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My stomach has been hurting off and on for two days. The stress about the shooting and uncertainty is causing it. Soup and rest help a bit. Then the phone rings and it starts again.

Yes, anxiety and stress over really anything does seem to actually exacerbate painful symptoms of physical illnesses. I hope you will feel more peace of mind and thus better in the stomach area, Bella.
 
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Working from home is done as of this Wednesday. I'm a bit anxious about it but am ready for a change. You may see less of me b/c I won't be able to post during work anymore.
Hopefully the transition will go well. Mine started in June and it has had its curve balls. I wouldn't be surprised if they have us working remote again over the winter if numbers go up. They've made exceptions for people with kids right now, if they have to quarantine they can work remotely.

Also, he apparently has a new last name. Did his mother remarry and he took his step father's name? Was he secretly gay, and is now married to a guy? Did he marry a woman who insisted that he take her last name instead? Did he appear on Maury, and discover that the man he called Dad wasn't his father? Admittedly, I am curious.
Sounds interesting. You'll have to keep us posted.

I ask for your prayers right now for the sake of my cousin Courtney and her family. While I have not seen my great Aunt Kathy (on my mother's side) in six years at least, she unfortunately died last week with some suffering from a brain ailment I do not have the details
I'm so sorry for the loss of your aunt. Even if you didn't know her it's still family. It's good that you have a protective nature about your cousin and what she's been experiencing. I can definitely relate, and one of my friends to this day doesn't understand why people were so mean to me when I was nice.

I think I’ll skip fall decor and focus on winter. Maybe I’ll have time for seasonal crafts.
That's understandable. You have so much going on right now and then this new relationship that is unfolding. In general I think of fall as only 3 weeks. But people were putting Halloween decorations out back in mid August. It's so strange. If you want to go from season to season with one thing some people have a fall tree they change into a Christmas tree and then a winter tree. But still that's more complicated than just a wreath. I started my summer decorations before summer came with a patriotic theme. I'm not ready to let go of Summer... I'm also thinking about some kind of combination without it being totally fall. At least for the interior. I've already put my pumpkins at Mum's out.

My stomach has been hurting off and on for two days. The stress about the shooting and uncertainty is causing it. Soup and rest help a bit. Then the phone rings and it starts again.
Praying that you will feel better.:hug:
 
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I'm so sorry for the loss of your aunt. Even if you didn't know her it's still family. It's good that you have a protective nature about your cousin and what she's been experiencing. I can definitely relate, and one of my friends to this day doesn't understand why people were so mean to me when I was nice.

Thanks. I did know Aunt Kathy, don't get me wrong. In fact considering she was a great aunt I think I saw quite a bit of her as a pre-teen child and younger. But since probably 15 or 16, I had maybe seen her or anyone else in cousin Courtney's family three times, if that. They are all from the Haggard family, where my maternal grandmother is from. I am friends with Courtney on Facebook, so I sent a message of condolence to her the other night, at least. Hopefully she will respond soon and inform me that they are doing well, considering.

I am not sure how the whole cousin system works, or at least I never remember after it's explained to me. ^_^ Courtney is a generation ahead of me, being a younger cousin to my mother. So in that case, how do you define my relation to her kids Harrison and Chelsea, being of my gen though nearly twenty years younger? First cousins once removed, or something like that? :mmh:
 
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can definitely relate, and one of my friends to this day doesn't understand why people were so mean to me when I was nice.

Yes, definitely. As I said before, no one actually deserves being bullied. But especially those who are kind and have done no serious wrong (like being a bully themselves) like a good lady like yourself, Sampa, definitely do not deserve it. Bullying, much like torture, is in my worldview an always undue and dishonorable means of punishment and/or vengeance, no matter who the recipient is. It is lowering oneself to the position of a monster in order to fight monsters (in the case of a career bully, for instance, finally getting the tables turned on him but the once-victim who did so takes teaching him a lesson too far by going after him repeatedly in the future using the same underhanded and mean-spirited tactics). And in most cases of bullying, I imagine that the recipient of bullying is completely innocent anyway. Much like yourself, and Chelsea.

High school kids and even middle-schoolers can be downright vicious. And in an age past yours and my time, with social media dominant, I can only imagine they have gotten worse.
 
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I'm not ready to let go of Summer...

I am. I enjoy sunny and blue skies with wispy white clouds in and of themselves, as much as the next guy, but, as you might well know, Lady Winter is a muse and particularly amiable companion of mine. ^-^
 
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Thanks. I did know Aunt Kathy, don't get me wrong. In fact considering she was a great aunt I think I saw quite a bit of her as a pre-teen child and younger. But since probably 15 or 16, I had maybe seen
Sorry my mistake. Maybe I miss read it. My heart goes out to you and your family that's affected.

Bullying, much like torture, is in my worldview an always undue and dishonorable means of punishment and/or vengeance, no matter who the recipient is.
Yes, it definitely can be. But one of my bullies came back years later as a friend and sister in christ. She asked for my forgiveness repeatedly and last year she made sure that I heard her out. Unfortunately back in June our friendship separated once again. This time over the vaccine. She got pushy and after months and months of pushing I pushed back that I didn't have time for all the information she was sending me. From what I know she has blocked me on social media and I pretty much have no contact with her now. We both had lived very similar lives with her upbringing, but she chose to take it out on others while I turned it inward.

High school kids and even middle-schoolers can be downright vicious. And
Especially middle school. As a teacher in Japan I was shocked to see that the teasing and meanness is a worldwide thing. The class president was being very mean to a girl that was slower. My heart went out to her but I didn't know enough Japanese to be able to tell him to stop it. I kept my eye on her and tried to boost her esteem as much as I could by talking with her.. even with the language barrier. I think she saw me as many people did like a manga character since I had blue eyes. At least that's what one of my Japanese friends explain to me about people with different colored eyes oh Japanese see them. Especially in remote areas where it's mostly homogeneous society.
 
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As a teacher in Japan I was shocked to see that the teasing and meanness is a worldwide thing. The class president was being very mean to a girl that was slower.


I honestly would not have expected that of Japan for the most part. Especially with their seeming culture of politeness and formalities. I hope the slower girl has managed to get past her days of being bullied and overcome the meanness shown her with kindness of her own.



I think she saw me as many people did like a manga character since I had blue eyes.

^-^

Just needed the cat ears and you would have nailed it in their eyes, I guess.



At least that's what one of my Japanese friends explain to me about people with different colored eyes
Blue eyes are a rarity among the Japanese citizenry?:mmh:
 
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I honestly would not have expected that of Japan for the most part. Especially with their seeming culture of politeness and formalitie
yes there's all kinds of interesting things that you see in the culture that bullying goes into adulthood. Someone was telling me a story of a private school teacher that had a parent that was irate about something.. and the guy bowed to the lowest level asking for forgiveness. It's also interesting that students are not disciplined like they would be in the states. The island that I lived on they were like the 1950s.. it was very innocent. I once saw a group of teachers that took one student and made a circle around him in the church teachers room. They began yelling and screaming at him in Japanese to embarrass him of pulling the fire alarm. Another student out in the courtyard I saw slammed up against a wall by a teacher because he had been caught smoking. That was Junior high School. In the major city it's a different story where I heard of students attacking teachers, and one had a patch over his eye because of the damage of student did to him. But because the school likes to keep things hush hush there's no retaliation. Also disruptive students are never sent out in the hall or taken out of the classroom. They have rights to education so the teachers must put up with it. It's a very complex culture. Even domestic abuse I've been surprised, they turn a blind eye. One of my friends from college was with me at a train station North of Tokyo. It was near midnight, when most people probably have gone out for drinks, and my friend said look over there. I saw a boyfriend, young, hitting his girlfriend. I was surprised because it was so quiet. He went off to catch the train, she ran after him, he tried to push her away but she persisted to go with him. It was so surreal. And everyone at the train station didn't bat an eye. I've heard the same if a domestic dispute case is happening within the apartment complex, the neighbors will never report it. When I lived near a major city north of Tokyo, the first case of a murder instituted restraining orders in 1999. They are a community oriented culture so everything is for the greater good of the community. Which many times can mean turning a blind eye too many things that are wrong. Another example is homelessness. You're not allowed to look at the homeless person. They have a turban that they wear on their head to identify them.

Just needed the cat ears and you would have nailed it in their eyes, I guess.
Hahaha.

Blue eyes are a rarity among the Japanese citizenry?:mmh:
Yes. Even though most of their eyes are a brown color, they have no distinction between the color variations and they just call their eyes black. It's very strange. But they are obsessed with making eyes bigger.
 
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Just a thought, I'm not sure if it's just me, but with online dating, those that have more resources, if I say anything about my past with the military or current work obligations, there is just silence. They seem to be more interested in other things. I don't know if they consider my work boring or it's irrelevant to what they want to know about me? Currently just started a conversation with someone in an elite online dating site. It's been a while since I have had a conversation/messaging.
 
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Just a thought, I'm not sure if it's just me, but with online dating, those that have more resources, if I say anything about my past with the military or current work obligations, there is just silence. They seem to be more interested in other things. I don't know if they consider my work boring or it's irrelevant to what they want to know about me? Currently just started a conversation with someone in an elite online dating site. It's been a while since I have had a conversation/messaging.
Maybe they find it hard to relate. My siblings were Army brats, and many of my relatives have been in various armed services, but I've remained a civilian. There's a kind of certitude regarding how things are, or how the world should be, that comes with the military lifestyle. Especially in terms of the way things are structured. It's neither bad nor good, I suppose. It makes logistical and practical sense for managing national defense, and can have its own charm, but it can also seem a little odd to those of us in the private sector.

If I was on a date with a woman who served in the military, I'd probably mention my family members, say where they were stationed, and talk about visits to various military schools and bases. Without that context, however, the conversation might fall flat. She should also try to meet me halfway, by demonstrating an appreciation for the fact that civilian life isn't so cut and dry in terms daily routines, what to wear, chains of command, etc. It sounds like the guys you're talking with had to chart their own course. It's a different lifestyle. Your teaching experiences might be more relatable and elicit more of a response from them.
 
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Yes, anxiety and stress over really anything does seem to actually exacerbate painful symptoms of physical illnesses. I hope you will feel more peace of mind and thus better in the stomach area, Bella.

My head hurts. My heart hurts. I’m tired. I said kaddish yesterday for his friend and asked for justice for both this morning. I’m fasting today.

Thank you for your kindness. :)
 
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In general I think of fall as only 3 weeks. But people were putting Halloween decorations out back in mid August.

Content wise you start in advance. The seasons are in arrears. Right now you’d work on holidays. Next month is New Years Eve. November is Valentines and December is St. Patrick’s Day. You do fall in the summer. Including tailgates. Adopting the same will make the channel easier. Food is a little trickier. We eat seasonally. I’ll find a workaround.

Praying that you will feel better.:hug:

Thank you. This week was my grandmother’s birthday. She’s been gone a year. There’s a lot going on. The Lord had me break my fast to stop the headache. I’m contemplating trying tomorrow with boilermaker prayer. We’ll see how I feel.
 
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I hope that tomorrow will not be too difficult. It will be my 10th anniversary of joining a website that I once loved, that was once a fun, enjoyable, friendly, helpful, and wholesome place. But now it is an awful, dirty place that hates Christian values and I never want to go back. At first I was planning to celebrate with a big giveaway, but instead I'll still be hurting deep down from the way they treated me and the truth.

...But, I'll try not to think about it too much. I have drawing and sewing to do which might help.
 
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I'm low-key envious of people that like heavy blankets. That's a really nice looking one, and it's different than any I have seen around in stores.

Why? I have a thing for down comforters. I want an ultra warmth version. Really plush with lots of feathers! I sleep with one year round. I'm usually cold.
 
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@JustSomeBloke

Since they moved the thread and booted us we can continue here! :D

Repeat after me...children do not hinder your sex life! Poor planning and misalignment does. Making children the priority over marriage causes problems.

Do you have more responsibilities? Yes. Are you bringing sexy back? No! Sexy never left! Marriage should be better than dating. Not worse. It's an opportunity to do more. Not less.

Things cool down because people slack off. They put their best foot forward winning them and make excuses later. That's all wrong. You're supposed to rock their world. Send them to work with some pep in their step! Grinning like a goose.

I recommend reading The Surrendered Wife while dating. Go through it together. If there's confusion afterwards read The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands. Dr. Laura tells it like it is. That may bother some. But traditional wives love her. Hint hint.
 
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