Thank you for this, WagonWheel.
Let me pick apart your post and provide my answers:
I certainly agree with you with regards to the 3 reasons for a marriage to end. "Reasons" being very loosely used, because death is the only one that doesn't give either spouse the option to try to save the marriage. We are never above giving our all to the restoration of marriage.
There are less important parts that I have left out for brevity, but none of which are in the league of things I have mentioned. There has never been any physical abuse, never any abandonment, and certainly from my side, never any adultery. The chance of her actually having committed adultery is a grey area, but as stated in a previous post, it would make no difference to me if she had. Sure, it would give me the biblical justification to leave the marriage, but that is a path I would never take.
By the deceiver I assume you mean satan? I completely agree with that. I have told her that I want to use our marriage for the glory of God and to serve as a testimony to not only bring others to Christ, but also to save marriages that are meant and able to be saved. I must be honest, me saying this about a month ago seemed to soften her heart a little, and she made mention of the fact that others might see her as "crying wolf" if she returns to the marriage. I don't think anyone understands what kind of glimmer of hope that gave me.
We have discussed the option of me confessing everything to her right from the start. Initially, and under duress, I offered one in writing as per her request, but there were details that I unintentionally left out and that caused a lot of issues between us. She has made mention again of us getting together in person to do this, with counsel present, and I really hope that it can happen soon.
I certainly am. Each new day is an opportunity to draw closer to God, and I am using the time I have in the best way possible.