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What Constitutes Adultery in the Biblical Sense?

Discussion in 'Married Couples' started by AVowToCherish, Jul 1, 2019.

  1. Strictly sexual intercourse only

  2. Any form of physical touch that you'd only otherwise do with your spouse

  3. Flirtation in person

  4. Sexting/exchanging images of a sexual nature

  5. Online flirtation

  6. All of the above

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  1. AVowToCherish

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  3. Dave-W

    Dave-W Welcoming grandchild #7, Arturus Waggoner! Supporter

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    Did either of you abandon the relationship? According to 1 Cor 7 that is also grounds.

    12 But to the rest I say, not the Lord, that if any brother has a wife who is an unbeliever, and she consents to live with him, he must not divorce her. 13 And a woman who has an unbelieving husband, and he consents to live with her, she must not send her husband away. 14 For the unbelieving husband is sanctified through his wife, and the unbelieving wife is sanctified through her believing husband; for otherwise your children are unclean, but now they are holy. 15 Yet if the unbelieving one leaves, let him leave; the brother or the sister is not under bondage in such cases, but God has called us to peace.
     
  4. AVowToCherish

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  5. Dave-W

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    Then neither of you have grounds for divorce.
     
  6. AVowToCherish

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  7. wagonwheel69

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    I feel this is a very important issue and needs to be very clear, adultery is having sexual relations with another outside of your marriage. It is NOT online flirting, sexting, even intimate caressing. All of which are devastating but it needs to be clear that adultery is different than these things. The reason most people discus this is because of marital difficulties and they're looking for that magic out after swearing a covenant for life. In both the Hebrew and Greek, adultery is specific to adultery, there are many other words used for general sexual immorality. A good example is Mat 15, Jesus says: For out of the heart come evil thoughts—murder, adultery, sexual immorality, theft, false testimony, slander. The bible here as in other places differentiates adultery from other sexual immorality.

    Sexting, sending nude picture and so on: sexual immorality. Sex outside of your marriage: adultery. Both wrong but needs to be differentiated. There is no biblical rational for divorce over sexting as much as we may or may not like. You could certainly argue sexting another person is infidelity, even cheating but it's not adultery, as much as we may feel like it is, it does need to be clear.
     
  8. wagonwheel69

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    I will add that my personal belief is that marriage is a lifelong covenant with only 3 ways out of it, Death, for one spouse should the other commit adultery or for one spouse should the other decide to leave(1 Cor 7:15 But if the unbeliever leaves, let it be so. The brother or the sister is not bound in such circumstances; God has called us to live in peace.) If everything you state is the truth, your wife will be in sin whereas I believe if she's ending it and she's committed adultery you are biblically clear if that's your goal. But it needs to be said even in this that divorce is a battle victory for the deceiver and reconciliation could bring glory to God, so search your heart! If it were me - just me, I would very intentionally and humbly confess to her that what you did, while not adultery was indeed betrayal and sin and ask for forgiveness, this will be even more important in years to come if you do divorce. Going forward all you can do is focus on what you need to do in order to be the man you need to be, put it in God's hands and find peace. Use this time to better your walk, grow in the Lord and trust!
     
  9. AVowToCherish

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    I cannot answer for God. I have only given you what scripture already says. Now it's up to you and God personally.
     
  12. Dave-W

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    Since Malachi says that God hates divorce, I don't see it as EVER being God's will. He wants everyone to repent and act right.

    But when we have hard hearts and become intransigent, He allows it to protect the innocent.
     
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    Biblically sexual immorality and abandonment Matthew 19:9.
     
  15. Mountainmanbob

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    Hanging out with a lady doing a little hankie spankie.

    Or doing what Clinton did.

    Wife's don't count.

    M-Bob

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  16. DZoolander

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    Good lord - what the heck is going on inside of your house?

    I mean, here you are asking for the biblical definition of adultery...apparently with you and your wife going back and forth about it as if it really matters to either of you.

    Why do I say "as if it really matters to you"? Because if it really did, I doubt we'd have a scenario where she's finding naked pics of your coworkers in your text and/or emails. I doubt we'd be hearing about how you were toying with the idea of 3-somes and bringing others into your bed. I doubt we'd be hearing about how she was banging around with other dudes in your house with your child (how old?) there.

    From my point of view - none of that stuff would be going on if either of you REALLY cared about adultery.

    I'm nearly 50 - and I'm no prude. I don't avoid women. I don't send them away. And ya know - I've never once in my life got a random nude from someone I know. I've never opened my email and found that Barbara over in accounting sent me a topless pic of herself. It's generally my experience that people just don't do that stuff unless you're welcoming it. So you've apparently got some stuff going on.

    Then the fact that you're talking to your wife about adding more people into the mix. What's up with that?

    Then your wife and what she's done.

    All put together - it strikes me as kind of funny that now you're all fretting about "Who's crossed the line? What constitutes adultery from a biblical perspective so we can bludgeon the other over the head with it?"

    Sounds like you both need to move away from that topic and start working on creating some healthy boundaries with other people if you're wanting to stay "married"
     
  17. DZoolander

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    What about banging aging porn stars within days of the birth of your fourth child from your third wife? lol
     
  18. Mountainmanbob

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    What are your thoughts on that?
    Have you never been guilty?

    Seems like Trump is definitely not the 1st president to do a little hanky spanky.

    Believers understand.
    We voted for a president.
    We did not vote for a pastor.
    M-Bob
     
  19. DZoolander

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    Guilty of what? lol That? No, I can honestly say that I didn't shag any aging porn stars sans condom right after the birth of my child. Nor any other time :)

    I just find the irony funny.

    I remember making the argument about Clinton and how I wasn't voting for someone to be the moral compass of the country back in the 90's when the whole Lewinsky thing was going on. Pretty much the exact argument you're making there.

    And I remember being told how wrong I was... How "character and integrity - especially in the marital sphere because it reflects on so many other areas" was of ultimate concern.

    Kinda makes one think that most political issues are little more than "what benefits my side at the moment" - and ought be discounted as such :)
     
  20. DZoolander

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    Maybe if Trump admitted to the multiple abortions he's likely funded over the years - it might get some movement on that issue as well. lol
     
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