I was just contemplating the flack some of us get for being childfree. Why do you think some people feel the need to give us a hard time or question our choices? Why do they even care?
I've been thinking that maybe some people who have kids feel threatened by those of us who are happy without kids, as if they're afraid that seeing our happiness will make them less satisfied with their own lives as parents.
I'm reminded of something Adamjai said in another thread:
I think she may have hit the nail on the head. Some people grow up thinking they're supposed to get married and have a bunch of kids, and when they meet someone who hasn't followed that pattern and yet is actually happy in life, it can be quite an eye-opener.
I know I've had women look at me all wide-eyed and say, "I can't imagine life without my kids!" And I suspect that they're afraid to try, because some thoughts might come to mind that would make them uncomfortable. Which is fair enough. I'm not suggesting that anyone should have regrets about having children. That wouldn't be productive.
Any other thoughts or ideas about why some people even care whether others have children or not? Give me your theories!
I've been thinking that maybe some people who have kids feel threatened by those of us who are happy without kids, as if they're afraid that seeing our happiness will make them less satisfied with their own lives as parents.
I'm reminded of something Adamjai said in another thread:
I've gotten the weirdest looks from women, some combination of horror and realization all at once. "How could you not want kids?! Wait a minute, I didn't have to have kids?!"
I think she may have hit the nail on the head. Some people grow up thinking they're supposed to get married and have a bunch of kids, and when they meet someone who hasn't followed that pattern and yet is actually happy in life, it can be quite an eye-opener.
I know I've had women look at me all wide-eyed and say, "I can't imagine life without my kids!" And I suspect that they're afraid to try, because some thoughts might come to mind that would make them uncomfortable. Which is fair enough. I'm not suggesting that anyone should have regrets about having children. That wouldn't be productive.
Any other thoughts or ideas about why some people even care whether others have children or not? Give me your theories!