Why are you Single?

[SoLo Rain]

Because no christian man has approached me and asked me out.

That's my dilemma. But I'm going to make more of an effort this year to be around other Christians.

 

[SoLo Rain]

All the good ones are taken.

Booooo!

 

[IamStefanie]

I am single because I am not ready to be in a relationship at the moment.

Same here. Been officially single for a year now. I'm not ready to be in a relationship right now, but I do want one, one day.

@ PassionforChrist, God bless you and thank you for sharing your story. It's good to know that you do not hold bad feelings toward your wife. That's love....

 

[IamStefanie]

I am single because I don't get asked out. Also because I don't really care to be in a relationship right now.

I feel you

 

[IamStefanie]

Yeah, there are quite a few of these "Being Single" threads, and there will be a ton more through the years. By making one, you get to set the tone for it.


Long story short:

Seperated 5 1/2 years
Divorced 4 1/2 years - last straw was infedelity on his part.

I have yet to seriously date. There have been opportunities the past couple years, but the situations haven't been something that could be worked with being that I need to keep the kids close to their father and rightfully so.

I purposely stayed single for quite some time because I knew I wasn't ready. I realized that I wouldn't be doing anyone or myself any favors by getting involved with them at that point. As you know, there's soo much to reflect on with yourself, the failed marriage, and children. My ex moved on very quickly so I've kind of felt the need to offer my kids the opposite. I feel it's me giving them a sense of security and a different perspective of coping skills.

At this point, situations just haven't panned out to even begin mainly because of location. I'm absolutely fine with it though. If it's meant to be, it would happen. There are moments of feeling alone, but they don't rule the day any more and haven't in years. After having tried to determine, with my own understanding, how my life should go....I'm more than willing to just be still and let God take over. I'd rather I wait a long while for one God purposed decision then to make ten mistakes because I'm impatient. I'm grateful for where I'm at right now. I have peace. It's priceless.

Beautiful

 

[IamStefanie]

Because single is sexy...

Yes, it is!

 

[MacFall]

If I could answer that question, then perhaps I wouldn't be single.

 

[Obzocky]

It would be selfish to become involved with someone until I can honestly say my issues are being managed efficiently. If you are unable to deal with yourself as a single, you should not burden another with the debris.

 

[Saucy]

Amen Xavia. You're doing the right thing.

 

[SOLDIER ❤]

That's my dilemma. But I'm going to make more of an effort this year to be around other Christians.

Tried but nothing. Also sometimes its as simple as no one is bold enough to ask me out either. Found out a guy liked me for years and never apprched me. He finally mustered the courge after I asked him if he liked me. Well any way tht didnt work out. Thats another story, but Ill always respect and love the facts that he didnt care about my size. But any who im still single.

 

[Miss Spaulding]

I'm single because I'm not seeking out a man to begin a relationship with, and why? Because A: I have more important things to focus on in my life right now, and B: I'm SO content and happy being single at this point in my life!! (which automatically tells me that God wants me to be single right now; obviously a relationship doesn't fit into His plans for my life as of present).

 

[iambren]

Single because I could no longer bear a 14-year nearly sexless marriage. Still healing.

 

[BlueJay83]

wife was unfaithful for several years, there's only so many second chances one person can have.

 

[RayofSun]

This is a question that I can only ever half answer.
I know what I am doing that is probably preventing me from meeting someone. I see my flaws and realize I should improve upon them.
However, the more important half is that God has no yet introduced that person into my life. Or if they're already here, He hasn't yet pointed it out to me. Why? Sorry, you'll have to ask Him

So,...I'm not ready + God isn't ready for me = Single Fru Fru.

 

[Ohmanthisistough]

I don't know. I can say in my 38 years of life, my longest relationship was a year and half, and that half was bad news. People say they like the "idea" of marriage, I guess that's an accurate statement, but God put many people on this earth to commune with, and to multiply with, I know I've let my insecurities get in the way with perusing women, and I am sad about that. I met a gal in a recreational sport class, but doesn't seem like she's the one for me. I hate that, cause I have all these feelings for her, plus she's going through a divorce, which isn't good with my faith. So many people seem to be going through divorces and it breaks my heart. I don't know, I want that special someone in my life, I have for awhile, my sexual charge is proof of that, (That's somewhere in the bible, if you can't control you sexual erges, get married.), I just haven't found her I guess.

 

[.Iona.]

I'm single because no one seems to want me.

 

[Core90]

There really could be more then one reason as to why I remain single.

1. There are aspects of the single life that I would find hard to give up. I enjoy being able to do thing's like play video games when I want to, and talk to my friends when I want to. I had a girlfriend for about a month (who I still am on good terms with as far as I know, I broke up with her), and she constantly craved my attention. I'd go online to talk to or play games with friends at 12-1 am at night, and she'd be on AIM waiting to talk to me. I also like that right now I can be content with my part-time job, living at home, and no car though the car part may change soon).

2. I would like to have a girlfriend, provided she lets me enjoy the things above at times to and doesn't try to mold me into her idea of the perfect boyfriend. I'm also hoping that the next girl I have a relationship with is the one I will end up marrying.

But here's the thing. I by no means whatsover am any girl's 'Prince Charming'. I'm quite a bit overweight, I have psoriasis (spelling?) that flares up as it pleases, and like I said I play video games alot, watch sports, have a part-time job, live at home, and have no car.

 

[SoLo Rain]

Tried but nothing.

Really? That's not giving me much hope.

Also sometimes its as simple as no one is bold enough to ask me out either.

I can relate. I've had men be too bold (like the first time they meet me say that they want to marry me--that's scary) or like you, men who are not bold enough. I thought they liked me/heard they liked me, but they never did anything about it (which is ok because they were unbelievers).


Found out a guy liked me for years and never apprched me. He finally mustered the courge after I asked him if he liked me. Well any way tht didnt work out. Thats another story, but Ill always respect and love the facts that he didnt care about my size. But any who im still single.

Sorry it didn't work out, but it's good that you can take away something positive from the experience. It's great when someone likes you for who you are!

 

[darktipper]

Due to bad experiences................
I am now becoming a monk lol.
I just have to learn how to fly now.

 

[Flashlight]

People annoy me.