Valentine's Day

[jenptcfan]

how can any random day be non-wonderful when God created it and has filled it with blessings for you?

now, I can understand if something horrible happens to you on a given day, you would consider it a bad day. But being single in itself is NOT a horrible thing and shouldn't ruin ANY day for you. Rejoice in the Lord *always*.

Nah, I in no way think being SINGLE is horrible. I just don't like all the fuss that's made about Valentine's day. I think it's a big scam. Even on the Valentine's days when I've had a special someone, I haven't thought it was a extra special day like it's made out to be!

 

[Silver Saint]

No offence, and I mean that, but Valentine's Day is for romance. I cannot console myself with the actions you suggest, as it only seems to be avoiding the issue: I am lonely.
Personally, it is very depressing day for me. I'm relatively young, and very romantic, but I have never been in a serious relationship. I allow these feelings of melancholy, for they only portend a greater satisfaction when I finally do meet my Lady.
I am truly sorry if this brings anyone down to read, but God did create the 'down' as well. You should be unafraid to feel like this, because if you cannot be honest to yourself while you're single, how will you know to be true when you become truly interested? Mountains are always taller than valleys.
Go with God.




I am aware,
Isacc

 

[xtxArchxAngelxtx]

i agree with isacc. V day does more harm and hurts more people than what it helps or makes people feel better....

Course the people it hurts tend to be those who a bit weaker minded and tend to think they that they need to be with someone, however there is much more to it than that.

I am single.... however a friend (who I met on here back in august) is coming to visit me and it will be our first times meeting each other. Her and I plan to watch a movie here at my house and go out to eat somewhere... very simple, maybe introduce her to my discipler and his wife. Should be very interesting.
V day is like any other day, it is what you make it out to be.

 

[klewlis]

No offence, and I mean that, but Valentine's Day is for romance. I cannot console myself with the actions you suggest, as it only seems to be avoiding the issue: I am lonely.
Personally, it is very depressing day for me. I'm relatively young, and very romantic, but I have never been in a serious relationship. I allow these feelings of melancholy, for they only portend a greater satisfaction when I finally do meet my Lady.
I am truly sorry if this brings anyone down to read, but God did create the 'down' as well. You should be unafraid to feel like this, because if you cannot be honest to yourself while you're single, how will you know to be true when you become truly interested? Mountains are always taller than valleys.
Go with God.
I am aware,
Isacc

I'm not saying that anyone should deny or avoid how they feel. I'm simply saying that we shouldn't dwell on it and get depressed about it. I have lonely days too. But I sure don't want to waste my life moping around because I don't have a husband, when God has so much more planned for me right now. What if it is God's will for me to be single for the rest of my life? If that's the case, then I don't want to spend the next 20 years moping about it... I want to live the life that he has given me, enjoy it, and be thankful.

 

[Living4Him03]

I liked Valentine's when I was single i guess because I didn't have to go through the day knowing my boyfriend wouldn't be getting me anything or acknowledge the day exists...cuz I didn't have a boyfriend! I could eat chocolate and all and just daydream about someone special. Well, this year I already sent my boyfriend a valentine's card since it looks like we won't be spending that day together. He got it the other day and said it was nice. that was it. lol. I think he really wished I wouldn't have sent it because it probably made him feel bad or he just doesn't like gifts like that so much. I am also supposed to do a day of pampering for him, that's also his "valentine" gift. I will probably just study that day and watch tv, maybe go have coffee or go somewhere where I won't have to see lots of boyfriends surprising their girlfriends. Seeing all that tends to make me be critical of Jon when I really shouldn't be as much. He just doesn't think of little things like that...he views the world differently. Anyway, hope everyone has a Happy Valentine's Day!!

 

[Lil_Miss_Fire]

I myself am not really a big fan of valentines day. I think it is a day thatdiscourages those who are alone in the world. Those who feel unloved and such. Besides why just pick one overly commercialized day outta the yer to show someone you care. I have an amazing boyfriend, and i show him how much i care spordically i dont need a certain day to send him a card or what not. But i know he loves Vday, so i try to not be a grinch about it LoL.

 

[Kirisutokyoo-shinja]

I don't think I'm doing anything for it. Will be a normal day me thinks.
http://www.ethnic2020.com/valentine.htm

Interesting things there, most of which I did not know, or forgot rather.

 

[vibrant]

i'll definitely make it a point to read some love poems by al purdy ...

if it came about you died,
it might be said that i loved you:
love is an absolute as death is
and neither bears false witness to the other--
but you remain alive.

no i do not love you
(hate the word)
that private tyranny inside a public sound
your freedom's yours and not my own:
but hold my separate madness like a sword
and plunge it in your body all night long

if death shall strip our bones of all but bones,
then here's the flesh and flesh that's drunken-sweet
as wine cups in deceptive lunar light:
reach up your hand and turn the moonlight off
and maybe it was never there after all,
so never promise me anything to me:
just reach across the darkness with your hand,
(reach across the distance of tonight,)
and touch the moving moment once again
(before you fall asleep--)

- modified "necropsy of love" from purdy selected (mcclelland and steward lmt, 91). necropsy meaning graveyard. (can't indent.)

lol. okay, okay, not typical love poetry, but it is love poetry nonetheless. i guess i could say something about not idealizing romantic relationships, and that the details we over look can be somewhat unpretty, but hey... i think we all know that to some degree.

but cheer up folks. we do have the greatest love of all available to us, constantly, feb 14th or not.

 

[stormgade4]

This Valentine's might be a little opposite for me as it would be for anyone else. Last year, I took my then girlfriend to a nice restaurant in another town. I bought her some flowers and related how much I appreciated her. As the night wore on, she got ticked off for some reason and the rest of the night sucked. Sure, I wish I had a date this year, but at the same time, I remember last year. Maybe a VDay alone isn't so bad after all.

 

[OceanAngel]

Me?

I'm gonna wake up and feel sorry for myself another V.day where I'm single only been 29 so far, prolly cry abit, drink some coffee and walk the dog,come home to an empty apartment,prolly phone one of 2 my best friends, who just been seperated from his insane wife for a year and get annoyed at his selfpity as he'll ignore mine, then notice the slight irony in this, go to a bar and drink a long neck bud and get a little loud(quoting songs is kinda a bad habit of mine),
come home still feeling sorry for myself cry some more eat chocolate, and sleep, during that fun filled day I'll log on to here and whine.

 

[OceanAngel]

I usually treat myself to a pint of my favorite Ben and Jerry's ice cream-Phish Food!

Thats a good plan, my favorite one too.

 

[OceanAngel]

My plans could change, if my other best friends' Girlfiend(i spelt that right) gives birth.

I whine too much, sorry

 

[Neenie]

I whine too much, sorry

Don't apologize, we're here to listen

 

[charligirl]

To give encouragement to those who do desire to meet a mate....

Last year on Valentine's, I got on the train home from work and looked at all the men holding flowers and I started to cry. I just couldn't help it, the tears started rolling down my cheeks and I was powerless to stop them.

I fought the desire to run to the pub which was holding a disco (don't laugh, perfectly acceptable for a child of the 80's!!) my flesh wanted comfort and it wanted alcohol and a man to flirt with. Jesus spoke to my heart and told me to spend the evening with Him.

I sat at home, cried some more, opened my bible to psalm 56v8

8You number my wanderings;
Put my tears into Your bottle;
Are they not in Your book?

God was saying He saw me and recorded my tears, I mattered to Him

Well that evening broke something in my flesh because I stayed at home and didn't go out and drown my sorrows.... I didn't give in to the pull of wanting comfort from attention and flirting.... within 8 months I had met and married my husband. Who would have thought?

I was so upset last Valentine's, I had no idea what God had around the corner! SO enjoy your evening, whatever you do, because anything can happen when God is about!

 

[OceanAngel]

Don't apologize, we're here to listen

Thank you.

 

[RabidYeti]

(I'm gonna sit at home depressed to be another year alone )

Nah - Valentines day is just another way for the shops to earn money - in MY opinion

(Or just eat Ben and Jerrys - Thats good too )

 

[KLLM82]

As for me, for this Valentine's day I'm taking a trip to Oklahoma with one of my cousins to attend the Winter Bible Seminar at Rhema .

~Katia~

 

[Walk in Faith]

To give encouragement to those who do desire to meet a mate....

Last year on Valentine's, I got on the train home from work and looked at all the men holding flowers and I started to cry. I just couldn't help it, the tears started rolling down my cheeks and I was powerless to stop them.

I fought the desire to run to the pub which was holding a disco (don't laugh, perfectly acceptable for a child of the 80's!!) my flesh wanted comfort and it wanted alcohol and a man to flirt with. Jesus spoke to my heart and told me to spend the evening with Him.

I sat at home, cried some more, opened my bible to psalm 56v8

8You number my wanderings;
Put my tears into Your bottle;
Are they not in Your book?

God was saying He saw me and recorded my tears, I mattered to Him

Well that evening broke something in my flesh because I stayed at home and didn't go out and drown my sorrows.... I didn't give in to the pull of wanting comfort from attention and flirting.... within 8 months I had met and married my husband. Who would have thought?

I was so upset last Valentine's, I had no idea what God had around the corner! SO enjoy your evening, whatever you do, because anything can happen when God is about!

charligirl,

aww.. thats the bestest story ever. Praise God!

 

[sunshine]

thanks for the great story, charligirl!
unfortunately, I have to work on Valentines, which may be rather brutal. I'm dreading the inevitable flower deliveries and mushy phone calls (I have to listen to enough mushy phone calls every other day, I can't imagine what Saturday will be like!)
anyway, as I posted in another thread, on Valentine's Day (evening) I will either:
a) have a girl chick-flick night (with my single girl pals) and watch Pride & Prejudice
b) watch Pirates of the Caribbean all by me onesies (with a rum 'n coke or two)
c) babysit for a close family friend who has 3 kids

 

[KarateJack]

Man I hear ya on having the blues on V-Day.

I try to call my sister and family and wish them a Happy V-Day. I usually try to work that day so the others that are not single at work, can have a night with their sucnificant (sp?) other.