Would you go out with someone who...

[K9_Trainer]

Had kids? No
Was divorced? Yes
Smokes? Not unless they were seriously going to quit
Drinks? Yes, as long as he doesn't abuse it or drink irresponsibly.
Uses drugs? Depends. If he's a social pot user, thats fine. Experimented with certain things, thats fine. But a regular user or abuser of addictive substances? Absolutely not.
Was not from your denomination? Well I'm not Christian. But at this point i'm not much interested in dating Christians regardless of what denomination they're from.
Was not a Christian? Of course
Was overweight? No
Has body odor? Umm, doesn't everybody? I don't really understand this question. If you shower and use deodorant, it shouldn't be an issue. If the man has bad hygiene, then no.
Dresses poorly? It depends.
Bathes seldomly? No
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? Yes
Was 5 years younger than you? No that would make him underage and I'm not going there.
How about 10 years younger? That would make him 11. No.
Was 5 years older than you? Sure.
10 years older? Possibly.
Has no car? Yes
Has no job? Depends. Is he a lazy bum with no ambition? Then no. If he is a college student or between jobs or looking, sure.
Has no money? Well thats likely a given if he has no job. I don't see an issue with it as long as he doesn't expect me to be some kinda sugar mommy.
Has no ambition for the future? Definitely not.
Is negative? No
Doesn't go to church? Yes.
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? Yes
Your parents did not approve of? Yes
Is Clingy? Definitely not.
Talks about marriage right away? No
Is awesome? Duh?
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) Yes, I would adapt to a vegetarian lifestyle very well. Vegan not so much, but if he can respect and accept my decision to use dairy products and not pay attention to gluten content (and use leather and all that), then yes.

 

[SplendidTree]

Had kids? Yes

Was divorced? Depends on the situation

Smokes? No

Drinks? Depends on how often

Uses drugs? No

Was not from your denomination? Yes

Was not a Christian? Perhaps

Was overweight? Yes

Has body odor? Is this question really necessary?

Dresses poorly? I'm not picky with how someone dresses. Reminds me of the first part of James chapter 2... why not give it a read?

Bathes seldomly? That can be worked on so perhaps
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? Yes

Was 5 years younger than you? No

How about 10 years younger? Definitely not

Was 5 years older than you? Yes

10 years older? Yes

Has no car? Yes

Has no job? Yes

Has no money? Yes

Has no ambition for the future? It depends. Some people are wonderful people and just at a hard point. Who am I to judge?

Is negative? Depends on how much. Sometimes people just need more positivity in their life.

Doesn't go to church? Perhaps

Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? Yes

Your parents did not approve of? No




Quite honestly.. I'm a little disappointed with some peoples responses. I thought we are supposed to look past certain things. Guess that's just me...

 

[SneakerPimp53]

Had kids?

Going back into the Army it would present a difficult situation as moving on a regular basis is often part of a military life style. With custody and visitation orders it would not be an ideal situation. Under other circumstances then yes.

Was divorced?

Yes

Smokes?

Socially sure, but I don't think I could handle a heavy smoker

Drinks?

Within reason, no problem.

Uses drugs?

Nope, that's an invitation to chaos in a person's life.

Was not from your denomination?

Yes

Was not a Christian?

Yes, but I would not date an atheist.

Was overweight?

A few pounds not a problem, don't think my life style would work with someone that was obese.

Has body odor?

Everyone has BO.

Dresses poorly?

I'm not the editor of Instyle magazine.

Bathes seldomly?

No, there's just no reason for that kind of personal laziness.

Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)?

Absolutely I would, have done so in the past.

Was 5 years younger than you?

Yes

How about 10 years younger?

I don't think I'd have much in common with a 19 year old girl fresh out of high school.

Was 5 years older than you?

Yes

10 years older?

No, don't think a woman nearing 40 would have much in common with me.

Has no car?

Yes

Has no job?

Yes

Has no money?

I don't have any money, so why should I hold someone to a standard I do not myself meet.

Has no ambition for the future?

I think people need to want a few things out of life. However, I would prefer someone whose aspirations were what some would call a lack of ambition to someone that lives with a series of unrealistic pipe dreams.

Is negative?

No

Doesn't go to church?

Yes

Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you?

Yes

Your parents did not approve of?

Never had my parents comment on my dating choices

Is Clingy?

I would prefer clingy to someone that is distant and seems uninterested half the time.

Talks about marriage right away?

That would be a red flag

Is awesome?

Yes

Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?)

No, such diets are not in accord with the nutritional requirements of human beings and are unhealthy.

 

[Rhye]

Had kids? Hum. I'm going to say no right now.

Was divorced? I don't know.

Smokes? On occasion, other then that, I cannot allow that, for his health. He must quit or want too. More so I would want to help him.

Drinks? Of course occasionally. I am not going to date or will date an alcoholic.

Uses drugs? Never.

Was not from your denomination? Of course!

Was not a Christian? No.

Was overweight? How overweight?
I think I am overweight sometimes, and but then again I'm really not. I just think 10 to 20 pounds over the hight to weight ratio is not a big deal to me, at all!!!!

Has body odor? You mean, sexy AXE body odor. Oh, la la yeessss!

Dresses poorly? I don't think I can stop myself from dating someone who does not have some fashion sense, but I am sure some time in the relationship I would go shopping with him.....cause he would never say no to me. =p

Bathes seldomly? LOL. NO!

Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? I'm just so tall, and bad enough that I feel somewhat embarrassed by it so I would say no. At least same hight.
I am a horrible, horrible person!

Was 5 years younger than you? No. Unless he was mature.

How about 10 years younger? Eek talk about being illegal. No, no, and more no!!

Was 5 years older than you? That would be wonderful.

10 years older? yes, and he better keep up!

Has no car? Of course!!!

Has no job? Yes, and I mean that. Very much. I see what it does to my brother and I would never, ever allow a man to feel that he is not wanted or not good enough just because he is unemployed.

Has no money? Yes, come on now, I am no rich girl to expect any more from someone else.

Has no ambition for the future? I believe he should have a passion for something and strive to meet his goals. I am doing the same, so to have someone who understands me, would be great.

Is negative? How so? But if it is draining and always, always a problem then it would be hard for me to connect.

Doesn't go to church? Yes!

Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? Yes- But I like for him to really see mine as well and how important it is to me.

Your parents did not approve of? It would be hard for me at first but I think my parents are the type to understand after time.

Is Clingy? I would like someone who is passionate about me. I don't know what that is defined as.

Talks about marriage right away? I wouldn't mind talking about marriage right away, but not on the first date, just lets get to know each other first.

Is awesome? He will be that and more.

Is a vegetarian / vegan? It would be hard for me but I wouldn't say no.

 

[stan1472]

Had kids? NO
Was divorced? It depends on the reasons
Smokes? NO
Drinks? NO
Uses drugs? NO
Was not from your denomination? YES
Was not a Christian? NO
Was overweight? A few pounds, sure no problem
Has body odor? huh?
Dresses poorly? Beauty is in the eye of the beholder
Bathes seldomly? Crazy
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? Woman taller than me? Those are not easy to find, most are below 6 ft. But I sure would like a girl tall enough so I don't have to bend down and crack my back to hug her.
Was 5 years younger than you? That would be ideal. I had that at one time. But age is a just a #, I'm into the 'connection' first.
How about 10 years younger? Sure.
Was 5 years older than you? Hmm, don't know about that. If she looked and acted young enough, sure.
10 years older? Ok, now we is getting crazy
Has no car? Sure
Has no job? Sure, we were all unemployed at one time.
Has no money? That's hard to believe, but I'm willing to help/support her. That is actually motivation for me to work hard. I like that.
Has no ambition for the future? I don't connect well with girls who just stare at the wall. That would be weird.
Is negative? Negative against everything. Impossible.
Doesn't go to church? That's ok as long as she has faith in Christ & follows Him.
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? No problem, I'm actually attracted to other races too.
Your parents did not approve of? I think they would accept my judgement/decision.
Is Clingy? Clingy? Like a Kuala Bear or however you spell it? That would be weird.
Talks about marriage right away? That's also weird.
Is awesome? Definitely.
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) That would be ok, sure would help me lose my ittty bitty belly fat then.


If more come to mind, I'll add them, or feel free to add your own.

The end.

 

[K9_Trainer]

Had kids? Yes

Was divorced? Depends on the situation

Smokes? No

Drinks? Depends on how often

Uses drugs? No

Was not from your denomination? Yes

Was not a Christian? Perhaps

Was overweight? Yes

Has body odor? Is this question really necessary?

Dresses poorly? I'm not picky with how someone dresses. Reminds me of the first part of James chapter 2... why not give it a read?

Bathes seldomly? That can be worked on so perhaps
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? Yes

Was 5 years younger than you? No

How about 10 years younger? Definitely not

Was 5 years older than you? Yes

10 years older? Yes

Has no car? Yes

Has no job? Yes

Has no money? Yes

Has no ambition for the future? It depends. Some people are wonderful people and just at a hard point. Who am I to judge?

Is negative? Depends on how much. Sometimes people just need more positivity in their life.

Doesn't go to church? Perhaps

Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? Yes

Your parents did not approve of? No




Quite honestly.. I'm a little disappointed with some peoples responses. I thought we are supposed to look past certain things. Guess that's just me...

Everybody has different needs, and its important to take that into account. I'm sure we also have different standards in our mind when we answered.

 

[Thunder Peel]

This list is too unrealistic. It should feature questions like "Eats pudding" and "Doesn't cheat at Twister".

 

[MehGuy]

This list is too unrealistic. It should feature questions like "Eats pudding" and "Doesn't cheat at Twister".

LOl yeah, no other question gets closer to the human soul than that.

 

[Keri]

Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?)

No, such diets are not in accord with the nutritional requirements of human beings and are unhealthy.

Of course God wasn't creative enough to provide full nutritional requirements in plants. Oh wait... He did.

All nutritional needs are found in plants. Isn't it the way God intended diets to be? Before humans screwed it up and sinned?

 

[SneakerPimp53]

Of course God wasn't creative enough to provide full nutritional requirements in plants. Oh wait... He did.

All nutritional needs are found in plants. Isn't it the way God intended diets to be? Before humans screwed it up and sinned?

Human beings require complete proteins, without those complete proteins that are only found in animal sources you are not eating a healthy diet. Without significant supplements vegans will suffer from the same sorts of malnutrition induced illnesses that people in the third world suffer. There are people that have died as a result of following vegan diets without being knowledgeable in the supplements required. There are no plant sources of complete protein. Most westerners do not have this problems, but even slight protein deficiencies can lead to notable problems in physical and mental performance levels. The consumption of high levels of carbs to fill the void left by animal proteins also presents significant problems to vegan and veg diets.

Human beings have all the typical characteristics of predatory animals. Our eyes are in front of our heads, to focus on prey. Prey animals have wide set eyes that are less acute at focus, but increase range of vision. Our teeth are also a tell tell sign of predatory inclination. Our neolithic ancestors ate diets full of animal proteins, a pattern that was only interrupted by the agricultural revolution.

I don't believe any perfect creature would require food at all, and in a perfect human state man would have eaten neither plant nor animal. But we're not perfect and natural human diets require animal proteins.

 

[Stravinsk]

Had kids? Depends if the kids are A)very young or B)out of house/on their own, then yes. Otherwise, no.

Was divorced? Yes

Smokes? Yes, but prefer non.

Drinks? Yes, but considering of the degree of.

Uses drugs? Absolutely not.

Was not from your denomination? Yes

Was not a Christian? This depends on where her values lie and are based on, no matter what she calls herself.

Was overweight? Depends how much. A little, ok. More than a little, no.

Has body odor? Yes if it's not due to poor hygene.

Dresses poorly? Neat and tasteful is all I ask.

Bathes seldomly? Absolutely not.

Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? No

Was 5 years younger than you? Yes

How about 10 years younger? Yes

Was 5 years older than you? Yes

10 years older? Yes

Has no car? Yes, assuming it's a temporary situation.

Has no job? That depends on how long she's been unemployed, for what reason, if she's actively looking or if she's allergic to work.

Has no money? Depends on age. Depends on whether she's working/looking. The last thing I want is someone who is interested solely for survival or monetary sake.

Has no ambition for the future? That's too loaded a question - it really depends on what those ambitions are.

Is negative? No

Doesn't go to church? Yes

Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? Yes

Your parents did not approve of? Yes

Is Clingy? Yes, but depends on the degree of

Talks about marriage right away? You mean like within the first month? No.

Is awesome? ??

Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) I'd prefer a veggie(or mostly veggie), actually. So yes. Mostly she must respect my eating habits/values. If she shares them, great, we can make stuff together. If she doesn't, then I'm happy to make my own meals.

 

[Stravinsk]

Human beings require complete proteins, without those complete proteins that are only found in animal sources you are not eating a healthy diet. Without significant supplements vegans will suffer from the same sorts of malnutrition induced illnesses that people in the third world suffer. There are people that have died as a result of following vegan diets without being knowledgeable in the supplements required. There are no plant sources of complete protein. Most westerners do not have this problems, but even slight protein deficiencies can lead to notable problems in physical and mental performance levels. The consumption of high levels of carbs to fill the void left by animal proteins also presents significant problems to vegan and veg diets.

Human beings have all the typical characteristics of predatory animals. Our eyes are in front of our heads, to focus on prey. Prey animals have wide set eyes that are less acute at focus, but increase range of vision. Our teeth are also a tell tell sign of predatory inclination. Our neolithic ancestors ate diets full of animal proteins, a pattern that was only interrupted by the agricultural revolution.

I don't believe any perfect creature would require food at all, and in a perfect human state man would have eaten neither plant nor animal. But we're not perfect and natural human diets require animal proteins.

I'm tempted to respond to every single point in this post - but doing so will definately threaten derail of this thread.

 

[Keri]

I'm tempted to respond to every single point in this post - but doing so will definately threaten derail of this thread.

You and me both. Some people just don't know, do they?

 

[droidBebe]

Would you date / go out with someone who…

Had kids? YES

Was divorced? POSSIBLY

Smokes?YES

Drinks? ONLY IF ITS ON OCCASION, BUT PREFERABLY NO

Uses drugs? NO

Was not from your denomination? POSSIBLY

Was not a Christian? NO

Was overweight? DEPENDS ON HOW MUCH OVERWEIGHT

Has body odor? WE ALL HAVE BODY ODOR...

Dresses poorly? MY IDEA OF "POORLY DRESSED" COULD BE SOMEONE ELSES IDEA OF "NICELY DRESSED"....

Bathes seldomly? NO

Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? NO

Was 5 years younger than you? NO

How about 10 years younger? NO

Was 5 years older than you? POSSIBLY

10 years older? NO

Has no car? NO

Has no job? NO

Has no money? NO

Has no ambition for the future? NO

Is negative? NO-- HE'S NOT A MAN IF I HAVE TO BABYSIT HIM

Doesn't go to church? NO

Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? YES

Your parents did not approve of? POSSIBLY

Is Clingy? BTDT: ABSOLUTELY NOT!

Talks about marriage right away? YES, ESPECIALLY JUST TO MAKE SURE WERE ON THE SAME PAGE ABOUT THINGS. I WOULD WANT TO KNOW IF THEY WERE INTERESTED IN FINDING A LIFE PARTNER OR WERE NOT SO SERIOUS AT THE TIME. I CONSIDER THAT TO BE BENEFICIAL INFORMATION.

Is awesome? IN WHOSE OPINION?

Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) POSSIBLY

 

[Gym]

Had kids? I'm incliend to say no.. but not completely turned off to the idea
Was divorced? I'd be hesitant
Smokes? major turn off for sure
Drinks? I drink so yeah
Uses drugs? absolutely not
Was not from your denomination? yes
Was not a Christian? absolutely not
Was overweight? I dunno never really thought about this one
Has body odor? I guess
Dresses poorly? yes
Bathes seldomly? I guess? who made these questions? lol
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? yes, beauty doesn't come in a certain height only
Was 5 years younger than you? highly unlikely
How about 10 years younger? No
Was 5 years older than you? highly unlikely
10 years older? No
Has no car? yes
Has no job? yes
Has no money? yes
Has no ambition for the future? everyone has some kind of dream
Is negative? yes
Doesn't go to church? yes
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? yes
Your parents did not approve of? While my dad's opinion may matter to a degree.. if it comes down to it, if I love her-my father's disapproval is not going to stop me. No mother to comment on....
Is Clingy? How clingy?
Talks about marriage right away? red flag
Is awesome? lol.. yes
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?)
I'd seriously wonder about this.. but I think I could. Now I'd never give up meat so this person would have to respect that of course


If more come to mind, I'll add them, or feel free to add your own.

answers in quotation

 

[tapi]

Had kids? Hmm. Possible, although probably not.
Was divorced? Most likely not, but possible.
Smokes? Not a dealbuster
Drinks? Not a dealbuster
Uses drugs? No
Was not from your denomination? Yes
Was not a Christian? No
Was overweight? Considering I'm pretty thin, it'd be weird. But possible.
Has body odor? No thanks
Dresses poorly? Subjective^^
Bathes seldomly? No thanks
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? No problem
Was 5 years younger than you? No problem
How about 10 years younger? Hah no.
Was 5 years older than you? No problem
10 years older? Possible
Has no car? No problem
Has no job? No problem
Has no money? Generally not a problem
Has no ambition for the future? Huge problem.
Is negative? Likely not
Doesn't go to church? Likely not
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? No problem
Your parents did not approve of? Hmm.. Don't see such problemn very likely
Is Clingy? No thanks
Talks about marriage right away? Ahh no.. hmm.. actually dating solely to find a marriage I absolutely agree with, but talking about it in depth on the first date would seem weird!
Is awesome? YES!!
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) Yes

 

[Howard Cneal]

This list is too unrealistic. It should feature questions like "Eats pudding" and "Doesn't cheat at Twister".

Now, now...

There's nothing unrealistic about it, really.

I could've gone far more specific and stringent than I did. I just threw in some random questions, as I was pondering what many of my own personal deakbreakers happen to be.

 

[Howard Cneal]

I'm a little perplexed by this "We all have B.O" business...

A simple shower or two a day coupled with some deodorant should take care of any B.O. people may have.

I think it's inexcusable to live in our day and age and smell, unless you are someone who does constant and heavy manual labor, and in that case, it's to be expected.

 

[FaithPrevails]

I've read through most of the responses and think it is interesting that a lot of people that said yes to dating someone with kids said no to dating someone who was divorced. I'll go out on a limb and assume that this means they would date someone who had a child out of wedlock or is widowed...but not someone who is still married.

*goes back to lurking*

 

[Wren]

Had kids? Maybe. It depends on a few things, though ideally a guy I date would not have kids.
Was divorced? Yes
Smokes? Maybe. It depends on a few things.
Drinks? Yes, as long as it's in moderation.
Uses drugs? No
Was not from your denomination? Yes
Was not a Christian? Maybe. It would depend on a few things. Ideally, the guy would be a Christian.
Was overweight? Yes, to a point.
Has body odor? Stinks? No.
Dresses poorly? Depends on what dressing poorly exactly entails.
Bathes seldomly? No
Was taller than you (for men) / shorter than you (for women)? No. I'm 5 feet tall, so I don't think it's asking too much that a guy be taller than me.
Was 5 years younger than you? Yes
How about 10 years younger? Maybe, though this would have to be a special guy that I already knew prior to dating.
Was 5 years older than you? Yes
10 years older? Yes.
Has no car? Yes. Ideally, he would have one.
Has no job? Yes, as long as he is looking for work. This economy sucks and I certainly know what it feels like to be trying to find a job and not having one, through no fault of your own.
Has no money? Yes.
Has no ambition for the future? No. He has to at least have some level/type of ambition.
Is negative? Major negativity? No.
Doesn't go to church? Depends on why.
Was of a different race (ethnicity) than you? Yes
Your parents did not approve of? Maybe, it depends on why she doesn't approve.
Is Clingy? Probably not, but depends on your definition of "clingy."
Talks about marriage right away? I don't know.
Is awesome? Absolutely
Is a vegetarian / vegan? (Or a meat-eater if you are not?) Yes, as long as he is okay with knowing I'll never be vegan.