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Weird ex-boyfriend
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so do you still love him? Maybe you need to distance yourself for his sake. It seems he needs to heal much more than you at this point. I think from what you have posted here , that it's really akward for both of you. I don't think it's fair to you, for him to be like this. But I also don't think it's fair to him for you to be calling him and hanging out with him. Just sayin
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He doesn't seem to care too much. Maybe I came off as emotionally detached in my posts, but I am the one who is hurting here. Yes, I love him. I probably should stop trying to keep up a friendship with him, because he does not call or IM me or ever ask me to so much as get dinner in the dining court, so I don't want him to feel like he's wearing a ball and chain cuffed to his leg. I know he needs more space than I give him. It just bothers me to ignore him.
I've had probably eight months of being largely ignored now. I'm a pro at dealing with the hurt. It rolls off me like water off a duck's back. If I'm trying to have a conversation and he's acting cold, I just go on like nothing's wrong. It's like an icy dagger, but I keep up the cheerful banter without skipping a step. If he's in a better mood and being friendly, I am largely content with his friendship. I actually enjoy hanging out with him in groups more than one-on-one. Even though he talks more to others than to me, I can have the enjoyment of his company without the pain of the cold shoulder. I know the boundaries and I never ask to come over to his room anymore nor do anything with him. Somehow I just keep patiently plowing along. But I know I should give him more space. No one likes to be smothered. If he is cool and distant, I should follow that example.
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I had my heart crushed once.
I only have two pieces of advice, based on my experience. You can't rationalize your way out of the pain. Secondly, all you can do is be patient: I don't know how, but time really does heal these wounds.
You seem like a very well balanced, smart young woman; though you will, you don't need to worry about anything.
I only have two pieces of advice, based on my experience. You can't rationalize your way out of the pain. Secondly, all you can do is be patient: I don't know how, but time really does heal these wounds.
You seem like a very well balanced, smart young woman; though you will, you don't need to worry about anything.
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Well that's hard. Last year we had a bunch of classes together. We are in different engineering disciplines this year but we still have a math class together. We attend the same church (and ride the van there, even though he has his truck on campus now). We devotedly attend as many events as possible that our campus ministry schedules. Watching 24 on Monday night, watching House on Tuesday night, worship on Wednesday night, board games or movies on Thursday night, supper on Sunday night, and special events planned almost every week or every other. The group does not have the resources to plan many gender specific events except Bible study each Tuesday, mens' and womens' prayer breakfast each Saturday morning, and the odd girls' or guys' night, so they are usually held together. And plus, he lives nearby and I accidentally run into him all the time while eating or walking around.
Sometimes I think our college ministry is like a big dating pool. It seems everyone there has dated or wanted to date at least one other person in our group, and many students more than one. We seem to have at least one engaged couple each year. Fortunately, all the exs are somehow friends. Does anyone else know a situation like this? I know other people have complained about their singles' ministry being a dating pool.
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