What To Look for In A Christian Mate....Your Thoughts?

[Tess]

I think we pretty much all agree on what's good and bad but I'll join in anyway! Of course these are all just in my opinion:

Good things:
Honest
Relatively private
Intelligent
Sense of humour
Kindness to others
Speaking kindly of others
Compatible religious beliefs
Compatible life plan

Bad Things
Opposites of everything on above list!
Smoking / drugs / illegal activity
Arrogance
Controlling behaviors
Aggression/anger

 

[JackofSpades]

My granny use to say the way he treats his mother will be the way he treats you...

That's alarming. My relationship with my parents have been pretty bad. But hey, it's their fault not mine! Ahum

Well seriously, I think it in a way that we all have number of people in our lives with whom we just don't get along well, and for me those people just happened to be my parents (my dad's been dead for years now tho) and not someone else.

To avoid missunderstandings, I have to mention that it's nothing dramatic, they're not monsters or anything, I'm just incompatible with their world so distancing myself from them like ten years ago was the logical way.

 

[josh321]

Could you explain "relatively private" more and why that's a desired trait for you?

 

[High Fidelity]

Could you explain "relatively private" more and why that's a desired trait for you?

At least to me, I wouldn't want my partner broadcasting our personal affairs to the world.

I like my privacy and I don't like everyone knowing my business.

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

That's alarming. My relationship with my parents have been pretty bad. But hey, it's their fault not mine! Ahum

Well seriously, I think it in a way that we all have number of people in our lives with whom we just don't get along well, and for me those people just happened to be my parents (my dad's been dead for years now tho) and not someone else.

To avoid missunderstandings, I have to mention that it's nothing dramatic, they're not monsters or anything, I'm just incompatible with their world so distancing myself from them like ten years ago was the logical way.

See that is fine right their you say you just didn't get on with them which is understandable, some who is abusive to their mother, calls her names, doesn't hand in money, takes advantage off i think that's what my grandmother was talking about

 

[josh321]

I see what you're referring to....that makes sense

 

[Nanopants]

I look for a woman with a faithful personality. Someone who doesn't judge too sharply and who isn't shallow. I think it's ok to make some judgements but the reasons are most important. I definitely can't hang around a woman that is too holy to be around me.

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

. I definitely can't hang around a woman that is too holy to be around me.

Well obviously if she thought she was too holy to be around you, you won't be able to hang around with her in the first place as she doesn't want to be around you hahahaha

 

[josh321]

Amen...I appreciate your point about a woman with depth and grace.

 

[Nanopants]

Well obviously if she thought she was too holy to be around you, you won't be able to hang around with her in the first place as she doesn't want to be around you hahahaha

Yeah, well, she may think she wants to be around me, but most haven't made it past the no-deoderant test, unfortunately.

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

Yeah, well, she may think she wants to be around me, but most haven't made it past the no-deoderant test, unfortunately.

Tell me more ?

 

[Tess]

At least to me, I wouldn't want my partner broadcasting our personal affairs to the world.

I like my privacy and I don't like everyone knowing my business.

That's what I meant I'd want to feel like I can share things with him that others don't know, and that he shares things with me that others don't know.

 

[High Fidelity]

That's what I meant I'd want to feel like I can share things with him that others don't know, and that he shares things with me that others don't know.

 

[josh321]

Got it...yes, building trust and knowing your partner will hold things in confidence is paramount.

 

[Nanopants]

Tell me more ?

Hah, you probably don't really want to be asking that question.

I don't know what to say.

I've smelled things you people would not believe.

>_>

 

[TheGirlOnFire]

Hah, you probably don't really want to be asking that question.

I don't know what to say.

I've smelled things you people would not believe.

>_>

yeah i want to know lol

 

[josh321]

I'll take your word on that one!

 

[Bobthemotorcycle]

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[CCHIPSS]

Thanks Pirate. As for me:

Want:
Humble
Respectful
Cheerful
Faithful
Personal space
Healthy life style

Red flags:
Opposite of above
Controlling
Untrusting

 

[Bobthemotorcycle]

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