okay this time I am going to post, I have begun to and keep deleting it. I have tried my whole life to have the relationship with god that I have now. I have gone through alot of things and always buried them throughout my life. My mom had left when I was born never to see her again....trying to find her now if it is gods will. My dad remarried soon after that and always thought my stepmom was my mom for about 10 years. My dad was an aloholic and during some summers would spend time at my grandpas.....where i was molested. As a child sometimes during the summer we would get to go for a week to a local church camp. being a child we thought we found god and tried being christians but when we came home my stepmom would point out our sins and call us hyprocrites (my spelling is wrong?) so I guess the long of the short I believe that you are a christian or your not there is no gray area. I have had a difficult adult life that I am not proud of I am married to my 4th wife and have 3 beautifull kids with her. (i have a older son from my first wife) we have been married for 8 years...during the 6th year i had an affair that lasted about 8 months....this just came out about 3 months ago. I am glad it came out because lying about it kept me from having the relationship with god I desired. since then I get it... I read the bible...I understand it... I see and feel god working daily. My wife and I are trying to work out things...we have our rough days that I get beat up on what I did.. I try not to get mad I did what I did but I did it when I was a sinner. this is not what mad me turn to god.. about a year ago when my wife and I was slipping apart she would go to church.. I would not.. one day after she had gone to church I found something pulling me there so I got dressed and met her there. I have a problem with giving into temptation am I wired wrong? I love jesus, I love having him walk beside me. I love reading the bible...even teach sunday school to adults once a month ( done it once so far I loved it I felt to close to him like he talked through me) I do not want to loose this..sorry if this is scattered brained I have ADD lol
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why do I feel like a failure..
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texastig
The diablo is in the phone booth dialing 911
It's just the devil trying to keep you in his matrix. The devil has tried to destroy you all of these years but God is watching over you. As a Christian your past is gone and don't let the devil try to drudge it up again. Tell him to peddle his peanuts somewhere else.
Here's what you do daily. Get up early, read your Bible and pray. Also fellowshiping with other Christians is awesome!!! We draw strength from each other. God will take care of the rest.
I was in the same boat. My dad was violent. My mom left us kids and dad died and we lived with my grandma and homosexual uncle.
He had done bad things to my brother and I.
The devil was trying to destroy me but God came into my hell and exceeded it and defeated it. It took a long time but it was worth it.
Check out these two things. Very helpful.
1. YouTube - God's Chisel
2. Father's Love Letter Text
Here's what you do daily. Get up early, read your Bible and pray. Also fellowshiping with other Christians is awesome!!! We draw strength from each other. God will take care of the rest.
I was in the same boat. My dad was violent. My mom left us kids and dad died and we lived with my grandma and homosexual uncle.
He had done bad things to my brother and I.
The devil was trying to destroy me but God came into my hell and exceeded it and defeated it. It took a long time but it was worth it.
Check out these two things. Very helpful.
1. YouTube - God's Chisel
2. Father's Love Letter Text
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SharonL
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God knows your heart - you just need to see yourself as God sees you - once you repent of your sins and your name is written in the Lamb's Book of Life, God does not see your sins any more.
You have to realize the things that happened to you have caused many of the problems in your life - rejection being one of them. I have two step-children - raised them as my other two children, but the bond is not there - they feel rejection because their mother rejected - it has affected them all their lives.
One can't make herself be good enough, (they were molested also by a neighbor) - anyway she has ever degree possible, has awards from art industries, won a musical scholarship, keeps a spotless house, and on and on - all because of the rejection.
The boy - now 48 years later - has no self esteem, lives in a very messy house, sleeps around a lot and just goes in the other direction all because of the rejection.
Just realize this and know that you are spotless now in the eyes of God. I pray you and your wife can work it out, but she needs to know the reason for some of your actions. God is calling you to be a warrior in His army - hold your head up high and go for it - God is proud of you.
You have to realize the things that happened to you have caused many of the problems in your life - rejection being one of them. I have two step-children - raised them as my other two children, but the bond is not there - they feel rejection because their mother rejected - it has affected them all their lives.
One can't make herself be good enough, (they were molested also by a neighbor) - anyway she has ever degree possible, has awards from art industries, won a musical scholarship, keeps a spotless house, and on and on - all because of the rejection.
The boy - now 48 years later - has no self esteem, lives in a very messy house, sleeps around a lot and just goes in the other direction all because of the rejection.
Just realize this and know that you are spotless now in the eyes of God. I pray you and your wife can work it out, but she needs to know the reason for some of your actions. God is calling you to be a warrior in His army - hold your head up high and go for it - God is proud of you.
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Peripatetic
Restless mind, peaceful soul.
Remember the story of the prodigal son (Luke 15:11–32). Not only did the father welcome his wayward son back, but he started rejoicing when he was still far away and ran to meet him.
"But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him."
So even if you feel like a failure, God doesn't see you that way if you seek Him.
"But while he was still a long way off, his father saw him and was filled with compassion for him; he ran to his son, threw his arms around him and kissed him."
So even if you feel like a failure, God doesn't see you that way if you seek Him.
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I repeat this over and over but there is no other way to say this:
Do you have the holy spirit? He will give you the power to live a christian life. Human effort alone can't do this. Pray and you will get it. This will give you the inner strength to live the christian life.
Take one day at a time and get some inspirational friends that love God by their actions. Read the bible and pray daily. Get involved in a serious church. Its a life long lifestyle and you will know God more and more. True faith is demonstrated by actions than then the feelings will come. Feelings alone are like a roller coaster. Feel free to email me if have questions.
Also, keep yourself separated from vulgar movies and t.v. Remember with a computer its garbage in and garbage out-same with a human.
(temptation accountability)
An other member of this forum had some great advice which is - starting tomorrow when you get out of bed, get yourself a pad and pen, and every time you sin, confess it to the Lord then write it down on the pad. Then after you have done this all day, the next day continue to write them down but this time, try not to do the same ones as you have written down on the pad, and become aware of them to the point, that you begin to resist doing them to the point that you over come the easiest of them first, then work on the harder ones as you get to them.This will work, if you are willing and have a strong desire to repent and cut down or even get rid of your sins that you do over and over willingly and knowingly every day.Just like someone who drinks to much, it is an everyday thing, but if they want to enough, they can stop drinking and many stop completely.So it can be done. I have seen it done.
Why bad things happen:
1Pe 1:7 That the trial of your faith, being much more precious than of gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire, might be found unto praise and honour and glory at the appearing of Jesus Christ.
1Pe 4:12 Beloved, think it not strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened unto you.
Christ suffered more than any of us.
Note-Gods standards are why too high for us to obtain them alone-
Are you a good person? www.livingwaters.com/good/
Do you have the holy spirit? He will give you the power to live a christian life. Human effort alone can't do this. Pray and you will get it. This will give you the inner strength to live the christian life.
Take one day at a time and get some inspirational friends that love God by their actions. Read the bible and pray daily. Get involved in a serious church. Its a life long lifestyle and you will know God more and more. True faith is demonstrated by actions than then the feelings will come. Feelings alone are like a roller coaster. Feel free to email me if have questions.
Also, keep yourself separated from vulgar movies and t.v. Remember with a computer its garbage in and garbage out-same with a human.
(temptation accountability)
An other member of this forum had some great advice which is - starting tomorrow when you get out of bed, get yourself a pad and pen, and every time you sin, confess it to the Lord then write it down on the pad. Then after you have done this all day, the next day continue to write them down but this time, try not to do the same ones as you have written down on the pad, and become aware of them to the point, that you begin to resist doing them to the point that you over come the easiest of them first, then work on the harder ones as you get to them.This will work, if you are willing and have a strong desire to repent and cut down or even get rid of your sins that you do over and over willingly and knowingly every day.Just like someone who drinks to much, it is an everyday thing, but if they want to enough, they can stop drinking and many stop completely.So it can be done. I have seen it done.
Why bad things happen:
1Pe 1:7 That the trial of your faith, being much more precious than of gold that perisheth, though it be tried with fire, might be found unto praise and honour and glory at the appearing of Jesus Christ.
1Pe 4:12 Beloved, think it not strange concerning the fiery trial which is to try you, as though some strange thing happened unto you.
Christ suffered more than any of us.
Note-Gods standards are why too high for us to obtain them alone-
Are you a good person? www.livingwaters.com/good/
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pilgrimgal
Jeremiah 29:11 It's good!
Are you getting some kind of help for the ADD? The inconsistancy you describe is likely due in part to that. But nothing is impossible to God who loves you and is drawing you to Himself. When you did the teaching you were graced to sense His presence. Giving of yourself to others is good..but your entire life needs to be placed at His feet. Trust in Him to send the Holy Spirit to guide you and help you develop the self control needed. Ask for the help of the Holy Spirit to guard you against entering into temptaion each day of your life. Ask for the renewal of the "gift of faith." Seek good Christian counsel face to face.
prayers for you.
In the Name of Jesus.
prayers for you.
In the Name of Jesus.
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I'm new to being a Christian myself and as such, don't know as much about how to help you as these learned people do, but I can pray for you, my brother.
Will.
Will.
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It sounds like you are having a daily battle with your flesh... the old man... the old self. Here is the answer:
Gal 5:16 I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.
Gal 5:17 For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish.
If you walk in the Spirit, you will not fulfill the lust of the flesh. Meaning, if you moment by moment draw on Him and His presence for each situation and/or temptation, being mindful of His Spirit, you will not act in the flesh.
This is a minute by minute process. We all have to do it. It is a conscious choice we make.
Rom 13:14 But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.
We have to PUT ON Christ. Our natural tendency is going to be to go our own way. We now have the new man that we must PUT ON.
Eph 4:20 But you have not so learned Christ,
Eph 4:21 if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught by Him, as the truth is in Jesus:
Eph 4:22 that you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts,
Eph 4:23 and be renewed in the spirit of your mind,
Eph 4:24 and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness.
Even Paul battled His flesh dramatically (Read Romans 7).
I'm not perfect and I fall short daily. This is where the grace of God comes in and His promised forgiveness applies when we repent (1 John 1:9).
Grace...
Gal 5:16 I say then: Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.
Gal 5:17 For the flesh lusts against the Spirit, and the Spirit against the flesh; and these are contrary to one another, so that you do not do the things that you wish.
If you walk in the Spirit, you will not fulfill the lust of the flesh. Meaning, if you moment by moment draw on Him and His presence for each situation and/or temptation, being mindful of His Spirit, you will not act in the flesh.
This is a minute by minute process. We all have to do it. It is a conscious choice we make.
Rom 13:14 But put on the Lord Jesus Christ, and make no provision for the flesh, to fulfill its lusts.
We have to PUT ON Christ. Our natural tendency is going to be to go our own way. We now have the new man that we must PUT ON.
Eph 4:20 But you have not so learned Christ,
Eph 4:21 if indeed you have heard Him and have been taught by Him, as the truth is in Jesus:
Eph 4:22 that you put off, concerning your former conduct, the old man which grows corrupt according to the deceitful lusts,
Eph 4:23 and be renewed in the spirit of your mind,
Eph 4:24 and that you put on the new man which was created according to God, in true righteousness and holiness.
Even Paul battled His flesh dramatically (Read Romans 7).
I'm not perfect and I fall short daily. This is where the grace of God comes in and His promised forgiveness applies when we repent (1 John 1:9).
Grace...
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donb1959
Jesus Freak
You are a failure....just like the rest of us. We do stumble, but we get back up. The danger is not in the failing, the danger is in the not desiring not to fail.As Christians, we fall, we get up God dust us off. But willingly jumping over the sin cliff time and again is a dangerous place to be Do not tarry by the cliff.
All the best
All the best
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You've gotten a lot of great advice and the only thing that I didn't see - and I could have overlooked it is -
When Jesus was here on earth and the enemy tempted Him, He said, It is written and stated facts. He's our example and that's what we have to do. When the enemy tries to bring up our past, we immediately began thinking and saying who we are in Christ Jesus. I'm sure you have your own favorite verses. Here's a couple of mine I'm forgiven and the fact is Scripture says God doesn't remember my sins and screwups- He doesn't hold that against me NOR you. Jer 31:34. How awesome is that!
When Jesus was here on earth and the enemy tempted Him, He said, It is written and stated facts. He's our example and that's what we have to do. When the enemy tries to bring up our past, we immediately began thinking and saying who we are in Christ Jesus. I'm sure you have your own favorite verses. Here's a couple of mine I'm forgiven and the fact is Scripture says God doesn't remember my sins and screwups- He doesn't hold that against me NOR you. Jer 31:34. How awesome is that!
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jeremymahurin
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I would say to you that every person, even the best of Christians, have to deal with temptation. Continue the path you are on, getting closer to God every day. As that happens, overcoming the temptation will get easier and easier. However, it will never go away.
Stay in the Word of God and prayer. God says we are more than overcomers. Claim that and overcome every temptation of the enemy.
Stay in the Word of God and prayer. God says we are more than overcomers. Claim that and overcome every temptation of the enemy.
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heymikey80
Quidquid Latine dictum sit, altum viditur
Brother, I'm just taking a step back and looking at this. You've relied on some of the most reliable persons in your life, and they've failed you. From a human standpoint it's no wonder the fear and doubt that shows up in your mind. It's so tough to restore trust.
I'll pray that you encounter relationships within Christ's family that are trustworthy. We're human beings, too. It's possible we will fail you too. But if the believers around you can help in the character of their trustworthiness, that could go further to helping you.
It takes some close care for you. Maybe your church has someone who can help with that.
I'll pray that you encounter relationships within Christ's family that are trustworthy. We're human beings, too. It's possible we will fail you too. But if the believers around you can help in the character of their trustworthiness, that could go further to helping you.
It takes some close care for you. Maybe your church has someone who can help with that.
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You feel like a failyer because the enemy is trying to get you to quit. You are problably in the wilderness stage. watch this video i explain the 3 stages in every believers life.
youtube: How to Make JESUS CHRIST Your Lord and Savior
youtube: How to Make JESUS CHRIST Your Lord and Savior
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