- Oct 21, 2018
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Hello all.
Up until this summer, there was not a group for "young adults" in my church. There was a youth group for those from ages 12 to 18 but after you graduated high school, there was no group. I was seriously feeling the lack of this as I had begun to realize that I have no Christian friends and no body to walk with on my journey in Christ. So it felt like a blessing from God when this wonderful young man came to our church. He was so passionate, so fired up about starting a young adult group that will minister to the lost, help us grow in Christ, and show the world that the Christian youth are still active and very much alive. I was ecstatic! This was what I needed!
Unfortunately, the group has fallen miserably short of those expectations. At first it started out well but it dwindled. Now this is what the group does when they meet: they come into the basement of the church, they ask for prayer requests, they pray, they watch a video of Robert Morris doing one of his sermons, and then they play games. The game to "Bible study" ratio is...sad. The only reason I'm sure they all go is for the games. There is no ministering. No growing. I seem to be the only person who feels let down so my suggestions are ignored. The group is nothing like I prayed it would be. There's no going out and being the church. So I have excused myself from being a part of the group because frankly I was depressed and just so, so disappointed and frustrated. It started out so wonderful and I couldn't understand why God would let it flop like this!
So now it's been about a month since I stopped going and mind you the members of the group no longer check up on me or ask how things are. No surprise there...
But I don't wish to be bitter. My father has lived his life with a smile on his face in public, only to come home and rant in bitterness and anger. He never speaks up when it counts. And I don't want to live that way. I believe God has placed words on my heart to say to the boy who started this group and I want to say them.
My question is, how do I do this in a loving way when I'm coming from a place of frustration? I don't want to be angry and I don't want to put all the blame on him (though he is to blame for lots of complacency in that group!). I want to come from a place of concern and love. How do you suggest that I go about this? Is this even something worth bringing up? Sometimes I feel I'm the only one who thinks this way and I'm worried maybe there's just something wrong with me.
And finally, what do I do if they don't want to change? How do I cope with this?
Thank you all for any suggestions and advice. I'm very new to this "confrontation" thing, as I've been raised to be passive aggressive rather than address things head on. I'm trying, though, and Lord willing the message will get through!
Up until this summer, there was not a group for "young adults" in my church. There was a youth group for those from ages 12 to 18 but after you graduated high school, there was no group. I was seriously feeling the lack of this as I had begun to realize that I have no Christian friends and no body to walk with on my journey in Christ. So it felt like a blessing from God when this wonderful young man came to our church. He was so passionate, so fired up about starting a young adult group that will minister to the lost, help us grow in Christ, and show the world that the Christian youth are still active and very much alive. I was ecstatic! This was what I needed!
Unfortunately, the group has fallen miserably short of those expectations. At first it started out well but it dwindled. Now this is what the group does when they meet: they come into the basement of the church, they ask for prayer requests, they pray, they watch a video of Robert Morris doing one of his sermons, and then they play games. The game to "Bible study" ratio is...sad. The only reason I'm sure they all go is for the games. There is no ministering. No growing. I seem to be the only person who feels let down so my suggestions are ignored. The group is nothing like I prayed it would be. There's no going out and being the church. So I have excused myself from being a part of the group because frankly I was depressed and just so, so disappointed and frustrated. It started out so wonderful and I couldn't understand why God would let it flop like this!
So now it's been about a month since I stopped going and mind you the members of the group no longer check up on me or ask how things are. No surprise there...
But I don't wish to be bitter. My father has lived his life with a smile on his face in public, only to come home and rant in bitterness and anger. He never speaks up when it counts. And I don't want to live that way. I believe God has placed words on my heart to say to the boy who started this group and I want to say them.
My question is, how do I do this in a loving way when I'm coming from a place of frustration? I don't want to be angry and I don't want to put all the blame on him (though he is to blame for lots of complacency in that group!). I want to come from a place of concern and love. How do you suggest that I go about this? Is this even something worth bringing up? Sometimes I feel I'm the only one who thinks this way and I'm worried maybe there's just something wrong with me.
And finally, what do I do if they don't want to change? How do I cope with this?
Thank you all for any suggestions and advice. I'm very new to this "confrontation" thing, as I've been raised to be passive aggressive rather than address things head on. I'm trying, though, and Lord willing the message will get through!