If I could offer a wonderful thing (you may see today or another day how much so), it's so much better not to make a habit of trying to find fault in others. It's so self-defeating to do that. Each time you accuse others of whatever wrongs as you've been doing, saying other people are 'cherry picking', 'copy and paste', etc., -- that's the thing that's costing you so much (even if it's not clear yet). To leave that behind would be like dumping a load of rocks you are carrying around all the time. You'd not only gain from making less false accusations (or worse even, saying others are doing something you turn out to be the one actually doing more), but there's an even stronger gain -- you just get out of a circular dead-end track that kind of searching for fault causes to begin with. It's a 'mental trap', and we should all hope to avoid it.
So, instead of trying to find a way to make a negative characterization, try instead to really understand what people are saying.
Also, if you spend less time attacking others or their posts, then they will possibly begin to read more of yours, instead of just ignoring what you write. Of course, it could help to begin by apologizing to them for past derogatory characterizations.