I totally agree with you. Niffer I just wanted to add something from the males prospective, well a college educated male. I think most men that are in their profession or will be in the profession they have sacrificed for they typically look for women going in that same direction. Even if she wants to be a stay at home mom I think the fact that she is educated makes her more "marketable."I always wanted to be a SAHM, and it's been my favorite job so far.
BUT! I would really, REALLY encourage you get secondary education, and work in something you KNOW you can provide for yourself, if you need to because:
a) Who knows when/if you'll get married
b) I think that if you don't have a little, you should be working and helping provide for yourself and your husband
c) Should something horrible happen to your husband and you're left without a breadwinner, you need to be able to support your family (and any children)
I was a SAHW for about 10 months after getting married and moving to a teensy town...and I tell you, it was awful.
You're not bringing in any money, your housework and meal prep only take so much time and the rest of it, you're bored.
I would really encourage working before you settle in with kids..plus getting that nest-egg is super helpful too, and its easier with duel incomes.
~ Niff
I totally understand what you mean Kylissa.
While it's true my resume' would look "dated" now, I keep in touch and am good friends with those in the field.
There are a couple I know of, off the top of my head that would provide me work in my field, even if it was on contract until I could get something better.
(I've been asked if I wanted to 'come back' a few times too. )
So in that way I'm fortunate, but as a Library Tech, the longer I'm out of the field, the more changes there are....
I don't know if it'd be that easy to get back in, say...10 years from now... *shrug*
~ Niff
I'm kind of an old fashioned girl, and I like the traditional family model where the husband works and the wife is a homemaker. I'm currently single, but I know that when I'm in a relationship, at some point in time the guy will need to know this information. I feel like if I bring it up too late I run the risk of possibly wasting my time and the guy's time because we're not compatible. But if I bring it up too early, it could be a little weird. When and how is the best way to address this?
I'm kind of an old fashioned girl, and I like the traditional family model where the husband works and the wife is a homemaker. I'm currently single, but I know that when I'm in a relationship, at some point in time the guy will need to know this information. I feel like if I bring it up too late I run the risk of possibly wasting my time and the guy's time because we're not compatible. But if I bring it up too early, it could be a little weird. When and how is the best way to address this?
Absolutely. The sooner the better. Otherwise you may have some serious hurt feelings on both your part and his. And then you have to start over.Bring it up early, probably in the context of what your career plans/5 year plan/whatever you want to call it is. Say you want to be a homemaker and a mom. It'll drive the wrong kind of guy away and get the right kind of guy to stay.