I havent read the rest of this thread just wanted to say maybe the initial evidence to look for isnt tongues.. when God delivered me I also no longer spoke in tongues.. counterfeit ones are real folks not saying that was what I had but I no longer spoke in tongues... so yes I personally think evidence of receiving the Holy Spirit manifests itself in Love first and foremost because thats who God is.
I fully agree that the initial evidence that someone had allowed the Lord into their life, or even being filled with the Spirit, is not speaking in tongues!!! I'm not sure we can say it is love either, althought certainly there must be an increase of love in someone when the Lord comes into their life.
First of all, tongues is a gift, and must you receive a gift, unless of course the gift is the person who you get to know. Jesus Christ is called Jesus because He is God's salvation. So if we have received Jesus Christ and ask Him to be our Lord, then we have received God's free gift of salvation, but Jesus sends the Spirit and the gifts are gifts of the Spirit, and it is possible to be filled with the Spirit and not speak in tongues.
Before the Spirit came like fire with the gift of tongues, there were various recordings of the Spirit coming upon someone and even filling someone, and they didn't speak in tongues. The other gifts of the Spirit were usually if not always on display, such as miracles, prophecy, wisdom, etc.
We are saved by faith and faith comes from hearing, thus the indication that you are saved would be hearing and acting upon what the Lord says to you.
Now I want to mention that God is Sprit and the Word is God, so I am talking about hearing Him with our spiritual ears and it seems evident that many people hear Him by getting impression from Him and not by actually being able to pick up those impression as an actual voice.
The second point I want to make is that everyone thinks they are right in their own mind. I have meet people that feel themselves to be very loving people, and even appeared that way to me, who were clearly into witchcraft! They were even casting spells, reading tarot cards, raising herbs to assist in the spell, so they didn't know my Lord, but they felt themselves to be wonderful loving people. What seems like love is not always love, and what seems cruel is not always cruel.
Reproof and discipline almost always seem cruel, but are they? If I see a strange dog run out into the street, I try to avoid the dog, but I don't go over and try to scold the dog for doing it, or try to chain up the dog to protect it. Yet the owner that cares for the dog might certainly do those things. So love is not always revealed by our judgements and our understanding, and may even be hardest to discern in ourselves.
A third point I would like to make, is that it is written; 'faith, hope, love, the greatest of these is love'. I believe this is a progression. That is to say, I believe that you must first have faith [and that comes from hearing the Lord] then you aquire hope that indeed God does exists and that He cares for you, and finally you aquire love and God is love.
You see this when a scribe goes up to Jesus and asks Him what the greatest commandment is. Jesus replies by saying, "HEAR, O ISREAL"... [This is a commandment to hear and faith comes from hearing],... "THE LORD YOUR GOD IS ONE" [This is a statement of hope that we personally have one God],... "AND YOU SHALL LOVE THE LORD YOUR GOD WITH ALL YOUR HEART...ect" [This is a conclusion, so it starts with hearing with faith and the conclusion is love]
So what does the gift of tongues have to do with the progression of faith, hope, and love? Tongues is a gift of the Spirit, and while valuable in numerous ways [and my point in this thread is that tongues is most valuable in reminding us to listen to the voice of the Lord], the gift of tongues in itself is not necessary to knowing the Lord. However, it is written to desire the gifts, and that is an instruction from the Lord.