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Amen to that. Most of all I have always wanted to avoid ever sounding bitter. I mean, I like to think that there's no hidden part of my heart that possesses or has the potential to possess bitterness when it comes to how I feel about romantic love or view those of the fairer sex, considering my romantic ideals, but still, it is a scary thing to think of myself as ever becoming such. ... Or becoming what I have heard called on certain specialized YT channels in the near past: a Neckbeard. O_O
From what I've read from you, you don't fit into any of those categories. You seem like a kind, generous, positive soul.
 
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Really wish it would rain. Both in Canada, and where I live, as we're in a pretty serious drought now, and the smoke from the Canadian wildfires is causing serious air quality and health issues here. I know God is faithful and WILL bring rain. Trying to hang in there.
 
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I think there are a couple people I need to try to reconcile with. I know they’re walls. It’s sources of the problem that’d be brought into a relationship that shouldn’t be there.

I don’t know how tho. I was the one who was hurt.

If you hurt someone, what would you think if they tried to reconcile? What would reconciliation look like? Is it possible for sinful people to go back to the way things were before the hurt? Would that be good for either of them? Or is it best just to say ‘it’s just who we are.’

One I’ve tried to reconcile with in the past. It’s just awkward. It feels like you’re just trying to earn points from them & they'll never be satisified with your effort. So it’s easy to think there’s no point in reconciling because it just feels like why am I doing this.

Please pray for this, also I pray that any reconciliation you need to do, the Spirit can work in you as well, that you may be a witness.
 
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If you hurt someone, what would you think if they tried to reconcile?

It would put them in an incredibly vulnerable spot. Depending on their character, I'd either be mesmerised by their strength, or I'd take pity on their weakness. If you're the former, then be as bold as a lion. If you're the latter, then I'd want you to spend the time in prayer, asking Him for the wisdom required to begin building character. And ONLY that, don't go looking for these people.

Wisdom is the most crucial element of all. It's not about being macho or alpha; forgiving or gracious - or whatever adjective you wish to use, it is SOLELY down to wisdom. Wisdom is everything.
 
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We desperately need rain here where I live.
Same. No rain here for longer than I can remember. There's a pond down the street from me that I take walks past, and it's typically full and brimming with life; ducks, geese, frogs. It's almost entirely dry now. Just a sad puddle in the bottom. All the wildlife has left. Please, God, make it rain already!
 
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I think there are a couple people I need to try to reconcile with. I know they’re walls. It’s sources of the problem that’d be brought into a relationship that shouldn’t be there.

I don’t know how tho. I was the one who was hurt.

If you hurt someone, what would you think if they tried to reconcile? What would reconciliation look like? Is it possible for sinful people to go back to the way things were before the hurt? Would that be good for either of them? Or is it best just to say ‘it’s just who we are.’

One I’ve tried to reconcile with in the past. It’s just awkward. It feels like you’re just trying to earn points from them & they'll never be satisified with your effort. So it’s easy to think there’s no point in reconciling because it just feels like why am I doing this.

Please pray for this, also I pray that any reconciliation you need to do, the Spirit can work in you as well, that you may be a witness.
I'm not sure if I understand the context. Are you saying you had friendships where it ended because they were unkind to you?

Generally I think the only time you should mend fences is if they are eager for it. If they're not giving some sign that they want to be friends again, or that they feel bad about the past, I would just leave things be.

There is a Jewish custom to ask forgiveness three times and if they don't want to reconcile it's considered that you've already made the effort. But that custom started at an earlier time, when the world was more forgiving and kind.
 
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I'm not sure if I understand the context. Are you saying you had friendships where it ended because they were unkind to you?

Generally I think the only time you should mend fences is if they are eager for it. If they're not giving some sign that they want to be friends again, or that they feel bad about the past, I would just leave things be.

There is a Jewish custom to ask forgiveness three times and if they don't want to reconcile it's considered that you've already made the effort. But that custom started at an earlier time, when the world was more forgiving and kind.
No, a couple family members. I think we are trying

It would put them in an incredibly vulnerable spot. Depending on their character, I'd either be mesmerised by their strength, or I'd take pity on their weakness. If you're the former, then be as bold as a lion. If you're the latter, then I'd want you to spend the time in prayer, asking Him for the wisdom required to begin building character. And ONLY that, don't go looking for these people.

Wisdom is the most crucial element of all. It's not about being macho or alpha; forgiving or gracious - or whatever adjective you wish to use, it is SOLELY down to wisdom. Wisdom is everything.
Ugh, so it'd be worse!
 
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