What's on your mind?

[MehGuy]

Giving. Unless it's a new car and the jackpot lotto drawing tonight.

You chose wisely my son. You picked the manly man answer.

 

[Niels]

Weekend plans.

 

[mojoboy31]

Watching Terminator Salvation.. heard its horrible.. but garbage people watch garbage movies.

I really like that movie. Guess I'm a garbage people

If I can add a little to the discussion above about real life or online connection. I was a huge shut-in. Yuge.
And as a result, when I say I never had many friends, it's an understatement. Then I found some forums, and suddenly I had friends-- a small piece of the kind of human connection I'd seen in tv shows growing up.
It was powerful and addictive. It was all I'd really known, and thought it was the same thing as real life connection, just assumed it would feel the same.
Then I slowly came out of my shell, slowly started putting myself out there more. Started making more friends, started pursuing girls at work that piqued my interest, etc.
In real life, the connection is so much more potent than online. Don't get me wrong, I still have some friends online, most of them are from CF, cuz Ive sorta fallen out of touch with most all the others.
But in my experience, the online thing was only "enough" for me, when it was my only available option.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[Multifavs]

I'd like to form more friendships in real life but that just hasn't been possible for me. My CF friends are all I really have right now in terms of friendships.
I guess socializing in real life is hard for me since I'm so shy and sensitive (and can't get out much). It's a lot easier to express myself and stay away from the things that bother me too much online. Feels like it would be hard to find the right friend I could talk with in person in today's world.

But, I'm finally starting to face the facts and accept that I have at least one mental issue. I just can't live a normal life right now, be the way I used to be, or think and feel the way I used to, and I have to face that. Got to keep trying to hang in there and keep hoping that somehow one day, hopefully soon, things will get better.

 

[Rigatoni]

I'd like to form more friendships in real life but that just hasn't been possible for me. My CF friends are all I really have right now in terms of friendships.
I guess socializing in real life is hard for me since I'm so shy and sensitive (and can't get out much). It's a lot easier to express myself and stay away from the things that bother me too much online. Feels like it would be hard to find the right friend I could talk with in person in today's world.

But, I'm finally starting to face the facts and accept that I have at least one mental issue. I just can't live a normal life right now, be the way I used to be, or think and feel the way I used to, and I have to face that. Got to keep trying to hang in there and keep hoping that somehow one day, hopefully soon, things will get better.

I'm sure one day things will change Multis. God cares about you very much, as do your C.F. friends, and He does promise to give us a hope and a future. Sometimes the only thing we can do while waiting is to continue praying, hoping and waiting until things change. When a situation seems hopeless or when the wait is longer than expected, that could just be God's way of teaching us patience and dependence on Him.

 

[Rigatoni]

Also, getting ready for Fat Tuesday next week!

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[JustSomeBloke]

I'd like to form more friendships in real life but that just hasn't been possible for me. My CF friends are all I really have right now in terms of friendships.
I guess socializing in real life is hard for me since I'm so shy and sensitive (and can't get out much). It's a lot easier to express myself and stay away from the things that bother me too much online. Feels like it would be hard to find the right friend I could talk with in person in today's world.

But, I'm finally starting to face the facts and accept that I have at least one mental issue. I just can't live a normal life right now, be the way I used to be, or think and feel the way I used to, and I have to face that. Got to keep trying to hang in there and keep hoping that somehow one day, hopefully soon, things will get better.

 

[Multifavs]

I'm sure one day things will change Multis. God cares about you very much, as do your C.F. friends, and He does promise to give us a hope and a future. Sometimes the only thing we can do while waiting is to continue praying, hoping and waiting until things change. When a situation seems hopeless or when the wait is longer than expected, that could just be God's way of teaching us patience and dependence on Him.

Thanks so much for the encouragement. You're right, it isn't easy but I've got to be patient.

Also, getting ready for Fat Tuesday next week!

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That's right, Fat Tuesday and Lent are coming up!

 

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I can't but wonder how many times dissension and awkward sexual innuendos have caused people to not want to post here anymore.

 

[mojoboy31]

Feels like it would be hard to find the right friend I could talk with in person in today's world.

I know how you feel. Believe me. But think about that statement for a second. It both implies that:
A. Something is wrong with you
And B. Something is wrong with people.

Neither is true. You've made friends here, because you're a cool person. That doesn't stop being true just because you walked away from the keyboard or put your phone down.

CS Lewis said something like, "oh, you like that too? I thought I was the only one who liked that!... and that's where friendship begins..." and it's pretty true in my experience. Common interest forms bonds. Most my friendships at work began because I bought something they like from their cash register, or they were wearing a shirt or a pin with a character I like.

I don't know your situation, if you have a job or what kind, or if you're like I was and a total shut in, living with parents and no social outlet of any kind other than the internet. My current job is my first job (I've had it almost three years now) before that, I lived at home, and took care of ailing parents...
Trying not to judge, just saying, give yourself some credit, and don't stress. God will bring it about in His own way, at His own time-- like He's done for me.

As James Halloway from Ready Player One said, "The thing about reality is that reality is real... And it's also a place where you can get a decent meal."

I totally understand using the internet as a substitute for real life when it came to social stuff. However, it really doesn't beat the real thing and I'm finding that real life is becoming more appealing than the internet nowadays. Nothing but trolls, lack of privacy, and deception/propaganda.

I'm happy you're coming out of your shell and experiencing more of real life. Talking to people face to face provides more of that connection than on the internet. From personal experience, it gets easier the more you practice being more sociable. I wish all the best for you on your future endeavors.

it does get easier with more practice, that's very true! The worst part for me still is trying to set up a "hangout", like, how do I invite them? What should I say? Am I putting on too much pressure? Is it too soon to ask them to hangout again? If they say no, should I leave them alone or keep on talking?.... Just millions of doubts to hurdle over. But I'm getting there, one day at a time

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[sunshineforJesus]

I also have trouble fitting in with people and don't have too many close friends in real life.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[MehGuy]

Story of my life. It often feels like I'm playing Russian Roulette every time I talk to someone.

"Hello, Mojoboy!" *Click*
"Fine day, isn't it?" *Click*
"By the way, is that a new haircut?" *BANG*

Good to hear you're doing better. A good church full of genuinely caring people really did help me loads so I'd recommend getting more involved in church if you have not done so already. You're a great guy and I think you deserve a break in life.

Are people really like that with you? Or are you exaggerating?

For some reason I find it real easy for people to like me.. even though I have some autism symptoms like trouble with eye contact etc..

Although in the end I think I usually get most people to hate or at least dislike me.. lol..

 

[MehGuy]

Reading a female incel forum on reddit.. kind of fascinating.. sure they exist.. women can get matches on Tinder easily.. but men are often just as picky as women when it comes to who the can love and have meaningful relationships with.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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[MehGuy]

It's a slight exaggerating. With autism, anything you say can trigger a negative reaction out of people whether you meant offense or not. Break any social rules you have no knowledge of and people will hate you, mistreat you, take advantage of you, or demand you be punished. What may seem innocent, harmless, and honest to us may be offensive to the average person and visa versa.

Hmm.. I'm really curious to meet you in person.. because judging by your posts here.. it seems like you should have an easy enough time making friends.

 

[alsughasoughaiuyfygh]

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