Tamara224
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Well, in my opinion, the ones that are still virgins are ones that nobody has "allowed" them to lose their virginity with them yet.
Present the "right" guy or girl to them, and they would lose their virginity in a second.
Just my opinion, based on the people I see.
Kathy
1. My response to this is what I said before: People see the world the way they are. It's a self-justification technique to assume that everyone around you is motivated by the same desires as you. This makes a person feel justified in his/her actions. But it rarely has anything to do with reality.
2. Many people view the world in a way that you have never imagined. We all see the world through different colored lenses, we make judgment calls based on that and our ideology shapes our opinions. Keep in mind that not everyone in the world shares the same viewpoint as yourself.
3. If your opinion were truly shaped by the people you see, you would allow the testimony of the people in this forum to help shape it, rather than assuming that what they say is untrue. In truth, it would seem that your opinion of others, the credence you give to their statements, is in fact shaped by your pre-judgment which is most likely based on yourself, rather than others that you see.
I know you've received some criticism from this opinion [and rightfully so] but what has been left unsaid is that this is true in some - or most - cases. I know virgin that if they were surrounded by the wrong type of people they would fall into temptation because sadly I've seen it happen before [I'm still a virgin myself and I wonder how strong I am if King David couldn't resist sexual temptation]. But like others were saying, there are instances where a couple resists the urges. My best friend/mentor and his new wife struggled but waited until their wedding night and they are very much in love. [I know you quoted "right" so I know that you weren't necessarily meaning soulmate. I just thought I would sum it up with a nice ending.
I agree, it is true for many people. Sexual temptation is one of the hardest to resist. Which is why, we should take the example of Joseph and run from it.
That's why Paul said:
Flee from sexual immorality. All other sins a man commits are outside his body, but he who sins sexually sins against his own body. (1 Cor 6:18).
He didn't say stand and resist it. He said flee from it.IMO, it is likely that the people who would give in at the first opportunity are those who have allowed the temptation to take hold in their hearts already and are probably merely trying to follow rules.
If you want to be strong in this area, you must 1) have good reasons other than "because God said so" why you choose to abstain, 2) "take captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ" and 3) pray to God for his help and protection: He will not allow you to be tempted past what you can endure. But if your heart has already given in, you will fall at the slightest temptation. Yearning after it in your heart, envying those who have it...those mean you have already succumbed to temptation.
Don't get me wrong, I am not judging anyone who has had stray thoughts, or who reacts to natural desires. But, if you constantly allow your heart and mind to dwell on it, you've already given in. [I mean 'you' generally and am not talking to any one specific person.]
Like the song says: The mind is a battlefield. Put on the armor of God, then, and fight the good fight.
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