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What de-conversion feels like

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KCDAD said:
Now imagine a sand shark.

I'm imagining it. It's definitely imaginary.

If I were to warn you about sand sharks in real life, would you take me seriously?

And, if not, wouldn't you want some serious evidence of their existence before believing in them? Something to satisfy the rational mind? Again, that's what it's like for us.
 
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Roark said:
For those who have never experienced de-conversion, it can be difficult to describe what it 'feels' like. I think many Christians assume the de-convert's feeling are like those of a lost person. This is not what I experienced. I think "liberation" is closer to describing the feeling (at least myself) had upon leaving the church.


(Robert G. Ingersoll)
When I became convinced that the universe is natural, that all the ghosts and gods are myths, there entered into my brain, into my soul, into every drop of my blood the sense, the feeling, the joy of freedom. The walls of my prison crumbled and fell. The dungeon was flooded with light and all the bolts and bars and manacles became dust. I was no longer a servant, a serf, or a slave. There was for me no master in all the wide world, not even in infinite space. I was free--free to think, to express my thoughts--free to live my own ideal, free to live for myself and those I loved, free to use all my faculties, all my senses, free to spread imagination's wings, free to investigate, to guess and dream and hope, free to judge and determine for myself . . . I was free! I stood erect and fearlessly, joyously faced all worlds.

the only freedom i have ever felt is in Christ, my liberator...maybe you dont know what if feels like to be tied up and then let go....
 
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I have no FEAR of anything NOW.
--Me, either, so your attempts to scare me into believing what you do won't work. I know the Gods intimately. I know, as firmly as you know the opposite, that there is NO hell. It is the creation of scared human beings and only exists in your mind. I have 100% faith that this is the truth, and that what you say is not the truth. You can repeat what you believe at the top of your lungs in every thread here, but all it will convince me of is that you believe it and that you shouldn't believe it. :)
 
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Eudaimonist said:
I'm imagining it. It's definitely imaginary.

If I were to warn you about sand sharks in real life, would you take me seriously?

And, if not, wouldn't you want some serious evidence of their existence before believing in them? Something to satisfy the rational mind? Again, that's what it's like for us.

There are sand sharks... they live in the water tho. I don't they are man eaters either. What about serpents or wolves or anyting else on land? The point is, don't get so bogged down in the literal of spirituality, there are "sharks" everywhere.
 
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Rae said:
--Me, either, so your attempts to scare me into believing what you do won't work. I know the Gods intimately. I know, as firmly as you know the opposite, that there is NO hell. It is the creation of scared human beings and only exists in your mind. I have 100% faith that this is the truth, and that what you say is not the truth. You can repeat what you believe at the top of your lungs in every thread here, but all it will convince me of is that you believe it and that you shouldn't believe it. :)
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KCDAD said:
There are sand sharks... they live in the water tho. I don't they are man eaters either. What about serpents or wolves or anyting else on land? The point is, don't get so bogged down in the literal of spirituality, there are "sharks" everywhere.

But that is the crux of the matter. We don't "see sharks everywhere". You claim they are there, but we don't see any evidence of them. That's why these discussions can be so difficult. We all don't start with the same premise. Some claim there are "sharks everywhere" and the only hope is to climb into the Jesus boat. But we keep walking around, and we don't see any sharks.

It's quite the pickle.
 
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KCDAD said:
The point is, don't get so bogged down in the literal of spirituality, there are "sharks" everywhere.

Agreed in that dangers to one emotional/psychological/spiritual health certainly exist. We may agree on this.

However, it is Christians who are being literal. They are telling me that I quite literally must accept a relationship with a being I'm not persuaded exists, to avoid (or gain) an afterlife I'm not persuaded exists.

If we drop the literalism, we can certainly agree that Christian spirituality is a real psychological phenomenon and that it may benefit some people in life. We will probably disagree about this being the only or best spirituality.
 
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many have gone to church and though all the dumb stuff.NEVER KNOWING FATHER GOD!That is what it is all about.Not some group of beings ,some may know the LORd ,but most not knowing HIm.
Because a christain is a person,who has had a NEW BIRTH.BORN A 2ND TIME.
FEW have this birth or even understand it.I have no faith in man kind.as we clearly see?He uses others and even destorys the earth .If left to it?He would destory everything and everyone!
He is hopeless!
But the new creature BORN OF GOD.Has a good purpose and gives love and kindness.Always trying to help others and blesses who HE can?
HE is made in the image of JESUS CHRIST.
THIS IS A CHRISTAIN!
1Jo 4:17 Herein is our love made perfect, that we may have boldness in the day of judgment: because as he is, so are we in this world.
Not the make believe kind!
 
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spirit1st said:
[The old creature] would destory everything and everyone!
He is hopeless!
But the new creature BORN OF GOD.Has a good purpose and gives love and kindness.Always trying to help others and blesses who HE can?
HE is made in the image of JESUS CHRIST.
THIS IS A CHRISTAIN!

I have known several people who were never born again, and yet were loving, kind, and helpful.
 
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Roark said:
For those who have never experienced de-conversion, it can be difficult to describe what it 'feels' like. I think many Christians assume the de-convert's feeling are like those of a lost person. This is not what I experienced. I think "liberation" is closer to describing the feeling (at least myself) had upon leaving the church.



(Robert G. Ingersoll)
When I became convinced that the universe is natural, that all the ghosts and gods are myths, there entered into my brain, into my soul, into every drop of my blood the sense, the feeling, the joy of freedom. The walls of my prison crumbled and fell. The dungeon was flooded with light and all the bolts and bars and manacles became dust. I was no longer a servant, a serf, or a slave. There was for me no master in all the wide world, not even in infinite space. I was free--free to think, to express my thoughts--free to live my own ideal, free to live for myself and those I loved, free to use all my faculties, all my senses, free to spread imagination's wings, free to investigate, to guess and dream and hope, free to judge and determine for myself . . . I was free! I stood erect and fearlessly, joyously faced all worlds.




When I first read this, I was in the process of deconverting. I didn't feel I could ever feel or think like this about it.
But 1 month on, I am begining to understand what he means. I still feel pretty dire most of the time, not because I feel lost, but because I have lost something very dear to my heart, however much I now do not believe it was real. But I can now see the possibility he is talking about, it's starting to make some sense...
 
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christianmarine said:
While I can understand the de-conversion process of some, I would like to provide some stories for you to read, especially if your considering to turn your back on the Lord and welcome the world with open arms.



http://www.christianforums.com/t2336940-how-did-you-get-savedwhat-did-god-say-to-youhow-did-he-deal-with-you.html


I ask that you please read some of the stories here, and see if belief in God is really that burdensome.


Jerry

:hug: :liturgy: :hug: :liturgy: :hug: :liturgy: :hug: :liturgy: :hug: :liturgy: :hug: :liturgy:

Actually, after reading some of them, it appears to be the opposite of burdensome. Many speak of burdens being lifted after converting. It actually seems quite empowering.
 
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I can sort of understand the view point of the Athiests here.
Being raised in a Christan enviroment where so many people fail to even try to live up to the ideals of Christianity, seeing even the failures of the church in the past, and horrible events like the Cruasades, and never being taught how attain unity with God.
After some very harsh years I did not realise were to prepare for my duty, and not being able to comprehend the order of the universe, seeing the so called luck around me, I to became disillusioned. It was a relieve to be free from the misdirection created by those who use the Church for their own ends (*cough* Bush *cough*) without having any respect for God, relgion or the people of this earth.
But when I went on to full Atheism, I felt I was floating around in an empty void.
The idea of living freely was certainly appealing, but I could feel certain vibes that could not be seen. I felt a certain part of me "despirited". And I felt a voice calling me back. And I recall all the times I felt the Lord's precense. I recalled the strange feeling I got when I prayed to the Holy Spirit for guidance, and recieved it. Or peace, or almost anything. Even if I did not recieve what I asked for, I still felt a pulse and my prayer wasn't ignored.
I realised how silly I had been.
I came back to the Lord, and atoned for my lack of faith. I slowly followed his will more and more. I actually felt more free. Free from false Christans. Free from the voices of society that try to confuse us. Free from having to pretend that those forces I could feel on a daily basis did not exist. Free from the silly belief that we could know everything, and figure all out with out limited minds.
Their is stuff out their you cannot see, but you can feel. Tell you never feel a presence from anyone? Tell you do not feel a strange air when you enter a church. Tell the Lord has never responded to ANY of your prayers.
Of course I was still responsiable, in fact I felt more so, since life wasn't about looking after umero numero, And the Lord's council and guidance let me understand myself, and the Lord's way, freed me from evil influnces (tell you do not feel a strong negative presence when dealing with or doing evil?).
And I was able to use my intution, and not crush it under a blanket. I did not have to claim the stuff I could see and not understand did not exist. ANd it felt wonderful.
If you are so sure God does not exist, open your mind and pray. Bring all you thoughts and feelings before, including you doubts and worrys, including thoughts you feel are wrong or shameful. Then wait. If you really do not feel a special presence, then maybe you have your "proof" that God doesn't exist.
Grizzly: Looking at your sig makes me nod sadly in truth. Yeah, too many people have used God or a god to justify their hatreds and stuff. The god their following is probably created in their own image. But the God I'm following will always lead me to seek peace, wever possible, even if it goes agisant my desires. I remember when i had hunted down and struck a kid who had cheered on a gang when they attacked me and a group of friends. I got a sick pleasure off that. But words spoken to me by a wise woman I know compelled me to seek the holy spirit and pray. I did so. And I immediatly felt a strong peaceful energy surge through me when I was done, I saught out the kid, and apolagised, with words from my heart, and words that were shown to me by the Holy Spirit. And this act changed us both. He quit his gang and went on to live a better life. And I became more peaceful and obediant to the Lord.
One day, after I had finished praying at my local church, I went down to the shops, and was attacked by said gang. Although I had negative feelings of the leader, and once had a strong desire for revenge, I could feel God's presence telling me not to attack. I had no idea what was going on, or why I was to do this, but I obeyed.
He attacked me after I tryed to use diplomacy to resolve the situation, and still being obediant, i refused to strike him. I did however grab him (without hurting him) and held him. I asked him to call this off, and even when he was screaming death threats at me, I still kept a peaceful temperment. His gang watched in bewilderment. Eventually reinforcements came for him, and when he struck me across the face, I ran to a shop.
I still did not understand what was going on. The shop owner called the police, and having better things to do, like giving tickets to people harlot were giving 2 miles over the speed limit, took enough time to come so that they could easily get away. I almost lost my glasses (and I have very bad sight), and not having perfect faith, did I was a little resentful to God over the outcome. I study Tae kwon doe, and I was a brown belt (1 off black), so if I had attacked directly, I would have overcome all 4 of the people who were their.
But anyway, the nexttime I went down their, word of what happened spread, and the leader's reputation had taken a strong hit. This time their were about 10 of them. After some trash talk, to whihc I simply did not respond, they waited for the leader to attack me. Feeling agian that same presence from the Lord, I walked right right the circle, which included walking right by the leader. internally i was scared if these 10 people would attack me, but some part of me trusted the Lord, so I did it anyway, and appeared to be quite confident. On the way back the same thing happened, only after I walked through, i heard them muttering about the leader.
He lost all his respect, the gang crumbled, with many of the members going to better things, the neigbourhood kids who were oppresed by them, were no more, and the leader wasn't seen around agian.
Had I attacked that day, they would have left me alone, but continued their evil.
I wonder how I knew what to do? :)
 
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THE HOLY GHOST put the thought in your mind!That is what ,HE DOES!
I have had many miracles of the LORD!
The HOLY GHOST puts many thoughts in our minds!He is the teacher,HE knows everything!And will tell us EVERYTHING!Nothing ,HE cannot teach us!in earth or of heaven!
But we lose?If we are not BORN OF GOD!
satan knows this,and keeps many from accepting the LORD JESUS CHRIST!
he is the great deciever!
 
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