What happens when there is lying on the initial court papers?

[5kidsdad]

I just got some papers from her lawyer, and there is a lot of untruths on her initial papers to my lawyer and the court. It isn't like I can't prove these, so what is the result of these lies? I am just curious, but my legal team is telling me this is helpful. Anyone dealt with this, and what happened?

Thanks for any input, and God bless you all.

5kidsdad

 

[Carolyn H]

I just wanted to be divorced... He got the house and I got the kids...and I pray for his salvation. There was nothing to lie about, I just wanted him out of my life.

 

[DZoolander]

What are the lies about?

I'm not too familiar with the laws in other states - but in California because it's 'no fault' - the only thing you could really lie about would be finances.

 

[5kidsdad]

Money...I have given her a ton for the 5 kids, and she is claiming over $4000 less was received. I have receipts for it all, and bank statements as well. Also there are lies about who has the cars, what is owed, and what I do with the kids. Just wondering if anyone here has faced that.

Thanks, and God bless.

5kidsdad

 

[DZoolander]

Yeah, I would definitely bring that stuff up. Financial issues are HUGE inside of divorce cases - and lend a lot toward the credibility of each party (and how they are treated within the divorce).

 

[RobinRedbreast]

Ask your lawyer about it. If you don't have one, get one NOW. If she's going to lie, you need a lawyer right now.

 

[Autumnleaf]

If you can prove to the judge that she is a liar it might help you if the judge doesn't like liars.

There might even be a legal problem for her if she lies about things she puts on legal documents. The law oddly tends to take a harsh view about such things.

 

[5kidsdad]

She is wanting to settle now...no real money issues except for the house, which is about to go to foreclosure. The only thing left is the children, who will get full custody of the 5, or will we get split custody...who knows. She is wanting me to continue to pay what has been ordered by the courts, but there is no way for me to even survive on what is left. I would be lucky to have $100 to 150 left over per week, if I were lucky. I wouldn't be able to get my own place, and would still be staying with my family. The lying is definitely there on the court documents, witnessed by a notary. It is so easy to show that she was lying, I have the receipts, the statements, etc. I also have some evidence where she has not taken good care of the kids, not paid bills, and moved them around quite a bit from house to house. There are other lies as well, and they are easy to prove as well. Any ideas? I know that this is a hard question to answer, but I think from many viewpoints we are all able to sift through the junk, and get some good ideas, learning from others experiences.

Thank you, and God bless,

5kidsdad

 

[mont974x4]

Don't settle. Take the proof and show she is lying. It is very possible you will get a break.
Also, many judges won't allow you to give up so much money you can't afford to live yourself.


Also, see if you can have it in the papers that she can not sue you for more money later.

 

[5kidsdad]

Don't settle. Take the proof and show she is lying. It is very possible you will get a break.
Also, many judges won't allow you to give up so much money you can't afford to live yourself.


Also, see if you can have it in the papers that she can not sue you for more money later.

Thanks for the advice on the writeup in the final docs. My family and I were just discussing the fact that if, IF I were to get remarried, in some cases the ex will try to come against you since your new spouse has brought new income to benefit you. And thank you, I would like to be able to have my own place for my kids to stay with me, so they have some sense of normalcy. As it is now, I have support, insurance, and the house that I don't live in. Just really stinks...

Thanks for the advice, God bless,

5kd