Truths

[DragonFox91]

It is bad today

 

[DragonFox91]

I feel better. It is wrong to be upset about b/c it is to doubt God's goodness & I don't do that.

 

[peaceful-forest]

Truth: a non-Christian man is a turn off.

 

[DragonFox91]

Today I was reading 1 Timothy & Christians (who want to) are encouraged to get married there as well.

 

[DragonFox91]

I am depressed right now. I wanted to cry. No matter what I do it doesn't work

 

[DragonFox91]

I am sad. I feel like I failed. I feel like you have to get married young or you're a failure.

 

[DragonFox91]

I am trying to think better. God is good.

Even when we don't think he is.

 

[LoveDivine]

I am sad. I feel like I failed. I feel like you have to get married young or you're a failure.

It's best to accept your circumstances. I accepted my life years ago and it's given me a lot of peace. There are no guarantees in life and many of us will have sorrows, unfulfilled dreams, and struggles. That is sadly what life in a fallen world is. But in all of that, we also also have Christ and we can't consider our lives to be a failure if we have that hope of eternal life and something better. So long as you love God and have obtained Christ you haven't failed. You've actually conquered this life.

 

[DragonFox91]

My goodness it's bad right now.

It's best to accept your circumstances. I accepted my life years ago and it's given me a lot of peace. There are no guarantees in life and many of us will have sorrows, unfulfilled dreams, and struggles. That is sadly what life in a fallen world is. But in all of that, we also also have Christ and we can't consider our lives to be a failure if we have that hope of eternal life and something better. So long as you love God and have obtained Christ you haven't failed. You've actually conquered this life.

What did you not want to accept?

 

[DragonFox91]

I want to cry. It is very bad.

 

[DragonFox91]

The truth is it is wrong to think because you don’t get married young you won’t get married.
It also does take time.
I've only been going to this Group since July. It's not good to get a girlfriend in 3 months! That'd be rushing it -> good things NOT rushed!

 

[LoveDivine]

My goodness it's bad right now.

What did you not want to accept?

Lots of things. Not all my plans for life fell into place. I also hoped to be married by this age. I've accepted that didn't happen. On the flip side, I've also experienced blessings that I didn't expect. I've given up trying to make this life into any certain type of life. That determination to have a certain life creates turmoil and anxiety ( when you don't see it coming to fruition, but you are determined to make it happen). It's much easier to surrender your whole future to God and to focus on spiritual things. This life isn't ultimately about success, marriage, etc. It's about following Christ and serving him as best as you can in whatever state you are. Not finding a spouse may be hard and sad for you, but that is not failure.

 

[Tranquil Bondservant]

I am sad. I feel like I failed. I feel like you have to get married young or you're a failure.

My brother my heart breaks for you but I want to let you know that is not the case. Look to the heroes of our Faith, Paul didn't marry for example. Paul was deemed a failure by the world, he was poor, thrown in prison (which at the time incurred a massive shameful prejudice against you), beaten, stoned and reject by the Church families he helped set up in the name of The Lord. He was abandoned by men, had no children and died as a criminal of the Roman Empire. He was the epitome of what the society at the time deemed a failure. Paul's life and ministry was vindicated by and rooted in the Lord Jesus Christ. Your Saviour, The God-Man who lived, suffered and died for you, did not marry. The standards of the world do indeed deem us Christians as a failure in many things, however, if you are in Christ your standards for successfulness is now not based upon your ability to have a relationship or anything of the like, but instead The Kingdom of God. What God deems successful is what determines your failure or non-failure. If you are in Christ you are far more successful than anyone else in this world. You will live eternally with your Maker and you will exist in peace and tranquility without any fear or death forever. You get to experience the love of God and The Holy Spirit while you are here breathing. You get to read Scripture and see God's working throughout all of History; you're even personally mentioned in there as a child of Abraham, as one who will inherit the promises of God. The succesfulnes off God, i.e. the Gospel, will produce more than envy in those who are not in Christ that deem you a failure based upon the standards of our current society my friend.

Psalm 112:9-10
"He has distributed freely; He has given to the poor;
His righteousness endures forever;
His horn is exalted in honor.
The wicked man sees it and is angry;
he gnashes his teeth and melts away;
the desire of the wicked will perish!"​

My inbox is always open and if you desire to message me and want to have a chat then please do mate. If you decide to I may not be able to respond immediately because of timezone differences but I will get back to you asap. God bless .

 

[DragonFox91]

I'm not clear Paul was unmarried, but definitely he was rejected everywhere he went but knew he had great victory regardless.

It just gets hard sometimes

I am not saying others say I failed. I am saying I failed period. No one ever told me I'm a loser or failure for not getting married. I think that on my own.

 

[DragonFox91]

"Show me your ways, Lord. Teach me your paths. Guide me in your truth & teach me, for you are God my Savior, & my hope is in you all day long."
Psalm 25

 

[Tranquil Bondservant]

I'm not clear Paul was unmarried, but definitely he was rejected everywhere he went but knew he had great victory regardless.

It just gets hard sometimes

I am not saying others say I failed. I am saying I failed period. No one ever told me I'm a loser or failure for not getting married. I think that on my own.

Brother Paul was definitely unmarried "I wish that all were as I myself am. But each has his own gift from God, one of one kind and one of another. To the unmarried and the widows I say that it is good for them to remain single, as I am." (1 Corinthians 7:7-8). I wasn't necessarily saying that anyone in particular has called you a failure, only that your feelings of failure comes from the society you have grown up and lived in. We as Christians live differently to the world with different values, standards and conduct for ourselves. For example, those who choose the path of celibacy would be deemed a failure too; however, if they're doing it for Christ then they would not be a failure in the eyes of God and shouldn't be in the eyes of any Christian if that makes sense.

 

[peaceful-forest]

I am sad. I feel like I failed. I feel like you have to get married young or you're a failure.

I had a similar attitude about being successful with work and money. I had been convinced by the Boomers that if you didn't get a good job and make big money after graduating college, you were a failure. And there was no recovery of that. I don't believe that anymore, seeing that God can dramatically change lives around (He certainly changed mine around!) and that there's evidence of others being able to be successful later in life.

 

[DragonFox91]

I had a similar attitude about being successful with work and money. I had been convinced by the Boomers that if you didn't get a good job and make big money after graduating college, you were a failure. And there was no recovery of that. I don't believe that anymore, seeing that God can dramatically change lives around (He certainly changed mine around!) and that there's evidence of others being able to be successful later in life.

Since I know you don't like boomers, here's more:
They think it's all about material possession.
Yes, they think college is most important. People are starting to turn away from college tho (anti-God, very expensive, largely worthless, just a giant vacation / daycare for people in their 20s to drink & do drugs)
They also think the world is still very largely Christian &, although certain few people may not be Christian, they think most people still follow God's truths
They're very closed-minded in regards to other perceptions. I don't mean 'open-minded' as is used by mainstream like open to queer stuff, but, for example, to kind of go off material possession, if I said I wanted to live a life of very little possession, I'd be called 'weird' or 'wrong.' There's other examples too. That's just one that popped into my head.
Older adults living w/ their parents is another. If the older adult isn't being a leech, but is actively taking part in the running of the household....what good is shipping that person off to live alone? Boomers incorrectly stress 'independence' at the cost of 'co-dependence,' confusing 'co-dependence' w/ 'dependence'.
Many Boomers are very trusting of 'professionials.'
Many coddle younger generations & wonder why we're so upset when one little thing doesn't go right when we get older

 

[DragonFox91]

I know I will get married. I just don't know when. It might be when I'm 99 for all I know. If it doesn't happen in life, I am convinced it happens for me in the New Creation

 

[DragonFox91]

It gets sad

It makes you feel like you lost