I mean if i serously believe all that i'll just live my life in fear. Whats the point when i don't even know if it's real till i'm dead? It would make more sense if people said to seekout the truth for yourself, rather then assuming that they have got it right.
Spot on. I have never used the threat of hell when discussing why a person should trust Jesus. The only true salvation comes in the name of love. Can you consider that people live in hell on earth? It is a mindset of being discontent, especially among those who don't know Jesus. These people live in hell, but there is worse to come when these people depart their body and no longer have Christ's presence in their life. Christ is the life force here on earth, everything about earth is a demonstration of Christ. Read John chapter 1 where the Word created everything, that's what I am talking about. If you get through this life and you reject the offer God has made you, then you will not be graced with the presence of Christ in eternity. This is how Paul wrote it:
Romans 9:3
for my people, my Jewish brothers and sisters. I would be willing to be forever cursedcut off from Christ!if that would save them.
Then there is another representation of hell, which is the lake of fire. This is the destination for those of us whose names are not written in the book of life. It is written that at the end of time when Jesus returns to judge the wicked, they will be cast into that lake of fire and there they will burn. This is the fulfillment of the prophecy of John the baptist:
Matthew 3:12:
He is ready to separate the chaff from the wheat with his winnowing fork. Then he will clean up the threshing area, gathering the wheat into his barn but burning the chaff with never-ending fire.
Notice here that it is Jesus who does the sorting, not Fred Phelps or Joe Bloggs. We are warned about judging others, in fact the very words used are these:
Matthew 7:2
For with what judgment you judge, you will be judged; and with the measure you use, it will be measured back to you.
So really Iakobos, no-one can tell you that you deserve hell, all you can do is make your best effort to ensure that your name is written in the book of life, because no-one else except you can achieve that for you. Likewise, you cannot achieve anyone else's salvation, just as I can't achieve yours. The best I can do is work on my own salvation, putting my best effort into ensuring that Jesus will sort me as wheat rather than chaff.
The topic requires that you think for yourself. Take all the information you get access to and make your decision what you will believe. You are having negative thoughts about God, that is because you are missing some crucial information: that God is love. Without realizing this very simple fact, you are actually forming a concept of God that is wrong and you are going to get bitter toward God because of that. God doesn't want anyone to burn in hell, this is proven in scripture:
Matthew 25:41
Then He will also say to those on the left hand, Depart from Me, you cursed, into the everlasting fire prepared for the devil and his angels
The lake of fire is meant for fallen angels!
John 3:17
For God did not send His Son into the world to condemn the world, but that the world through Him might be saved.
Jesus is meant to produce wheat, not chaff! If you are not growing into wheat, it would pay to check who your teachers are.
Matthew 7:21
[ I Never Knew You ] Not everyone who says to Me, Lord, Lord, shall enter the kingdom of heaven, but he who does the will of My Father in heaven.
Be wary, not everyone claiming to belong to Christ actually performs the father's will.
2 Peter 3:9
The Lord is not slack concerning His promise, as some count slackness, but is longsuffering toward us, not willing that any should perish but that all should come to repentance.
God is very patient with us while we work through the problems we face concerning our salvation.
Genesis 6:3
And the LORD said, My Spirit shall not strive with man forever, for he is indeed flesh; yet his days shall be one hundred and twenty years.
God will not wait forever for us to repent, one lifetime is enough in His mind. Three weeks was enough for me.
Be careful who you choose to trust won't you. It's a matter of grave concern, there's a form of evil in this world whose role is to kill you, only Jesus can save you from him and only you can take the required actions to protect yourself. A necessary part of life is death, but Jesus has conquered death that we may live forever in the presence of the Lord if we are prepared to live according to His will. Revelations 21 is a wonderful promise. You are at the crossroads Iakobos, be careful which way you turn and what you choose to do with your life. There is a way that seems right to a man but the end is death. Work hard to enter the narrow gate because wide is the road that leads to destruction and there are many who go that way.
Faith doesn't know a thing, yet people pretend it does.
No faith doesn't know, but the Holy Spirit does. He is God's gift to the world to teach us while we wait for Omega - Jesus' triumphant return. You have a lot to learn yet, just monitor your attitude you are behaving negatively and that is risky, you can get hurt by thinking negatively of God.