can walk, participate in ambling walks up the side of mountains and otherwise enjoy a not-too-vigorous life style then it's all good.
Has body odor?
Everyone has body odour, they just mask it with scents. It would depend on whether it was the odour of someone who has done a hard days work and sees no need for deodorants or the smell of someone who frequently forgets to wash the work day sweat off.
Dresses poorly?
I really couldn't care less about fashion sense.
Bathes seldomly?
Providing they still wash (you know, flannel, bucket/sink, scrub down) then bathing frequency shouldn't be too much of an issue.
Shorter than you?
Sure, so long as they do not allow their lives to be consumed with rage at being short. You know, the whole blaming being short on their own inability to do certain things.
Was 5 years younger than you?
It would depend on the individual, but generally no.
How about 10 years younger?
Legally that can only be done when you reach 26 and then then you'll be viewed with suspicion until you hit 32. So no.
Was 5 years older than you?
It would depend on the individual.
10 years older?
Again it depends on the individual.
Has no car?
We can be public transport buddies, hurrah!
Has no job?
This is actually influenced by the reasons behind them having no job and what they do with their empty time.
Has no money?
As in completely penniless and living on the streets? If we're going to be honest the situation probably wouldn't come up. All the meal dispensing in the world generally wont allow enough time to get to know someone to the point where dating is on the cards.
If they having no money translates to just being able to afford bills and not much more then sure thing. It isn't a huge issue.
Has no ambition for the future?
Probably not.
Is negative?
We can be negative nellies together, hurrah!
Doesn't go to church?
Not a huge issue, but it would be nice.
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you?
Doesn't really concern me.
Your parents did not approve of?
Replace parents with family and it's a "probably not". For lots of reasons. I value their opinion, I know they know I tend to float around not really noticing little things until they bite me in the face, so i'll trust their judgement.
Is Clingy?
No. I need space.
Talks about marriage right away?
General marriage talk as in "one day i'd like to get married" or "OH MY GOSH WITHIN THE FIRST MINUTE I KNOW WE ARE DESTINED TO BE TOGETHER FOREVER, LET US MARRY NEXT WEEK!"? I appreciate someone coming out and saying they want to get married, it lets everyone know whether this is casual fun dating or something a little more serious. If it's marriage with me straight away ... no. It would be this big red flag, a huge red flag. It's not how I roll.
Is awesome?
Self proclaimed awesome? No. Awesome as defined by other people? Yay.
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?)
Sure, it's not exactly a huge issue. Depends on whether it's simply a dietary choice or a way of life. There's a difference between someone who eats a vegan diet and someone who follows the vegan lifestyle.
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Is a vegetarian / vegan? YES!! I'm vegan so that would be awesome not to have to watch him suck the muscle tissue off of pig ribs.
(Or a meat-eater if you are not?) Sure.
(Or a meat-eater if you are not?) Sure.
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Does anyone else think nobody is going to read all these answers?
Oh well.
Would you date / go out with someone who…
Had kids? Probably not.
Was divorced? I'd rather not, but it would depend on how "over it" he was.
Smokes? No.
Drinks? No.
Uses drugs? Heck no.
Was not from your denomination? Depends on what denomination he is, so maybe.
Was not a Christian? No.
Was overweight? As long as they were still healthy and active, sure. I prefer a guy with some beef on his bones.
Has body odor? Nooo lol.
Dresses poorly? What's "poorly"? I'm super casual myself. As long as his clothes were clean, I think that's all I'd care about.
Bathes seldomly? Noooooo.
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? I'd rather not, but I have, and I probably would again if he were an amazing guy.
Was 5 years younger than you? Rather not, but if he was 'the one' I would.
How about 10 years younger? NO way.
Was 5 years older than you? Sure.
10 years older? Sure.
Has no car? Only if it's by choice, and not because he's jobless and living in Mom's basement.
Has no job? No. Would I STAY with someone who had a job and lost it, and went out and found another one, with a short span of joblessness in between? Yes. I wouldn't ask a guy to do anything I wouldn't do myself.
Has no money? Uh no. Having no money means he's living off someone else, and I have no respect for that.
Has no ambition for the future? No way.
Is negative? Nope.
Doesn't go to church? Nope.
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? Sure, I love other ethnicities, I find them fascinating and attractive.
Your parents did not approve of? I'm not attracted to the types of men my parents would disapprove of.
Is Clingy? If he's clingy because he adores me, sure. If he's clingy because he's immature, insecure, or annoying, no.
Talks about marriage right away? If he talks about it in a general way, that might be OK. If he talks about marrying ME right away, that screams desperate idiot.
Is awesome? Awesome!
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) As long as he lets me eat my animal flesh, I'm cool.
Oh well.
Would you date / go out with someone who…
Had kids? Probably not.
Was divorced? I'd rather not, but it would depend on how "over it" he was.
Smokes? No.
Drinks? No.
Uses drugs? Heck no.
Was not from your denomination? Depends on what denomination he is, so maybe.
Was not a Christian? No.
Was overweight? As long as they were still healthy and active, sure. I prefer a guy with some beef on his bones.
Has body odor? Nooo lol.
Dresses poorly? What's "poorly"? I'm super casual myself. As long as his clothes were clean, I think that's all I'd care about.
Bathes seldomly? Noooooo.
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? I'd rather not, but I have, and I probably would again if he were an amazing guy.
Was 5 years younger than you? Rather not, but if he was 'the one' I would.
How about 10 years younger? NO way.
Was 5 years older than you? Sure.
10 years older? Sure.
Has no car? Only if it's by choice, and not because he's jobless and living in Mom's basement.
Has no job? No. Would I STAY with someone who had a job and lost it, and went out and found another one, with a short span of joblessness in between? Yes. I wouldn't ask a guy to do anything I wouldn't do myself.
Has no money? Uh no. Having no money means he's living off someone else, and I have no respect for that.
Has no ambition for the future? No way.
Is negative? Nope.
Doesn't go to church? Nope.
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? Sure, I love other ethnicities, I find them fascinating and attractive.
Your parents did not approve of? I'm not attracted to the types of men my parents would disapprove of.
Is Clingy? If he's clingy because he adores me, sure. If he's clingy because he's immature, insecure, or annoying, no.
Talks about marriage right away? If he talks about it in a general way, that might be OK. If he talks about marrying ME right away, that screams desperate idiot.
Is awesome? Awesome!
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) As long as he lets me eat my animal flesh, I'm cool.
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I believe I will answer now:
Would I date someone who...
Had kids? No
Was divorced? No
Smokes? I'd prefer not and would probably encourage her to quit. I can help with that.
Drinks? Same as the above, though I guess an occasional drink is okay. But no lushes!
Uses drugs? No
Was not from your denomination? I would prefer she have no denomination as I do not.
Was not a Christian? Initially, I suppose. But in the long run, she would have to see eye-to-eye with me on the Jesus part.
Was overweight? No, I don't want anyone who weighs more than I do
Has body odor? Eww no
Dresses poorly? No. She ought to have more fashion sense than I do, not less.
Bathes seldomly? That's disgusting, so no
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? No. I prefer shorter gals anyway.
Was 5 years younger than you? Yes certainly.
How about 10 years younger? Sure, why not? I mostly get girls around that age showing interest in me / making eyes at me anyway, so... lol
Was 5 years older than you? No
10 years older? No cougars!
Has no car? I guess
Has no job? Yes
Has no money? Yes. As long as she is not cheap. I hate cheapskates with poverty mindsets!
Has no ambition for the future? Absolutely not. I need someone who has passion and drive and someone to partner with me and share my vision. Someone with no ambition would be a hindrance to me and my plans.
Is negative? Absolutely not. Out of the question.
Doesn't go to church? Yes, I don't care. I don't go to church myself anymore for the time being.
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? Yes*
Your parents did not approve of? Probably not. I value their input and wisdom. They see things I do not.
Is Clingy? I'm romantic and affectionate. It depends on the definition of "clingy" - probably not.
Talks about marriage right away? Sure. It's good to be honest, upfront, transparent and have goals and dreams for the future. I'd be more worried about someone with no aspirations.
Is awesome? I need an equal, so yes.
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) I suppose it would be okay, as long as she didn't preach at me to conform to her ways.
Would I date someone who...
Had kids? No
Was divorced? No
Smokes? I'd prefer not and would probably encourage her to quit. I can help with that.
Drinks? Same as the above, though I guess an occasional drink is okay. But no lushes!
Uses drugs? No
Was not from your denomination? I would prefer she have no denomination as I do not.
Was not a Christian? Initially, I suppose. But in the long run, she would have to see eye-to-eye with me on the Jesus part.
Was overweight? No, I don't want anyone who weighs more than I do
Has body odor? Eww no
Dresses poorly? No. She ought to have more fashion sense than I do, not less.
Bathes seldomly? That's disgusting, so no
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? No. I prefer shorter gals anyway.
Was 5 years younger than you? Yes certainly.
How about 10 years younger? Sure, why not? I mostly get girls around that age showing interest in me / making eyes at me anyway, so... lol
Was 5 years older than you? No
10 years older? No cougars!
Has no car? I guess
Has no job? Yes
Has no money? Yes. As long as she is not cheap. I hate cheapskates with poverty mindsets!
Has no ambition for the future? Absolutely not. I need someone who has passion and drive and someone to partner with me and share my vision. Someone with no ambition would be a hindrance to me and my plans.
Is negative? Absolutely not. Out of the question.
Doesn't go to church? Yes, I don't care. I don't go to church myself anymore for the time being.
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? Yes*
Your parents did not approve of? Probably not. I value their input and wisdom. They see things I do not.
Is Clingy? I'm romantic and affectionate. It depends on the definition of "clingy" - probably not.
Talks about marriage right away? Sure. It's good to be honest, upfront, transparent and have goals and dreams for the future. I'd be more worried about someone with no aspirations.
Is awesome? I need an equal, so yes.
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) I suppose it would be okay, as long as she didn't preach at me to conform to her ways.
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Would you date / go out with someone who
Had kids? wouldn't rule it out; can't deny the complications
Was divorced? yes
Smokes? no
Drinks? yes
Uses drugs? no
Was not from your denomination? it would depend on what theirs was
Was not a Christian? no
Was overweight? depends on what we're talking about here
Has body odor? of course not
Dresses poorly? as long as it's in the realm of reason
Bathes seldomly? of course not
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? yes
Was 5 years younger than you? yes
How about 10 years younger? yes
Was 5 years older than you? yes
10 years older? no
Has no car? yes
Has no job? yes
Has no money? yes
Has no ambition for the future? yes
Is negative? yes
Doesn't go to church? no
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? yes
Your parents did not approve of? yes
Is Clingy? no
Talks about marriage right away? no
Is awesome? most likely
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) most definitely yes
Had kids? wouldn't rule it out; can't deny the complications
Was divorced? yes
Smokes? no
Drinks? yes
Uses drugs? no
Was not from your denomination? it would depend on what theirs was
Was not a Christian? no
Was overweight? depends on what we're talking about here
Has body odor? of course not
Dresses poorly? as long as it's in the realm of reason
Bathes seldomly? of course not
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? yes
Was 5 years younger than you? yes
How about 10 years younger? yes
Was 5 years older than you? yes
10 years older? no
Has no car? yes
Has no job? yes
Has no money? yes
Has no ambition for the future? yes
Is negative? yes
Doesn't go to church? no
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? yes
Your parents did not approve of? yes
Is Clingy? no
Talks about marriage right away? no
Is awesome? most likely
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) most definitely yes
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Well, that's great then
I wouldn't bother taking time to post it if I wasn't interested in what people would say. I have about 50 other things I could - or should - be doing at this moment, so...
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poeticlurker
exactly what it says on the tin
Had kids? No.
Was divorced? Nooooo.
Smokes?No.
Drinks? In moderation, yes.
Uses drugs? No.
Was not from your denomination? Depends.
Was not a Christian? I can't exactly say I'm Christian, so yes.
Was overweight? Slightly overweight, possibly.
Has body odor? No.
Dresses poorly? No.
Bathes seldomly? define "seldomly". I only shower/wash my hair every 2-3 days. I have been told numerous times I smell excellent, though I seldom use soap unless I absolutely have to. If it was every 3 days or so and he smelled ok and was still clean, yes. However if he was greasy and smelled bad I'd stay away.
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? No. I'm already short.
Was 5 years younger than you? he'd be fourteen D:
How about 10 years younger? dear God! he'd be 9!
Was 5 years older than you? Why not?
10 years older? most likely no.
Has no car? sure. I don't mind driving
Has no job? maybe.
Has no money? no.
Has no ambition for the future? absolutely not.
Is negative? I'm negative, I need someone to be pessimistic and cynical with me
Doesn't go to church? I don't go to church either, though this may change.
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? I dated a black guy once (I'm white), and I'm fine with doing it again.
Your parents did not approve of? I take this to mean "my mother"... sure!
Is Clingy? NO.
Talks about marriage right away? ABSOLUTELY NOT.
Is awesome? Of course!
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) Sure. I've been curious about vegetarianism myself, maybe he can give me tips!
Was divorced? Nooooo.
Smokes?No.
Drinks? In moderation, yes.
Uses drugs? No.
Was not from your denomination? Depends.
Was not a Christian? I can't exactly say I'm Christian, so yes.
Was overweight? Slightly overweight, possibly.
Has body odor? No.
Dresses poorly? No.
Bathes seldomly? define "seldomly". I only shower/wash my hair every 2-3 days. I have been told numerous times I smell excellent, though I seldom use soap unless I absolutely have to. If it was every 3 days or so and he smelled ok and was still clean, yes. However if he was greasy and smelled bad I'd stay away.
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? No. I'm already short.
Was 5 years younger than you? he'd be fourteen D:
How about 10 years younger? dear God! he'd be 9!
Was 5 years older than you? Why not?
10 years older? most likely no.
Has no car? sure. I don't mind driving
Has no job? maybe.
Has no money? no.
Has no ambition for the future? absolutely not.
Is negative? I'm negative, I need someone to be pessimistic and cynical with me
Doesn't go to church? I don't go to church either, though this may change.
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? I dated a black guy once (I'm white), and I'm fine with doing it again.
Your parents did not approve of? I take this to mean "my mother"... sure!
Is Clingy? NO.
Talks about marriage right away? ABSOLUTELY NOT.
Is awesome? Of course!
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) Sure. I've been curious about vegetarianism myself, maybe he can give me tips!
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Is Clingy? Depends on the clinginess to be honest.
Talks about marriage right away? I don't even know if I want to be married.
Is awesome? My kind of awesome? Sure..
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) It would be a turn off, but as long as she doesn't try to make me feel horrible for eating meat sure. I would probably walk away if it came to that.
Talks about marriage right away? I don't even know if I want to be married.
Is awesome? My kind of awesome? Sure..
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) It would be a turn off, but as long as she doesn't try to make me feel horrible for eating meat sure. I would probably walk away if it came to that.
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Apollo Celestio
Deal with it.
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Had kids? Yes, I probably don't have the means to settle down, but I think I'm mature enough to handle it.
Was divorced? No, too much baggage.
Smokes? No thanks
Drinks? Nah
Uses drugs? Nah
Was not from your denomination? Don't care
Was not a Christian? Only if she can give me a good reason. Apathy isn't good enough. Need a brainy mate.
Was overweight? Don't care.
Has body odor? I'd have to address it.
Dresses poorly? We'd match.
Bathes seldomly? Interesting..
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? I don't know any women who'd tower over me... same height? Fine with me.
Was 5 years younger than you? No.
How about 10 years younger? Illegal.
Was 5 years older than you? Yes.
10 years older? Yes.
Has no car? Yes.
Has no job? Yes.
Has no money? Yes.
Has no ambition for the future? I don't, why should she?
Is negative? It might be funny to have two pessimists.
Doesn't go to church? Look under Xian
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? yes
Your parents did not approve of? My parents don't care
Is Clingy? No, i need someone who does not play mind games.
Talks about marriage right away? Planning is planning.
Is awesome? Oh yes.
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) Yes, as long as they don't bother me with hippy nonsense
Was divorced? No, too much baggage.
Smokes? No thanks
Drinks? Nah
Uses drugs? Nah
Was not from your denomination? Don't care
Was not a Christian? Only if she can give me a good reason. Apathy isn't good enough. Need a brainy mate.
Was overweight? Don't care.
Has body odor? I'd have to address it.
Dresses poorly? We'd match.
Bathes seldomly? Interesting..
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? I don't know any women who'd tower over me... same height? Fine with me.
Was 5 years younger than you? No.
How about 10 years younger? Illegal.
Was 5 years older than you? Yes.
10 years older? Yes.
Has no car? Yes.
Has no job? Yes.
Has no money? Yes.
Has no ambition for the future? I don't, why should she?
Is negative? It might be funny to have two pessimists.
Doesn't go to church? Look under Xian
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? yes
Your parents did not approve of? My parents don't care
Is Clingy? No, i need someone who does not play mind games.
Talks about marriage right away? Planning is planning.
Is awesome? Oh yes.
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) Yes, as long as they don't bother me with hippy nonsense
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I have dated many of those so I don't go and guess who I would not date anymore. So I will say which ones I have.
Had kids?
Have dated
Was divorced?
have dated
Smokes?
have dated
Drinks?
have dated
Uses drugs?
have dated
Was not from your denomination?
have dated
Was not a Christian?
have dated
Was overweight?
have dated
Has body odor?
have dated
Dresses poorly?
can't say i have dated that
Bathes seldomly?
can't say i have dated that
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)?
haven't dated that
Was 5 years younger than you?
have dated that. she was 18 going on 19 and i was 26 I think.
How about 10 years younger?
haven't dated that
Was 5 years older than you?
have dated that. she was 6 years older than me. i was 21 and she was 27
10 years older?
haven't dated that
Has no car?have dated that
Has no job?
have dated that. she was going to college but that is not a job it is a career move.
Has no money?
can't remember if i have dated that one or not
Has no ambition for the future?
never dated that
Is negative?
have dated that
Doesn't go to church?
have dated that
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you?
have dated that
Your parents did not approve of?
have dated that
Is Clingy?
have dated that
Talks about marriage right away?
haven't dated that...at least i don't think
Is awesome?
have dated that
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?)
haven't dated that
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I assume when you say "go out", you mean go out with romantic interest, otherwise my answers would be "yes" for all.
Had kids? No
Was divorced? Depends, mostly no.
Smokes? Yes
Drinks? Yes
Uses drugs? No
Was not from your denomination? Yes
Was not a Christian? No, if I know it. (Sometimes you don't know her faith before the first date.)
Was overweight? Depends, mostly yes.
Has body odor? Yes
Dresses poorly? Yes
Bathes seldomly? Yes
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? Yes
Was 5 years younger than you? Yes
How about 10 years younger? No
Was 5 years older than you? Yes
10 years older? No
Has no car? Yes
Has no job? Yes
Has no money? Yes
Has no ambition for the future? Yes
Is negative? Depends, mostly no.
Doesn't go to church? Yes
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? Yes
Your parents did not approve of? Yes
Is Clingy? Yes
Talks about marriage right away? Yes
Is awesome? Yes...
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) Yes
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