- Apr 25, 2014
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To make a long story short, for many years I have been dealing with my husband's sex addiction. He will spend hours and hours on the computer messaging other women for photos. I've also caught him on AdultFriendFinder, alt.com, among others. We would have a big fight, he would promise to get better and for a while things would, then he would slip back into old habits. I turned on parental controls on our router thinking that would thwart him, but oh no he found ways. He also told me he was going to find a therapist and start working on getting better, and he did for a while, but then stopped going.
Last week I happened upon an alternate email account of his that had messages to PROSTITUTES off craigslist. Like, how much? And, where? He swears he never followed through, and upon a close examination it isn't likely he did. He says it is all fantasy, and that in the 11 years we've been together he has never been with anyone else.
But, his heart is already there. His mind is there. He has made comments over the years about my body and how he wishes it were different. How he wishes I would do certain things with him that I find highly triggering because of a past assault. It doesn't seem to matter to him my reasons.
Would this be considered adultery? I mean, if we were in pre-internet days he would probably be feeding his addiction by messing around with another woman IRL...
Last week I happened upon an alternate email account of his that had messages to PROSTITUTES off craigslist. Like, how much? And, where? He swears he never followed through, and upon a close examination it isn't likely he did. He says it is all fantasy, and that in the 11 years we've been together he has never been with anyone else.
But, his heart is already there. His mind is there. He has made comments over the years about my body and how he wishes it were different. How he wishes I would do certain things with him that I find highly triggering because of a past assault. It doesn't seem to matter to him my reasons.
Would this be considered adultery? I mean, if we were in pre-internet days he would probably be feeding his addiction by messing around with another woman IRL...