Why is virginity mocked?

[leothelioness]

I really, really, really do not understand this. Why is virginity mocked and made to be "lame" or some nonsense? What is so bad about having never had sex? Why is it something that must be "fixed" or "cured"? I really don't get it.

Rant over.

 

[Blank123]

who knows? some people have inferiority complexes for never having waited themselves and they take it out on those who do wait. some people just wanna have sex and people who are waiting tend to get in the way of that. some people just give into peer pressure. its cool to have sex, so if you haven't had it then there's something wrong with you.

but honestly? people who act like there's something wrogn with you for being a virgin are not worth your time.

 

[CrusaderKing]

Sometimes people just aren't ready for whatever reason or they're just saving sex for marriage. I don't think it's a big deal if someone is a virgin.

 

[Sophrosyne]

I really, really, really do not understand this. Why is virginity mocked and made to be "lame" or some nonsense? What is so bad about having never had sex? Why is it something that must be "fixed" or "cured"? I really don't get it.

Rant over.

Jesus was a virgin.

 

[Stravinsk]

I really, really, really do not understand this. Why is virginity mocked and made to be "lame" or some nonsense? What is so bad about having never had sex? Why is it something that must be "fixed" or "cured"? I really don't get it.

Rant over.

Maybe you're traveling in the wrong circles. I've never mocked virginity, and I lost mine at 15 years old.

I knew a man who got married for the first time at 40 and was a virgin when he married. Honestly, I was in awe...

 

[leothelioness]

I mean by society in general. And some of it comes from other Christians which is surprising and daunting at the same time.

 

[.Mikha'el.]

Jesus was a virgin.

Perhaps, perhaps not. The Bible's silence on the matter does not mean he was. We can't make any assumptions one way or the other.

 

[Thunder Peel]

Society has idolized and worshipped sex to the point where it's on a mammoth pedestal that no other experience can top. Yes, I'm sure it's great and it's important in a marriage but there's so much more to life and relationships than just that aspect. Unfortunately people have elevated to the status of "end all, be all", including a lot of Christians.

I'm a virgin and I don't care what people say about me. I also don't look down on anyone who isn't one; stuff happens and I'm not going to judge anyone on that. If I get married some day I just want my wife to know I waited for her and that I kept my promise to God. However, many Christians have taken the world's view on these matters and even the church seems to have become more liberal and laid-back on sex and relationships in general.

 

[.Mikha'el.]

But getting back to the OP, I regard viriginity as neither an accomplishment or a source of shame. It's a state of being, like having blue eyes or being of a certain age.

 

[BranwenUerchLlyr]

The last time I've heard anyone giving a crap about virginity publicly was at a frat party. Somehow it came up, the virgin was a guy and the other guys responded with "that's cool, man."

The last time I witnessed someone get made fun of for being a virgin was in high school, but in high school, you get made fun of for having tied shoes or untied shoes, brown or black or blond hair or red hair, preppy clothes or gothy clothes, bad grades or good grades. Basically, everything is fair game anyway.

Its no shock that there are virgins and non-virgins of all ages and I think most people know this and don't seem to care either way. Its mostly magazine/media editors that write trashy sex articles that pretend to care about someone's virginity.

People are more worried about what other people think of their own virgin status to bother caring about the virgin status of others. I don't think I was ever made fun of either way, but then again, no one cared enough to ask whether or not I was a virgin and I didn't think it was appropriate to advertise.

If someone actually gets made fun of for being a virgin often, it makes me wonder how and why they feel compelled to tell people in the first place. That may have more to do with it than being a virgin.

 

[Im_A]

I don't mind it being mocked personally. People need to stop fooling themselves that virgins equal virtue and goodness just because they keep their legs closed or because they are a tease if they are a physically active while being a 'virgin'/'abstinent' they are a tease who is virgin. Plus people that have sex outside of marriage get hype from absolute moralists quite a bit, so its only fair game as far as I'm concerned. As long as personal attacks aren't given to the individual without actually knowing the person hey people that talk down on virginity, go at it. When the personal attacks come, I can't give any reason why it happens. Maybe some don't understand, maybe some wish they were a virgin again, maybe some want a virgin but can't find one, maybe some want to mock virgins. Who knows.

I personally don't do it when it comes to my social discussion. Simply because, being a virgin means nothing to me as a non-virgin at this point in my life.

 

[trentlogain2]

that wasn't grace was it?

 

[Im_A]

that wasn't grace was it?

Nope. Opinion is an opinion.

 

[Niels]

Some people mock whatever falls outside of the norm. I've never quite understood that mindset, but it isn't limited to virginity. There are lots of other potential targets. Clothing style, the kind of car that you drive, height, weight, skin color... you name it.

 

[trentlogain2]

Nope. Opinion is an opinion. If you get offended by my opinion...that is just downright funny.

i was referring to the post i made before my edit.

i should change my signature to something like, "i don't read. i post."

especially since i'm not posting quality posts that would reflect Christ.

 

[Im_A]

i was referring to the post i made before my edit.

i should change my signature to something like, "i don't read. i post."

especially since i'm not posting quality posts that would reflect Christ.

My only advice is, the 'quote' button is extremely helpful.

 

[trentlogain2]

My only advice is, the 'quote' button is extremely helpful.

i find the "edit" button to come in more handy.

 

[Im_A]

i find the "edit" button to come in more handy.

especially in a room full of sensitive narcs.

The mods can do that one right?

I was just meaning it is helpful to know what someone is responding too is all.

 

[trentlogain2]

The mods can do that one right?

I was just meaning it is helpful to know what someone is responding too is all.

exactly. i mean..they censor you here.

 

[Trashionista]

The culprits:

Maybe I'm just old fashioned, but I really don't think virginity or one's sex-life should be discussed. As I've said, I have way more respect for manwhores like David Lee Roth as they at least admit and embrace how trashy they are, whereas Pledgers IMO, are just as trashy for making their virginity vows public.