Valuing Ourselves

[freezerman2000]

Awww...thanks. That's very sweet of you to say. I'm glad I was able to help. I agree that it doesn't take much to help out at times....many times just simply smiling and acknowledging someone we meet lifts their spirits.

 

[freezerman2000]

Got my first pay check today..spent it all,but to be able to actually contribute to the home made me feel SO much better about myself..talk about feeling validated!!!!

 

[Colleen1]

Got my first pay check today..spent it all,but to be able to actually contribute to the home made me feel SO much better about myself..talk about feeling validated!!!!

That's wonderful. Yes, it does feel great to feel productive and capable. I'm happy for you all. Must be a real answer to prayer.

 

[strawberryhill]

Congratulations, Freezerman. Yes, I feel happy when I help someone too. I was reading through some Near Death Experiences, and the questions that the "light being" asked the deceased were: "Have you helped someone in life?", or "what have you learned?"

One millionaire businessman was so changed after his Near-death-experience that he changed career: instead of continuing to be Forbes' best CEO, he quit business to become a counselor. All the NDE's people said that success in life mean nothing after death, it's how we treat others that count.

 

[Colleen1]

Yes, to me it is how will this 'even out' eternally. It makes it easier to understand God a bit when hard things happen. Like the story of Joseph or the salvation plan. What horrid stuff happened but ....I do believe God means it for good even though some humans can mean it for evil. I'm so happy to have those stories and passages in the Bible. It's made a difference in my life and understanding my value...I guess what I'm trying to say is that I can see how my soul means more than anything that can happen to this earthly body of mine. Still struggles are by no means easy.

 

[Colleen1]

Matthew West - The Motions - YouTube

 

[caeli89]

Thank you Colleen for posting this. It was exactly what I needed to hear tonight.

 

[Colleen1]

Thank you Colleen for posting this. It was exactly what I needed to hear tonight.

You're very welcome. I'm glad it was helpful. Thanks for sharing...feels less isolating. I guess one step at a time.

 

[Colleen1]

Bishop Paul S. Morton-Glory - YouTube
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[Colleen1]

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SXJz8-6dNKg

 

[Colleen1]

Healing Rain by Michael W. Smith - YouTube
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[dovespirit]

i have so much struggle to respect myself n my body ; im getting divorced and trying to seek love n acceptence from men ;i met one guy we slept together i fell for him right i felt like i was on air but he makes promises n never keeps them ;im very depressed i treat him so good ;i just got out of a verbually abusive marriage and when i was i 12 my dad beat n raped me tried to share me ; so i struggle wth this i wonder how long im dissappointing god ; my fav song is i wanna know what love is ; i suffer from depression ptsd bi polar please pray for me i feel worthless and my self esteem is 0 ;

 

[Colleen1]

i have so much struggle to respect myself n my body ; im getting divorced and trying to seek love n acceptence from men ;i met one guy we slept together i fell for him right i felt like i was on air but he makes promises n never keeps them ;im very depressed i treat him so good ;i just got out of a verbually abusive marriage and when i was i 12 my dad beat n raped me tried to share me ; so i struggle wth this i wonder how long im dissappointing god ; my fav song is i wanna know what love is ; i suffer from depression ptsd bi polar please pray for me i feel worthless and my self esteem is 0 ;

Yes, this can be such a huge issue for those of us who have experienced abuse. Even though we can 'know' that we ought to value ourselves as God would like us too etc, it is hard to really have it become a reality in our lives. It can be difficult for us to feel we are valuable even though we think we should. Learning how to set boundaries and limits in my life have helped me greatly. It has been a learning experience. Learning what I should say no to. ...no to others and to myself. I can do things that devalue myself but I've also needed to learn what is important to me and what respect really means in order for me to let other people know how I'd like to be treated. For me it wasn't just a matter of saying things to others but to saying 'no more' / 'no I can't do that' / 'no not right now' / 'I'm not ready' / 'I can only do this...this...and this...' This is something I've had to put into practice bit by bit. Along with putting this into practice, I've also had to do things for myself that helped me care for me. Bit by bit I got more confident and more able to know what bothers me and what is and isn't respectful etc. It helps if you have someone safe to talk to like a counselor etc. Someone safe we know will not hurt us.

There is hope for us to get to a better place.

 

[Johnnz]

i have so much struggle to respect myself n my body ; im getting divorced and trying to seek love n acceptence from men ;i met one guy we slept together i fell for him right i felt like i was on air but he makes promises n never keeps them ;im very depressed i treat him so good ;i just got out of a verbually abusive marriage and when i was i 12 my dad beat n raped me tried to share me ; so i struggle wth this i wonder how long im dissappointing god ; my fav song is i wanna know what love is ; i suffer from depression ptsd bi polar please pray for me i feel worthless and my self esteem is 0 ;

Your family background set you up badly. Who can you trust now? Deep seated feelings of unworthiness (I have been trashed), confusion about sex - desires you consider immoral along with desperately wanting to know you are acceptable to a guy. Inner pain, confusion, intense inner loneliness, inability to carry through on self promises. And sometimes wondering if God sees you as worth persisting with?

John
NZ

 

[Colleen1]

When we are abused those issues can come up but step by step we can make some positive changes.

 

[Colleen1]

Praying for you all!

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[dovespirit]

wanted to let you know how encouraging you are to me ; and it means alot to me you didnt judge me thank you GOD BLESS YOU FRIEND LOVE YOU IN CHRIST

 

[Colleen1]

wanted to let you know how encouraging you are to me ; and it means alot to me you didnt judge me thank you GOD BLESS YOU FRIEND LOVE YOU IN CHRIST

Good to know. You're very welcome. Glad you feel safe here. We all have our struggles and I think it's so much wiser to say we are struggling, with safe people, and get help than than it is to pretend everything is okay. God knows...