The question I asked was never answered/addressed by anyone. I will not be revisiting this thread. There is absolutely no point for anyone to post here anymore.
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So what is okay (physically) before marriage??? I know what I am totally against, but otherwise I want to know what is the best for a relationship and for marriage. My boyfriend and I have definitely decided that sex, being naked together, and living together are absolute "no no's" and we've decided that hugging, kissing, and cuddling are not an issue. Otherwise we are trying to draw the line between what is too intimate to keep our relationship (and our possible future marriage) healthy, and what is intimate and healthy. We both have agreed that the physical stuff is the least important in our relationship, and we are willing to leave that on the side until marriage if it's not a good idea. We are trying to decide this and he agreed for me post this and find some other opinions. So any opinions, statistics, and insights that you guys have would be very very helpful. Thanks so much.
So what is okay (physically) before marriage??? I know what I am totally against, but otherwise I want to know what is the best for a relationship and for marriage. My boyfriend and I have definitely decided that sex, being naked together, and living together are absolute "no no's" and we've decided that hugging, kissing, and cuddling are not an issue. Otherwise we are trying to draw the line between what is too intimate to keep our relationship (and our possible future marriage) healthy, and what is intimate and healthy. We both have agreed that the physical stuff is the least important in our relationship, and we are willing to leave that on the side until marriage if it's not a good idea. We are trying to decide this and he agreed for me post this and find some other opinions. So any opinions, statistics, and insights that you guys have would be very very helpful. Thanks so much.
Edit : I've read some stuff already, and a lot of it just says not to start the fire in the first place because it will end up in sex...I tend to disagree, because I know some people who decided that they were not going to have sex, but they did do other things, and they never did have sex before marriage. That seems more of a self control issue and if that person actually decided to stick to that decision or not (or how seriously they made that decision). What I'm really asking about here is does doing some things before marriage affect the relationship, and the marriage later on, or not?
I'm not sure I understand what you are saying. Both me and my boyfriend are virgins and we are both very committed to keeping ourselves virgins until marriage. I'm more curious if doing some things (not sex, as I said we have both decided against that. I'm talking about other things) will affect our relationship. Self control is not an issue for us. Especially for my boyfriend. He's been tested and tried and he's very strong about this.
So given the situation, if two people had enough self control not to have sex, would it be okay for their relationship and future marriage to do some things? That's my real question.
So given the situation, if two people had enough self control not to have sex, would it be okay for their relationship and future marriage to do some things? That's my real question.
Yeah. I'd really like an answer to this, and it's nice to know that there are other people out there that are in similar situations. We haven't felt "guilty", it's more that I'm curious/concerned if it will affect our relationship not later on or not. For now we have decided not to do anything until we decide what would be best for us.
Marriage is not out of the question at all, it's just that we both know that now is not the right time. We aren't going to rush into anything, even a decision about this physical stuff. We want to do what's best for us, even if it means laying aside the physical things. Our love and relationship are the most important.
James17 So for one who knows the right thing to do and does not do it, it is a sin.
Chapter 4
So when you consider these acts just ask yourself:
WHAT WOULD JESUS DO?
Because HE will be there with you.
LOVE
steven
Not if you do not have the Holy Spirit. Man presumes to know Jesus, but does he?
Only those with the Holy Spirit are the called and chosen.
There is *no guilt* in the Spirit of Jesus. Born again Christians are free.
They tremble in fear of the Lord and present for Him right sacrifices from a purified heart.
Not the words of mere men who think themselves God.
Christianforums was cut off when I wanted to reply to this, I see the OP has already answered this, but I will agree with her: they do not feel guilty.
Guilt means she is sinning. You two need to get married.
This is different for the OP.
Because one sins, this does not mean they should presume that everyone else is like them. Sin is a matter in the heart hidden from those who are not born again. Such people need to seek forgiveness for their wrong judgements and then they may have their prayers answered.
^Perhaps. We did talk about it, and he's positive that he wouldn't lose control...if anyone it would lose control it would be me, and he's said that he would definitely stop it. He said for him that the idea out of the proper situation would just shut him down. But, if we did happen to make that mistake it would not change how much we love each other. It would just be something to get over, make sure didn't happen again, and we'd move on. As I said, we are very carefully thinking about this, and not rushing into anything. I'm going to weigh everything I hear, and weigh each thing against it's opposing opinion. It's better safe then sorry though, and I am definitely keeping that in mind, and not plugging my ears to any opinion.
Thank you all by the way...the more opinions I hear the better I will be able to decide.