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[bèlla]

I just noticed this beneath your avatar, @bèlla :

u ❤️ me

.... I like it. It's simple and short but says all it needs to about a person like you. ^-^

Thank you.

 

[bèlla]

To thine own self be true.

 

[cara-mia]

To thine own self be true.

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BOOM!

Don’t ever do that!

 

[bèlla]

@DragonFox91

If I were in your shoes this would be my approach. I wouldn’t limit myself to r/t opportunities. Especially in this period. I’d join a few Christian forums and start connecting. There’s a lot of singles. You can observe their behavior and interact with them and see what happens.

It doesn’t matter where she lives. You have the means to relocate her and afford the meetings. That opens up opportunities. You may need to widen your net.

 

[bèlla]

BOOM!

Don’t ever do that!

I won’t. Promise.

Our talk was refreshing. I’m coming to terms with my circumstances and the necessity for change. I can’t do what I’ve done in the past. I’m in a different place. Redefining my needs helped.

I need a companion whose work is satisfying and provides the mobility and compensation he desires. Ideally, an entrepreneur who controls his income and isn’t restricted by salary.

Someone with mobility who isn’t tied to one place and has a thirst for adventure. A gentleman who’s poised, intelligent, and socially astute who loves culture and doesn’t mind parties, outings, and charitable events.

Someone who loves the Lord and desires to deepen his faith and personal growth and is committed to both.

Someone self-aware who sees himself as a work-in-progress and desires to leave the world better through his work and impact on others.

Someone who isn’t threatened by a companion doing big things and chasing big dreams. He admires and supports her efforts.

That’s what I want.

 

[bèlla]

@cara-mia

In the meantime, I’d like to connect with a Christian gentleman for bible study. I usually study with women and it would be a nice change of pace and I’d welcome the fellowship.

I’m mixing things up.

 

[bèlla]

@cara-mia

Cupper, this is hilarious! Wake up and throw on a gown and crown. Capture their reaction. We have to do it.

 

[DragonFox91]

@DragonFox91

If I were in your shoes this would be my approach. I wouldn’t limit myself to r/t opportunities. Especially in this period. I’d join a few Christian forums and start connecting. There’s a lot of singles. You can observe their behavior and interact with them and see what happens.

It doesn’t matter where she lives. You have the means to relocate her and afford the meetings. That opens up opportunities. You may need to widen your net.

What is r/t opportunities mean?

Hmm to the rest.

 

[bèlla]

What is r/t opportunities mean?

Hmm to the rest.

People you meet in person.

 

[DragonFox91]

People you meet in person.

I'm not sure. Right now I'm not meeting enough single girls in person. The goal is to somehow improve that.

I do like online forums tho. This isn't the only one I'm a part of BTW. The other ones aren't Christian-based tho.

 

[bèlla]

I'm not sure. Right now I'm not meeting enough single girls. The goal is to somehow improve that.

I do like online forums tho. This isn't the only one I'm a part of BTW. The other ones aren't Christian-based tho.

Join some Christian ones. You’ve got a common denominator off the bat.

 

[Rigatoni]

I'm not sure. Right now I'm not meeting enough single girls in person. The goal is to somehow improve that.

I do like online forums tho. This isn't the only one I'm a part of BTW. The other ones aren't Christian-based tho.

I know of at least two or three dating / marriage success stories from couples who met here on CF. It seems like they finally met the right person when they weren't even looking, but rather were focused on the Lord's affairs and were content doing so.

I hope to one day meet up with a really awesome woman on here, but am content being single in the mean time. The hard part is meeting someone who has a passion and fear of God who would also respect and value me, which would be initiated and reciprocated. Respect is paramount for me.

 

[DragonFox91]

I know of at least two or three dating / marriage success stories from couples who met here on CF. It seems like they finally met the right person when they weren't even looking, but rather were focused on the Lord's affairs and were content doing so.

I hope to one day meet up with a really awesome woman on here, but am content being single in the mean time. The hard part is meeting someone who has a passion and fear of God who would also respect and value me, which would be initiated and reciprocated. Respect is paramount for me.

It's not impossible to meet & get married off message boards. I've heard it happen off other message boards I posted/post in too.

The biggest problem is the whole distance thing. Bella mentions it wouldn't be a hinderance for me, but it's not my ideal. I suppose it's something that's built up to, tho.

I actually met a friend off a message board. It was a long-distance friendship, but we talked on the phone once a week for at least a couple years.

 

[bèlla]

It's not impossible to meet & get married off message boards. I've heard it happen off other message boards I posted/post in too.

I've known many who met online and have solid relationships. @cara-mia met her fiance online and me too.

The biggest problem is the whole distance thing. Bella mentions it wouldn't be a hinderance for me, but it's not my ideal. I suppose it's something that's built up to, tho.

I actually met a friend off a message board. It was a long-distance friendship, but we talked on the phone once a week for at least a couple years.

It may not be your ideal but you aren't making contacts in person. It would be different if you were. You may find more success branching out than limiting yourself to random meetings. Some traction is better than none.

I suggested it to you because you can afford it. I'm opposed to singles mortgaging themselves for long distance relationships. Or getting involved with people they can barely see in person.

Does it happen? Yes. Can some make it work? Yes. But it takes a toll on the couple over time. I know a couple who survived on 1-2 meetings yearly while he went to school. Another managed on one every year. They lived in different countries.

Most people can't handle that and should be realistic when vetting suitors. That's the primary reason I've held off getting serious with anyone. I know I'm leaving. Overseas travel and hotels would easily cost $15K or more a year for frequent visits. I can't ask someone to swallow that.

Some couples share the expenses but my partner's don't. They pay their own way.

 

[cara-mia]

@cara-mia, Little Miss brought wine. Chard and Riesling. She's such a good girl!

That is what I’m talking about! Smart cookie!!

 

[cara-mia]

That’s what I want.

That is what you will have. No need to play it small. You were destined for great things. Either he will be a part of that or

 

[cara-mia]

You might see something in them – some gift or potential that you try to motivate them towards. You might sense feelings that they’re trying to keep hidden. You emotionally X-ray people and sometimes this can be a scary experience for those who want to stay hidden.

I have never considered myself as intimidating but I do believe a large personality can make those who already feel small, feel even smaller.
@bèlla the X-ray part had me cracking up! Shrinking at its finest.

 

[bèlla]

That is what you will have. No need to play it small. You were destined for great things. Either he will be a part of that or

Thank you Cuppie.

That's where my situation differs from the others. They were married when things took off. They weren't dating in the midst of it. That creates its own dilemma.

 

[bèlla]

You might see something in them – some gift or potential that you try to motivate them towards. You might sense feelings that they’re trying to keep hidden. You emotionally X-ray people and sometimes this can be a scary experience for those who want to stay hidden.

Yep. You can make a difference in a lot of lives that way. Some people are uncomfortable with transparency. That's what I expect in my connections. Peeling back the layers takes too much work. I like people to unveil on their own.

I have never considered myself as intimidating but I do believe a large personality can make those who already feel small, feel even smaller.
@bèlla the X-ray part had me cracking up! Shrinking at its finest.

One of my pals is a well-known food blogger. She's published cookbooks and developed a big following. She had 3 quotes about haters this week along with her usual stuff. And that's really sad.

I wish people could be happy in their own skin and stop projecting their issues on others who have nothing to do with it. They aren't part of the problem and they didn't cause it.

Everyone doesn't need to be the same. Just because someone behaves differently doesn't mean you have to be intimated. Just because they have things you lack doesn't mean you should be nasty to them.

 

[bèlla]

The towels came today! I can’t get the glass cabinet until April. *fingers crossed* They said the same thing in February. I’ll keep them in the box until then.