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You're talking to one.That's not a come on.
You should articulate a preference for marriage-minded women who desire to be stay-at-home mothers. That's the bigger goal. You need a certain disposition to be home full-time and thrive without complaint. Painting a picture is best. What does marriage to you entail? Show her.
Your profile should be concise and to the point. Speak her language. Show your romantic side and communicate vibrancy in your description. There's a stigma about staying home. So counter it. Mention travel and the adventures you'll have. That will resonate with the right type.
I didn't mention self-employment for a reason. The person willing to remain home with a child will have the discipline to run a business while doing so. Both require personal sacrifice.
Are you talking about meeting people on these forums?
No. If you're using other sites to form connections that's something to go on.
Gotcha, I appreciate the help
I wouldn't/don't text b/c I'm afraid. I do it b/c who I am. I want to communicate w/ a girl / people. I want to show affection that way. I want to be someone part of my life. I think good conversations can still come face-to-face even if you're texting too.A bunch of low value guys?
I'm not worried about them.
^ That's the attitude you must take throughout life; you can't be insecure about your position. Not ever. Because ultimately, good things come to those who are willing to put their balls on the line.
If you're meeting up with her, then you're meeting up with her. It's going to happen. So that's when you make your impression - on the day, with body language, engaging dialogue, good humour and confidence.
Don't sweat it between days. You let "another man" do that. By the time the date comes round it'll be a nice change for her to actually hear someone talk, as opposed to reading constant messages from chancers.
I wouldn't/don't text b/c I'm afraid. I do it b/c who I am. I want to communicate w/ a girl / people.
That's good you're not worried about it. It's just something to be aware of that could be going on.
I wouldn't/don't text b/c I'm afraid. I do it b/c who I am. I want to communicate w/ a girl / people. I want to show affection that way. I want to be someone part of my life. I think good conversations can still come face-to-face even if you're texting too.
Oooh, sounds interesting.For clarity, when I say 'confident' I really mean be the most YOU version of you there is. When you own what you are the confidence will come. Authenticity and confidence are the same thing in my eyes.
Do NOT be fake. Oh, boy do not be fake - that's the worst thing you can do. But DO approach from a position of self love - i.e. not looking for external validation by constantly jamming her phone.
Needed to add that. I don't want to sound like a douche bag dating coach.
Right, back to the flat earth threads.
22, Your life has barely begun. Love God love yourself and love others and all will fall into place.No offense taken.
What do you mean by not enough internal?
I very consistently attract nerdy women, which is my target demographic. I'm a wedding videographer, but I also like to make short films. So finding someone who is also interested in that field would be preferred. That is what makes things difficult.
I'm not opposed to dating someone who already has their own career or isn't very tech savvy, but those women aren't normally interested in a guy like me. It works out because I'm normally not interested in them either.
What bothers me more than anything is when I'm going out with someone, and they just drop off the face off the earth. I know that I'm not a perfect person, but if someone is going to lose interest I would genuinely like to know why. Everything was going well with the last girl I went out with, at least that's what I thought. Three dates later she was giving me positive feedback, and then...nothing.
I should also mention that I don't really date for fun. I date because I'm looking for a wife. That should scare a lot of people away, and I understand that. But when a 20 year old attractive women has seemingly endless choices when it comes to men at that age, it doesn't make sense from their perspective to settle down so quickly. The real issue comes into play when they turn 30.
Most of the weddings I film are couples in their early 30s or late 20s. The women that are marrying these men are almost always extremely attractive. The guys most of the time look like they've spent the last 10 years in their mothers basement. Out of shape, ugly, but nice men.
My hypothesis is that when these women were 20, because their options were endless, they could date whoever they wanted. But as time goes on, their options decrease. At the end, they're left with the guys at the bottom of the barrel who they would have never considered going out with 10 years ago. Because they want to start a family, they pick a guy who for all intensive purposes will never leave them.
I'm in the unique position of owning a small business, where I can take off whenever I want. If I wanted to ride around in a corvette I could, but it's not a wise decision. I have been told by many people that I'm very good natured, in the sense that I can get along with just about anybody.
The real kicker for me is that I feel like I'm being punished for making good decisions. The reason I work hard is so that I can have money to provide for a family. Except I don't have a family, so I have all this extra cash laying around that I end up spending on new cameras.
I very consistently attract nerdy women, which is my target demographic. I'm a wedding videographer, but I also like to make short films. So finding someone who is also interested in that field would be preferred. That is what makes things difficult.
I'm not opposed to dating someone who already has their own career or isn't very tech savvy, but those women aren't normally interested in a guy like me. It works out because I'm normally not interested in them either.
What bothers me more than anything is when I'm going out with someone, and they just drop off the face off the earth. I know that I'm not a perfect person, but if someone is going to lose interest I would genuinely like to know why. Everything was going well with the last girl I went out with, at least that's what I thought. Three dates later she was giving me positive feedback, and then...nothing.
I should also mention that I don't really date for fun. I date because I'm looking for a wife. That should scare a lot of people away, and I understand that. But when a 20 year old attractive women has seemingly endless choices when it comes to men at that age, it doesn't make sense from their perspective to settle down so quickly. The real issue comes into play when they turn 30.
Most of the weddings I film are couples in their early 30s or late 20s. The women that are marrying these men are almost always extremely attractive. The guys most of the time look like they've spent the last 10 years in their mothers basement. Out of shape, ugly, but nice men.
My hypothesis is that when these women were 20, because their options were endless, they could date whoever they wanted. But as time goes on, their options decrease. At the end, they're left with the guys at the bottom of the barrel who they would have never considered going out with 10 years ago. Because they want to start a family, they pick a guy who for all intensive purposes will never leave them.
I'm in the unique position of owning a small business, where I can take off whenever I want. If I wanted to ride around in a corvette I could, but it's not a wise decision. I have been told by many people that I'm very good natured, in the sense that I can get along with just about anybody.
The real kicker for me is that I feel like I'm being punished for making good decisions. The reason I work hard is so that I can have money to provide for a family. Except I don't have a family, so I have all this extra cash laying around that I end up spending on new cameras.
I am teetering myself, however, to find someone as nerdy as I am.
Although, I have known some women to be so into me that they'd be willing to take on the interests that I am in, even though they've never had an interest in them to begin with. That's been known to occur among couples, too.
They're not common, no. I think that's one of the reasons why you see so many singles. The men are too nerdy & likewise want a female nerd; the women aren't as nerdy & the men are too nerdy.Are nerdy women commonplace? I don’t meet many.
I love going to sporting events. She doesn't have to be as a sports-fan herself as I am, but she should be willing to go to some games/events.I’m willing to try something new. I won’t like everything he’s into but there’s other ways to participate.
For instance, I no longer follow football but tailgating is fine or game nights for other sports. I’ll handle the food and he can spend time with friends.
We can go to live events too. I don’t mind sitting through a game. I understand basketball, baseball, hockey, etc. And there’s others I still enjoy.
I think he's exagerrating that.I am taking a guess that these men that were men they had friendzone (10 years ago), then later decided "He was there ALL ALONG!" and married said guy.
Now, I am kind of baffled that these women are VERY attractive women marrying these unkempt guys though. I kind of envy them. lol Can you send these ladies my way? LOL j/k
I am guessing you live in a smaller town/demographic where the options are stuck to those guys alone?
They're not common, no. I think that's one of the reasons why you see so many singles. The men are too nerdy & likewise want a female nerd; the women aren't as nerdy & the men are too nerdy.
Not that women don't have nerdy interests themselves, they're just not AS NERDY as the men, tho many are, of course. I just think it's a smaller %.
Oh gosh, I really have to watch what I say......I really don't mean this to hurt anyone. I just think the discrepancy is there.
What are some things a woman would like a man would have to 'put up w/?'
I think he's exagerrating that.
I also think the things many of them are 'nerdy' about, aren't the same as what men tend to be nerdy about.I don't believe most women are nerdy. I wouldn't call our quirkiness nerdy. It's a different vibe.
I like a lot of thoseChick flicks, shopping, giving positive feedback on her appearance, empathizing with beauty fails/mistakes, product obsession (please bring the right one!), taste tester (for food), sharing feelings, being a sounding board for her friends or hearing it from her, non sexual touch, religious coupling (prayer, bible study, devotionals), and date nights.
I also think the things many of them are 'nerdy' about, aren't the same as what men tend to be nerdy about.
I like a lot of those
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