What's on your mind?

[Elizabeth8393]

I'm okay now, it was only a minor one. I hit my head on a painting in my room at around 2:08 am yesterday morning, have a gnarly cut from it, but I'm fine. I made sure to drink plenty of water and take it easier at work.

 

[High Fidelity]

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

I really try not too, and try and be Christian like as much as possible, but I HATE AND I MEAN HATE MY EX....... I've been trying to contact him FOR a week, he was suppose to be coming up and seeing the boys, now my 6 year old is so upset he;s been wetting himself during the night, which he has never done before. He also suppose to be giving me money since he hasn't done in months and months...... I need to pray harder....

 

[MehGuy]

Cute.

Still if I saw that in public I'd be terrified and run away, lol.

 

[MiniEmu]

Sleep would probably be a fine idea, if it were not so entertaining to remain awake.

 

[MehGuy]

Yes,I need to get at least 8 hours of sleep tonight.

Less than 8 and I'll be tired all day, more than 8 and I'll also be tired all day. Lol.

First world problems? Or second world problems? There's gotta be a few of them floating around, lol.

 

[MiniEmu]

Floating world problems.

I was going to say you won't get 8 hours of sleep now, not if you wish to wake at a reasonable hour, but you're not in my time zone. Definitely floating world problems.

 

[MehGuy]

Where do you live? England?

Yeah, all I have to do is good to bed by at least 11.
I have Thursday off, and I'd like to spend my night fully awake and not sleepy, lol.

 

[Messy]

Sleep would probably be a fine idea, if it were not so entertaining to remain awake.

It's the alerts you get here. They keep me up.

 

[Ubuntu]

He also suppose to be giving me money since he hasn't done in months and months...... I need to pray harder....

Are you talking about child support here? He is supposed to pay you directly; is that how it works in Scotland?

 

[Messy]

I really try not too, and try and be Christian like as much as possible, but I HATE AND I MEAN HATE MY EX....... I've been trying to contact him FOR a week, he was suppose to be coming up and seeing the boys, now my 6 year old is so upset he;s been wetting himself during the night, which he has never done before. He also suppose to be giving me money since he hasn't done in months and months...... I need to pray harder....

Doesn't he want to see them or do you live too far away?

 

[Toro]

Even if he lives far away, you should never be too far away to NOT see them at all around the time scheduled..things come up thats understandable, but, if you cant make it say on Thursday, what stops Friday? Saturday? Sunday? etc...

Of course not having any its easy to say that, but, even if you cant make it as planed. Even the busiest of schedules have an opening some time around the planned time to see them. If not, IMO a man should rethink his priorities.

Id rather throw away an awesome career and see my kids grow up than to spend it chasing the almighty dollar and miss it (if I couldnt have both). Money and a child's youth both disappear far too quickly. IMO the less valuable of the two is the money.

 

[Ubuntu]

It's the alerts you get here. They keep me up.

I think we might be in the same time zone... In that case you should really head to bed now, lol! I would have done so myself long ago if it wasn't for those pesky alerts!

 

[High Fidelity]

Even if he lives far away, you should never be too far away to NOT see them at all around the time scheduled..things come up thats understandable, but, if you cant make it say on Thursday, what stops Friday? Saturday? Sunday? etc...

Of course not having any its easy to say that, but, even if you cant make it as planed. Even the busiest of schedules have an opening some time around the planned time to see them. If not, IMO a man should rethink his priorities.

Id rather throw away an awesome career and see my kids grow up than to spend it chasing the almighty dollar and miss it (if I couldnt have both). Money and a child's youth both disappear far too quickly. IMO the less valuable of the two is the money.

Word.

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

yes in Scotland he is suppose to pay my, even if you get the government to chase him, I would need to pay them to do it and he's self employed which means he could hide money and I would end up wasting money for nothing....

Ok he lives in England which is 45 mins on the plane, you can get a plane ticket if you do it in advance for £40 return...... also I allow him to have my house with the boys so he doesn't have to pay outlays like hotel room etc

What happened was he was suppose to come in april but said he had this big job coming up, so I said that was ok and I was coming down at the end of april anyway with the boys to see him (Which I paid for) he then said he was coming up for Sons birthday, again he said about work, he then told the boys he was coming up at the end of may as his friend was traveling up for work and he was getting a lift with him, then that fell through, he then told them 2 weeks which would be this week.... I have heard nothing from him, his phone is turned off....

The last chat we had was when he asked me if I was moving back and I told him no under no terms he then asked for the two younger boys and again I told him no he couldn't have them living there for god as he isn't responsible enough to look after kids full time..... he then texted me asking me what the boys needed and I have heard nothing since.... I've texted his brother as his mum and dad are on holiday.

This is exhausting to be truth, it seems that I am making the effort as it's very important for kids to have a father....

 

[Toro]

Sorry to hear that. I dated a woman recently that had kids and the dad didnt deserve the title. This guy drove down from Dallas, stayed at her neighbors house (they were friends). He spent 5 mins in total with his son, telling him they were gonna do this and that...... instead he spent all his time drinking with the neighbor instead. Its sad what some of these "donors" put their kids through.

After that weekend her son went to school and punched a kid on Monday because he was angry at his dad but didn't know how to handle it.

I hope he comes through or your kids realize its not their fault their dad is a....... well......

 

[Messy]

yes in Scotland he is suppose to pay my, even if you get the government to chase him, I would need to pay them to do it and he's self employed which means he could hide money and I would end up wasting money for nothing....

Ok he lives in England which is 45 mins on the plane, you can get a plane ticket if you do it in advance for £40 return...... also I allow him to have my house with the boys so he doesn't have to pay outlays like hotel room etc

What happened was he was suppose to come in april but said he had this big job coming up, so I said that was ok and I was coming down at the end of april anyway with the boys to see him (Which I paid for) he then said he was coming up for Sons birthday, again he said about work, he then told the boys he was coming up at the end of may as his friend was traveling up for work and he was getting a lift with him, then that fell through, he then told them 2 weeks which would be this week.... I have heard nothing from him, his phone is turned off....

The last chat we had was when he asked me if I was moving back and I told him no under no terms he then asked for the two younger boys and again I told him no he couldn't have them living there for god as he isn't responsible enough to look after kids full time..... he then texted me asking me what the boys needed and I have heard nothing since.... I've texted his brother as his mum and dad are on holiday.

This is exhausting to be truth, it seems that I am making the effort as it's very important for kids to have a father....

But why did you move to Scotland? Can't you just live nearby? Even if he is irresponsible can't he see them more often with his parents or something? My ex first got the kids but I could see them twice a week for a few hours with my parents. Better than nothing. He didn't get a cent from me when he took my kids to be honest.

 

[graciesings]

Wow. I'm so sorry to hear that your kids' dad is being so nasty and not treating his kids properly.

On the bright side, you sound like an amazing and dedicated mom and your kids are so lucky to have you on their side.

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

Its cool Toro. I just don't want to hate him lol but when my 6 year old is so unset.... it kind of makes me want to tear at something..

But why did you move to Schotland? Can't you just live nearby? Even if he is irresponsible can't he see them more often with his parents or something? My ex first got the kids but I could see them twice a week for a few hours with my parents. Better than nothing. He didn't get a cent from me when he took my kids to be honest.

Because I am from Scotland, I moved down there. I couldn't live near by, I did try too at first but lets see he stole my car keys and it cost me £280 to get new ones, coming round to my house and being all smug, letting me down regarding the boys saying he would take them and then drop it at the last min, he probably wouldn't have left me alone and ended back up in the house.

I moved back to Scotland to get my life back and that helps my children too. He can always move up here, but he doesn't...

 

[MiniEmu]

Where do you live? England?

Yeah, all I have to do is good to bed by at least 11.
I have Thursday off, and I'd like to spend my night fully awake and not sleepy, lol.

The magic of being honest with your profile! For now, yes .
A whole day off, and plans to party the night away like it's 1999? You lucky thing.

It's the alerts you get here. They keep me up.

They are addictive. So many people, posting so many things, there's so much to digest.

Spoiler

yes in Scotland he is suppose to pay my, even if you get the government to chase him, I would need to pay them to do it and he's self employed which means he could hide money and I would end up wasting money for nothing....

Ok he lives in England which is 45 mins on the plane, you can get a plane ticket if you do it in advance for £40 return...... also I allow him to have my house with the boys so he doesn't have to pay outlays like hotel room etc

What happened was he was suppose to come in april but said he had this big job coming up, so I said that was ok and I was coming down at the end of april anyway with the boys to see him (Which I paid for) he then said he was coming up for Sons birthday, again he said about work, he then told the boys he was coming up at the end of may as his friend was traveling up for work and he was getting a lift with him, then that fell through, he then told them 2 weeks which would be this week.... I have heard nothing from him, his phone is turned off....

The last chat we had was when he asked me if I was moving back and I told him no under no terms he then asked for the two younger boys and again I told him no he couldn't have them living there for god as he isn't responsible enough to look after kids full time..... he then texted me asking me what the boys needed and I have heard nothing since.... I've texted his brother as his mum and dad are on holiday.

This is exhausting to be truth, it seems that I am making the effort as it's very important for kids to have a father....

The system is slightly strange that way, good in theory but putting it into practice can be an awful lot of hassle. There are so many hoops and loopholes.

I do hope you and he manage to sort something out for the boys soon. It's devastating to see little hearts disappointed time and time again by someone who isn't there to pick up the pieces. I pray he sorts everything out before he misses out on their childhood.