Truths

[DragonFox91]

TRUTH: Luck is a lie. Fortune is a lie. Chance is a lie. Nothing happens without God having ordained it. It's a victim mentality.

 

[DragonFox91]

It's not enough to say everything happens for a reason. Rather, they happen in the way they need to happen.

 

[DragonFox91]

I believe the truth is often very simple. God knows the desires of our hearts and that includes marriage. I think a single person really just needs to focus on loving God and developing a deeper relationship with him and making their petitions / wishes for a spouse in prayer. There are definitely ways we can improve our lives while we are still single, but I don't think we need to view singleness as some quest to become deserving of the right partner. I think that overcomplicates things and can become a trap for self-importance and thinking too highly of ourselves.

I was thinking yesterday of your post & an incorrect judgement I was making in regards to an individual: we need to be careful we don't act like Job's friends who thought the calamities that occurred to Job happened b/c he had some hidden sin, what he was or was not doing right. God is not restricted to patterns & his work cannot be contained or mapped out.

 

[DragonFox91]

When God begins something, the end is already done to him.

 

[DragonFox91]

One truth of those videos that stands out to me is the man’s body is designed for giving. Pagan thought says it’s “designed” for dominating, control, & (they don’t spell it out like this b/c the word is foreign to them,, but) selfishness. Both in relationships to Woman & other men.

The other thought I was thinking is it’s been corrupted the other way too. Where men want to over-give where it’s like it’s just a giant competition of who can give the most. There is good in giving abundance, but what is the real motivation, I wonder. If the motivation isn't right (the heart isn't there), you're no better than the one giving none. & giving materially to Woman is one thing, do you give love to the unwelcome, the outcast, your enemy (the one it's hard for you to do?)

 

[DragonFox91]

Not marrieds are told ‘if you’re not happy single, you won’t be happy married.’

But there’s part they leave out, the part I had never heard until recently:

“When you’re not happy & not married, it’s 1 person not happy. When you’re not happy & married, it’s 2 people not happy. You're giving her unhappiness & it will not last.’

I knew this part: she cannot be your foundation for happiness.

It just wasn’t clicking why

 

[DragonFox91]

I was so excited last night I couldn’t sleep! .......but for how we could serve God, how we could be witnesses! & how you can be even w/out her!

 

[DragonFox91]

There's a good metaphor in football. Some are handed the football, other players have to catch it. But you're still one team. It's like the Body Paul talks about.

Most people when they talk about sports references talk about how you're all contributing towards one goal & have to rely onthers. There stop the metaphor there. 'Reliance on others.' But there's more. It's deeper than that. There's individual circumstances too. Some are given break-aways. Some are given a more favorable schedules. Some teams have to deal w/ injuries. It's what you do w/ your circumstance. This is in pagan philosphy too, but Christians recognize the source of the circumstance & praise Him for it & rejoice in the bad circumstance too.

The running back is handed the ball but many times gets stuffed. He loses yards. He drops the ball. He can drop the ball! The passing game is riskier. He doesn't catch it. Sometimes he just misses it, sometimes it's the QB or defender. But when he does catch it, it's often for big yards. He doesn't just get handed the ball, but the backs don't have it easy either.

So the truth is; just b/c you're 'handed' something, that doesn't mean you have it easy, don't have to work for it, or guarantee anything.

 

[DragonFox91]

Notes from another one of Miss Bella's videos:

How to Love Your Wife relevant for Singles b/c we cannot do what we do not know how!
Husband is asked to live & act like the Lord. Love his wife like Christ does the church. Guides wife, lays his life down, makes her holy, cleanses her, etc.
Husband loses his right of authority over wife when he is not the head of her like Christ is the head of the church
Lay life means to deny selfish gratification
Christ stepped down from glory (laid down his life) & makes church holy, & husband asked to love wife like Christ loves his bride, so husband asked to make wife holy w/ the Word
Christ makes his bride holy so he can present them before the Father clean. Husband asked to make his bride holy so he can present her to the Father clean. Sanctify her.
God isn’t concerned how much ‘stuff’ you gave her. Can you support her w/ the Word when she’s stressed & anxious. Qualified when you can teach woman the Word. How much Word can you give her. Qualifications: not age, not work, not independent.
She is a gift from God. Her value is determined by the Giver.
She is set aside (no one else’s) because you are sanctifying her.
You don’t speak evil, you don’t get violent – sanctified means to cherish. She is God’s property
If you love your wife any way other than Christ loves the church, you do not love her
Th love of God is only found in our hearts by the Holy Spirit. Until a man has the Holy Spirit, he does not have the love of God. Imitations
We are all individual parts of the Body of Christ. So when you marry, you are marrying another part of the body! So if you don’t treat her right, you are not treating your body right! .But you are also both part of the Body of Christ so you are not treating Christ right!
You become one flesh, not one spirit. You already have one spirit b/c you are believers. You each got one spirit when you accepted the Spirit.
“You shall leave your parents”. Does not say parents leave you (or parents s/ leave their children). Parents s/ store up for children & children’s children. Provide for your children
Honor & respect not same as obey. If husband asks wife to do things not in the Lord, or asks children to do things not in the Lord, the answer is no. Each individual is under God’s authority
In the Old Testament God promises long lives to those who obey their parents who are in him. It’s a commandment with a promise
As long as you are not married & are living in parent’s home, you are called to help them, b/c you are living under their authority
Parent supposed to prepare child for independence when they create a new family with God’s Word as foundation

 

[DragonFox91]

Saturday morning's are the hardest......

 

[aNewMan]

>We know marriage doesn't satisfy.

Yeah, I’m sure some people here like myself would like to trade in singles problems for married problems so we can start posting in the married section posting complaints of things the spouse does that we don’t like. Okay, I kid I kid.

 

[aNewMan]

Truth: NO ONE is involuntarily single

There are few people like that unfortunately.

 

[aNewMan]

Truth: The age you have children is no guarantee of a healthy child.


This is true, but an older woman having what’s considered a geriatric pregnancy is a huge risk. It’s a bigger factor than the Man’s age.

 

[aNewMan]

I used to envy married people, but not anymore because most marriages aren’t “great”. Now I only envy people who are in a great marriage. Things aren’t what they seem from the outside and people looking from the outside.

 

[aNewMan]

I always have a problem with the phrase “the Experts say” oh yeah? Show me the Experts first, consider the source. I don’t fall in line easily.

 

[bèlla]

Saturday morning's are the hardest......

I'm glad to see you're enjoying the videos and hope you're blessed by his wisdom and knowledge.

I am working my way through the planning series. It's insightful and equally edifying. You'll be strengthened by applying what you've heard and getting a vision on paper as a starting point. You're discovering the why and how through biblical teachings. The who will become less mysterious when you view it in light of the pair.

With that in mind, here's a wonderful message for the weekend. She quotes two authors I'll share below. May the Lord bless and keep you. Stay strong.

My life is not to be characterized by false starts, fad diets, flashy gimmicks or flashes of discipline followed by long periods of self-indulgence or neglect. Life management is characterized by a long sustained steady pace. --Elizabeth George

If the thing is worth doing at all it is worth doing well and in little things as well as great we must show that we are in earnest. There must be no idling but a girding up of the loins. A running the race with patience. The warring of a good warfare. Steadfastness and perseverance. Always abounding in the work of the Lord.

The flowers are constant in their growing. The stars are constant in their courses. The rivers are constant in their flowing. They lose no time. So must our life be. Not one of fits or starts or random impulses. Not one of levity or inconsistency or fickle scheming. But steady and resolute. The life of men who know their earthly mission and have their eye upon the heavenly goal. --Horatius Bonar

 

[DragonFox91]

Church group still going well. At this point it's establishing yourself as a 'all one' man in the church. Woman comes after you do that. There's some options I know & talk to a bit but not pushing it. She finds you, you don't find her, but you have to be doing things right.

 

[DragonFox91]

Another thought on 'one body, many parts': Different parts of the body are called to work at different times. Some work all the time but you don't notice them. Some rest while others are working, then the ones working take rest, & the ones resting start working.

I had always viewed it as 'different parts do different things', but there is much, much more than that.

 

[DragonFox91]

You have to ask God if you would like one, for she comes from him.

or he if you are woman

 

[DragonFox91]

I’m so tired of people saying ‘oh you can just meet one at church.’ Meeting one at church? Yeah right! They always find them outside of church

& women defending they don’t like the men @ church & are more interested in secular men in 3……2………..1………

Sorry, I'm upset this morning. I am sad.