For 12+ years my husband refuses any intimacy (completely sexless) with me. He won't go to marriage therapy, he doesn't sleep in the same bedroom, we talk less than a literal 10 minutes total a day and our 'talking' is more like de-briefing for each of us. I've done almost all parenting over the years, but he takes our children on expensive, extravagant trips where I am not invited. He routinely belittles me in front of the children and is highly critical of me. I'm just so incredibly lonely. I'm tempted now for all sorts of wrong activities I'd never otherwise think of, including divorce or an affair. Please advise and submit your opinion. Thank you.