To whoever is out there,
I am currently with this super cool, super cute, surfer dude. I mean he is sweet, he surfs, and he has long hair (very scruffy). We met at school and became instant friends, we mostly just surfed together and complained about homework, we even went to prom together (as friends). However, I never actually asked if he was saved, but I assumed he was. All the signs indicated it, he took me to bible study (encouraged me to go) hung out at school with the "christians", went to morning bible sessions at our high school, had a sister at a christian college, he even had a lisence plate frame with Jerimiah 29:11.
So when he asked me out ( on 4/20 of all days) I thought why not. Aside, from the fact that I was not allowed to date, I couldn't think of a reason. I mean I was 16 now, and my folks had been moving up the age to date every year since I was 13, by the rate they were goin I would never have a boyfriend til I was 47.
But anyway, against my better judgement I started goin out with him. We kept it on the DL for a week, but then the guilt was to much and I told my parents and begged for their approval or just acceptance. After a long drawn out disscussion it was ok. So then I thought all was right in the relationship. We then made it public, and everyone thought we were such a "cute couple". But basically after four months of dating we are basically just friends who hold hands.
I still had never officially asked him about his walk in the Lord, and just went on quessing he was "saved". During the summer we went to the harvest crusade and went up at alter call together, mine was a rededication, and I think so was his. So after that he went to my youth group a few times but stopped because of "football practice".
However he has told me that in his past he used to burn, drink, party. And all the "christians" I knew at school weren't exactly walking the straight and narrow either. In fact i am probably the only "christian virgin girl" on campus according to him. Not that he is trying to change that...he in fact is very gentlemenly and is proud that i'm a "goody to shoes". but he has not done any drugs since we've been together and is always turning down ppl to do things he knows I don't approve of. But he still goes to hotel parties just as a social thing, and invites me when he already knows the answer.
He is still a great guy, but I don't know if he is a "wing or a weight" when it comes to my personal walk. i've talked to my friends from church and school, and even my youth pastor about it...the only person I haven't is my boyfriend.
My pastor and a good christian friend confronted me together, and told me it was not a good match, and that even though I witnessed him saying the sinners prayer, he has not shown any interest in growing past that, and that meant I was "unequally yoked" and needed to break it off, b/c it is a sin.
I admit there may be truth in that since I haven't been praying or in my word much since then. I really don't know what to do or I do know but don't know how to do it. Please can you give me advice, or a scrripture, or something to aid in my dession. i so confussed b/c i like him a lot most of the time, but at times wish we were still just good friends.
