Let's say that's true. What of it? You're about to tell me that God's love needs recipients. Why not programmed beings?
On the other hand, the result is a situation where God is required to have His followers coerce people into loving a God they don't believe in by promusing threats of hell or rewards of heaven. Is that a superior way of being the recipients of God's love. I'd have gone with the robots.
Leave aside how God intends to bring people to accept His love and follow Him first, and consider on a laymen level, if your love partner is a robot and could only respond to you in one way, what would you think your love mean to her? Do you really think that love can mean something and be deeply appreciated by a recipient if right from the beginning, they have no ability to respond according to their choices? Are not people more appreciative of a love that they can freely evaluate its worth and choose for themselves to accept or reject?
As for your description of the situation, it is wholly inaccurate. The fact is, true love is not void of justice or righteousness. While God is love, He is also a moral being who has laws for His creation. The reason people are damned is far more than just because they choose to reject God's love, but by rejecting God's love which in itself demands justice and righteousness, they choose to sin and go against laws instituted by God for the benefit of mankind. God has already revealed to us that not a single human throughout the generations since Adam's fall is free from sin (except Jesus Christ), therefore everyone is judged guilty under God's law. The very first sin of mankind was committed in Garden of Eden in the form of pride whereby Eve, beguiled by the serpent, think of herself being able to attain to knowledge and become a god by eating from the forbidden tree. It is sin which causes people to perish and become damned, and this is a natural result of rejecting God's love and counsel. Why? Because in this world there are only 2 choices, either you choose what is good and live, or you choose what is evil and die. If you reject God who is the source of goodness, what do you expect to receive then? Evil and death no doubt.
And what you perceive as threats of heaven and hell are nothing more than a depiction of the reality of what your choice means and what consequences it brings. Would you rather God leave you completely unaware what your choices mean for your future? Or do you want to know beforehand so that though it sounds unpleasant you can make a wiser choice than if you were kept in the dark? No mortal can force you to choose against your will, but you do have the right to know the consequences so that you are able to responsibly choose for yourself what you want.
I'm a widower. Don't try to tell me that love is meaningless because I can't communicate it to my wife. Your premise is just wrong.
I'm sorry that you have lost your wife, but I have no idea why you took my words personally though it is pretty clear my words are not meant to insult or diminish your love since I do not know your predicament. My reasoning is simple: that love needs a recipient to bring about its effects. Yet it is a very human reasoning and complicated questions like those you've asked can only be speculated.
If God does not to be loved why does God demand we love Him?
God does not demand us to love Him, demand implies force or compulsion but God does not compel or He would not have given us ability to choose. The Gospels clearly said that we love God because He loved us first. Those who choose to love God is merely reciprocating the love He gave beforehand when Jesus died for their sins.
If God is love and needs a recipient of His love, what was God before we came along?
Not sure what you mean here, but God is God and has never changed.