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Why do some Christians judge me by how I look

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I am a 19 year old biological female. I suffer from GID [gender identity disorder].

I have not transitioned physically but I dress and wear my hair as a male. Now some Christians have scorned me and tell me that because I wear male clothes and wear my hair as a guy that I am sinning. This has caused me a lot of anger towards other Christians. I just don't feel comfortable looking "feminine". I have severe gender dysphoria and I don't like being perceived as a "girl". I don't understand why I would be judged because of that? I cry myself to sleep and contemplate suicide because of my GID. I am not comfortable in a female role.I am not comfortable looking female I feel like I have a male soul....or at the very least an androgynous soul. But I fear I have to change my appearence to a "feminine" appearence in order to be a "good Christian".

I want to please God and it's so hard living in a household of Christians that tell me I'm sinning all the time. I have grown distant from God as a result and I hold terrible bitterness inside. I just want to be free and express the person that is inside of me.
 

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I am a 19 year old biological female. I suffer from GID [gender identity disorder].

I have not transitioned physically but I dress and wear my hair as a male. Now some Christians have scorned me and tell me that because I wear male clothes and wear my hair as a guy that I am sinning. This has caused me a lot of anger towards other Christians. I just don't feel comfortable looking "feminine". I have severe gender dysphoria and I don't like being perceived as a "girl". I don't understand why I would be judged because of that? I cry myself to sleep and contemplate suicide because of my GID. I am not comfortable in a female role.I am not comfortable looking female I feel like I have a male soul....or at the very least an androgynous soul. But I fear I have to change my appearence to a "feminine" appearence in order to be a "good Christian".

I want to please God and it's so hard living in a household of Christians that tell me I'm sinning all the time. I have grown distant from God as a result and I hold terrible bitterness inside. I just want to be free and express the person that is inside of me.
I don't struggle with GID, but I struggle with homosexuality. I can identify the 'outcast' feeling you experience.

Just to let you know, we as Christians are called to judge one another and receive the judgments if they are valid and without hypocrisy. (Matthew 7:1-5) The key in that passage is in verse 5.

Now, I wouldn't say you're sinning, necessarily. There is a certain role that God has made the woman to be. You are not legally bound to dress like a woman, but is it profitable to not dress or appear as one? If you're considering suicide it seems as though your own desire is not profiting you much, not even comfort.

I can assure 90% of females do not feel comfortable with the way they look. I encourage you to seek God through Christ and ask Him to free you from GID. I promise you it's possible. Have faith sister!
 
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