Virgin marriage.

[johnbastion]

guess your age depends on it perhaps... I'm 30, never dated and obviously a virgin. I am finding it hard to find someone A) who is like me in that sense and B) who doesn't find me as a sad, strange person for being a virgin at 30 (these are from women in the church). I have read the longer you go, the worse it will be when you start (if you ever do) so if you don't marry by a certain age, the lost cause phase comes into effect. I would imagine it's more ideal for both partners to be virgins upon marriage or at least if they are the only committed relationship in their life. I mean, there'd be no comparison to worry about, no shame or bad feelings for not saving yourself if your partner did. I've seen shame come from that and sorrow from the virgin who found out their partner wasn't.

In the eyes of God , you have honored Him. Christian Life is not a man-pleasing religion. It is a relationship. The fact that you were faithful to God is what counts. Other people's opinions are fit for the trash. If God blesses you in the near future with a partner - you can be confident that you are entering marriage as per His design.
Don't be a compromiser whatever the cost. Your sharpening yourself by honoring God's word is what He will use to strengthen your marriage.