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You can’t reason with obsession. Every gesture is viewed through that lens. She knows you’re not interested. A reasonable person would accept that and carry on.

But unreasonable ones can’t. They develop addictions or love/hate towards the other party. There will be periods of normalcy but the obsession rears its head at some point.

Given your proximity denial is best. Access rewards poor behavior and doesn’t relay the inappropriateness of her actions. She may be nice to others but where you’re concerned she’s unstable. Subjecting yourself to unwanted advances and harassment isn’t wise.

Personal access should be discontinued.

Yeah, I've simply come to the conclusion that talking to her is just a liability. I gave her way too many chances. She's probably hardwired to act this way.. so in a sense she'll never change.
 
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Daaghh

Give her a break, she's probably just testing her mettle with you for her future hubby...or something.


Be a friend and sharpen her up.

I have her plenty of breaks already.

Not sure what you think she's testing. She was married before.
 
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yeah...I know...

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Well, what makes her unattractive?

I'm not attracted to her on the outside and what is on the inside isn't helping matters at all. Only thing positive I could really say is she probably has a high IQ.
 
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I'm not attracted to her on the outside and what is on the inside isn't helping matters at all. Only thing positive I could really say is she probably has a high IQ.

But have you ever really asked yourself why?

For each item on your list (expectations)...conscious and/or unconscious?
 
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But have you ever really asked yourself why?

For each item on your list (expectations)...conscious and/or unconscious?

Ask myself why about what?
 
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You find her unattractive...on each level.

I think I have a pretty good grasp of what men and women find attractive in each other evolutionary. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.. but me not being attracted to her is pretty understandable.
 
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