Whole or Incomplete?

[StaySalty]

Do you feel incomplete as a single?

 

[fishstix]

Do you feel incomplete as a single?

I do feel whole, but even if I didn't, the truth is that I am whole, because I have Jesus. Jesus is the one who makes a person whole, not a spouse. As a Christian, I have Jesus and the Holy Spirit - and that makes me whole, regardless of my marital status and regardless of what my emotions may feel.

 

[Wakeup2god]

I do feel whole, but even if I didn't, the truth is that I am whole, because I have Jesus. Jesus is the one who makes a person whole, not a spouse. As a Christian, I have Jesus and the Holy Spirit - and that makes me whole, regardless of my marital status and regardless of what my emotions may feel.

Spot on fish.

We can only be complete in God. He is all sufficiant. If we seek anything else in order to find completion then we're simply chasing comforts. A partner should be something that compliments us or is an addition to us but not a completing factor. That is why it is so important for people to find out who they are in God. However God can use other people to reveal more of ourselves to us, both good and bad.

 

[songz777]

The bible says we are COMPLETE in CHrist. We are spiritually whole / full . The feeling of fullness will only be revealed and experienced if one is very close to God.
I dearly love the Lord, and am whole BUT there is still that something in me that dearly longs to care for a spouse. If we are so whole in Christ (like we will be in heaven) we would never have any hunger or desire for anything else for us or other people.
So God allows us to hunger. I think that God allows us to have feelings of "incompleteness" as regards earthly needs / longings. Hannah was incomplete wihtout a son why? because God wanted her to feel like that so she would pray for His will to be done (a child to restore godliness) Abraham walked so close to God, and I am quite sure that their lives even so close to God wasnt that totally "completeness" they so longed for ( a son). I think we need to be real with our selves and tell God how we feel about those very important things in our lives(or lack of them) I know for my self, that when Gd brings a spouse into my it will powerfully work for good in my whole zeal for God ( not that I slack now) but by seeing such answers to prayer, powerfully encourage one to risk time and effort for greater things. We can be complete in a spirtual sense but not always in an earthly sense. Tell a chritsian mother who sees her son heading for hell, that she snap out of those feelings of grief and be complete, is utter folly. As far as she is concerned her feeling complete is seeing her son rescued and saved. we are complete "postionally" before God, but God allows those incomplete feelings to move us to pray and seek His face.

 

[Wakeup2god]

Well said Songz, elequently and graciously stated as always. We must always check our motives though. Those forces that drive us to desire certain things in our lives. Sometimes we need to lay down our desires to persue His.

Seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness, and all these things shall be added unto you....

 

[Macrina]

I do feel whole, but even if I didn't, the truth is that I am whole, because I have Jesus. Jesus is the one who makes a person whole, not a spouse. As a Christian, I have Jesus and the Holy Spirit - and that makes me whole, regardless of my marital status and regardless of what my emotions may feel.

That is absolutely what I was going to say.

I am a whole person and I feel like it, too.

 

[Stanfi]

We should feel complete as a single. Dating should not be about "getting a life" but rather finding someone to "share your life with". If you expect a dating partner to meet some need in your life, you are going to be dissapointed. If you search for a dating partner while having some aching need in your life, then it's like going to the grocery store when hungry. It's hard to tell what you will end up with because you grab the first thing that you see.

 

[TriptychR]

Hm... I think I'm more in Songz camp with this one. I know that God is sufficient, but I also know that I will every now and then experience a feeling of "incompleteness" at not having a mate. It's just something I accept as natural, though, and a time to turn to God even more.

 

[A Brother In Christ]

women may feel at ease with only God

Gen 2:18 And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help mate for him.

 

[TriptychR]

women may feel at ease with only God

Gen 2:18 And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help mate for him.

If you're implying what I think you are, I don't think women necessarily have that priviledge over men. I don't see why God couldn't create woman with the same "not good to be alone" vibe as man.

 

[fishstix]

women may feel at ease with only God

Gen 2:18 And the Lord God said, it is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help mate for him.

That verse could be applied equally to men or women. It's not good for any of us to be alone - we all need relationships with other human beings. However, those relationships aren't what make us complete. The relationship that makes us complete - male or female, single or married, old or young, is a relationship with Jesus.

 

[JPPT1974]

I have come a long, long way to get to know Christ much better as my Savior & Lord. And I think I will always have a long, long way to go. And continuing and will always continue to grow in my walk with Jesus. You keep learning new things about Jesus each & every single day regardless.

 

[chickenfeet]

i used to define myself by who i had in my life, excluding God. relationships used to be my substance, i felt worthless if i had noone. needless to say, that was unhealthy way of thinking/living, and have since changed the way i percieve myself, and my life.

i now feel content and even whole in my singleness.. as i am learning to lean more on God and turn to Him when i need someone

 

[Niels]

Whole. But I sure don't feel like kissing my coworker, or a random stranger while sitting on a park bench after enjoying a beautiful sunset! There are many things which cannot be expressed outside of a loving relationship... and no, I'm not just talking about sex. I will never be able to show how good a dad I'd be, if I'm never a father etc. There is so much more to me that is stifled by the void, and I hate it. It's like I'm a whole person, but much of what makes me who I am, is latent. And nobody else may ever see it

 

[A Brother In Christ]

If you're implying what I think you are, I don't think women necessarily have that priviledge over men. I don't see why God couldn't create woman with the same "not good to be alone" vibe as man.

yeah .....how many men can live alone....

then ask how many women live along

 

[JPPT1974]

i used to define myself by who i had in my life, excluding God. relationships used to be my substance, i felt worthless if i had noone. needless to say, that was unhealthy way of thinking/living, and have since changed the way i percieve myself, and my life.

i now feel content and even whole in my singleness.. as i am learning to lean more on God and turn to Him when i need someone

I felt that way too until I became more closer to God and that God has and will continue to change my life in Him through Jesus.

 

[Stanfi]

i used to define myself by who i had in my life, excluding God. relationships used to be my substance, i felt worthless if i had noone. needless to say, that was unhealthy way of thinking/living, and have since changed the way i percieve myself, and my life.

i now feel content and even whole in my singleness.. as i am learning to lean more on God and turn to Him when i need someone

Amen! The only source of sef-worth is knowing who you are in Christ! Your spouse, job, home, cars, this things can all be taken away. If these are what give you your identity and your self worth in life, it will not last. True self worth comes from a intimate personal realationship with Christ, serving him, and know who you are in Christ.

 

[one 4 Christ]

That verse could be applied equally to men or women. It's not good for any of us to be alone - we all need relationships with other human beings. However, those relationships aren't what make us complete. The relationship that makes us complete - male or female, single or married, old or young, is a relationship with Jesus.

I am with you on that one!!!
Most of the time I feel complete.
The only time that I would not feel complete is when I am overly pressured about the marriage thing and here I am single, 31 and have a little crush on actor Tom Cavanagh (from Ed) and other women my age are married. But I try to keep in mind what you said about God and all. Also that he has a very good purpose for me.

 

[lunalinda]

I feel incomplete, but not because I'm single. I guess it's because...well...I don't know, really. I'm just not altogether here.

 

[2Timothy2]

I do feel whole, but even if I didn't, the truth is that I am whole, because I have Jesus. Jesus is the one who makes a person whole, not a spouse. As a Christian, I have Jesus and the Holy Spirit - and that makes me whole, regardless of my marital status and regardless of what my emotions may feel.

Yep, uh-huh, that sums it up for me.